letting her know...

[JohnnyKeg20]

Sup guys! I have a question for you all. How do you guys let a girl know that you like her without scaring her off. Would you guys tell her flat out ? Or would you try to do it a little bit at a time ? Because we all know once you stick your neck out there and let her know, there's no turning back, it'll make or break it with her. But what if you really value a friendship with her but really want to date her as well, what then ? Cause once you tell her things will never be the same ya know ? You uys gotta have some techniques and hidden tricks up your sleeves, please share. Thanxs!

 

[mystic03]

please provide more info, like if your getting signals from her or for how long have you known each other, what kind of relationship you have, common things, etc....

 

[RKTek]

Never, ever, EVER tell a girl you like her.

Never tell a girl your real feelings.

Never tell a girl what you're really thinking.

NEVER.

The only time you might say something to her is if you've been dating for at least 3 or 4 months and she's said she likes you, or she "loves" you several times and under duress you finally respond IN KIND.

But....

The true DJ rarely gives gifts. His presence is gift enough. If she demands gifts or money to 'prove' you're worthy, you need to get a different girl.

The true DJ rarely professes his like, love or any other emotions. Actions speak louder than words. He's still calling her and asking her out which proves interest louder than any word.

Keep quiet and keep asking her out. And as long as she goes with you, it's a done deal.

 

[FlyGuy]

If you aren't in an LTR, don't say anything. Simply SHOW it.

IMHO this rule changes when you get into an LTR with a girl. You should occasionally(can't stress that enough) profess your love and do nice things like buy her flowers or give her a card. But they should not be gifts that you use to make up for a fight (for example), just do it because you want to.

 

[mystic03]

like the guys here already said, NEVER tell her how you feel about her, but still provide some info and I'll try to help you, I just tried to get closer to a friend of mine and failed, it's very difficult to get romantically involved with a friend it usually works when the girl shows interest first not the other way around, but still it's not impossible and with the proper aproach you can maximise your chances.... rememer provide us with more info...

 

[xblitz44x]

I personally take a different side then Flyguy and RkTek. I'm not saying one is wrong or better than another, it's just what I prefer...

I do what I want. When I want to do it. But in your case I don't think it would do you any good to 'tell her' that you like her. I would say that I'd like to take her out to get something to eat. If she accepts then say "Good, we'll have fun. I'm starting to like you". That'll work just fine. Or you could go overboard and say something like:

"Hey, I have a feeling we're going to get married. And when we're 80, still holding hands and talking about our first date, I want to make sure it was really great. So lets figure out something really really exciting to do tonight, because who knows I might propose to you"

Some "DJ"s are probably gasping as they read this...but that's the difference between them and I. My advice is to do what you want, and say what you want - just avoid being too serious about it ONLY because it might make her feel a little uncomfortable that you're so forward. If the attraction is there, just roll with it and make something happen. If it's not you'll know because she'll make bullshyt exuses as to why she can't go out. Remember that girls who are REALLY interested in you HELP you plan dates...

-Blitz

 

[FlyGuy]

"Good, we'll have fun. I'm starting to like you".

Blitz, what you posted is quite different from a guy holding his girlfriend of one month's hand and telling her that he is falling in love with her and how special she is etc. I like your approach because it still says "I like you" but not in some sappy pathetic way. To me they are not the same, even though they convey a similar message.

 

[Sojourner]

How do girls know that we like them?

Well, females are intuitive creatures with a 6th sense that tells them if a guy likes them. A gal knows it when a guy:

- approaches her and asks her for the phone number.
- phones her up and plans a date together.
- kisses her.
- asks her out for a 2nd date, a third date, etc.
- is nervous around her, is all sweaty and blushes.
- buys her gifts.
- tells her he can't live without her.
- talks about marriage.
- fixes his gaze at her even when there's a bevy of HBs around.
- phones her to chat for hours upon hours on end.
- wants to spend every waking minute with her.

Most of the above are AFCish and will turn a girl off. A DJ who asks a girl out, has loads of fun with her, makes her laugh and feel good all over will unquestionably signal to the gal that he likes her a lot, otherwise he would not be spending his precious time with her.