Letting her know

[hashman]

ok to start off, im new around here, but am pretty experienced in the game and sarging, so you can speak to me normally and dont have to suggest i read "magic bullets' or whatever , my question is this, there is this HB ive been gaming for awhile, and shes given me LOTS of ioi's, ive known her for awhile, but i have demonstrated to be quite the challenge and am still getting the iois, she still initiates all the conversations, and gives me lots of kino, she treats me much different then guys shes LJBF'd, so im not worried that im here. What i want to do, is let her know im interested in her, theres not much i can ask her out to do, i dont have too many options, and would rather just let her know im interested in her. I have been thinking of waiting till the weekend where i can escalate to a kiss if we are both somewhere together like a party. However i have been thinking this might not be a great idea. I am probably going to have to tell her face to face and not over the internet like msn etc, so i dont know how im going to isolate her during the week to tell her this, and im not too sure how to tell her, i dont want to say "i like you" as this feels pretty afc, but i dont know how to tell her, i was thinking of saying something a little more alpha like "listen, i like you, you like me, why dont we start seeing eachother.' this doesnt really feel like its too good though, so im hoping someone has something better to say, if anybody could help me it would be greatly appreciated. (i know alot of details are left out, basically i know she likes me she gives me way too many iois otherwise and has never specifically told me "ljbf')

 

[HandyAndy]

Dont tell her your interested, show it. Actions speak louder than words, make eye contact and use kino on her.

 

[hashman]

yea, thats what my instinct tells me, i have been kinoing her, and showing her i like her, but it hasnt worked to well, this weekend at a party (She was sober and had to go home early, i was a little tipsy but still normal) i tried to isolate and she gave me a puzzled look, its weird she isnt too receptive to my kino, and i dont get too many chances to kino in school casually, but she kinos me all the time! for example, after i kinod her and tried to isolate her at the party, she probably knew my intentions, and if she didnt like me she wouldnt have initiated conversation the next day, we had a good convo with lots of rapport etc, and today at school she talked to me and kino'd me. i had a feeling telling her would be pretty afc but it feels as if this is the only option right now (Btw if your still going to say i should just let my actions speak, should i be smiling when i talk to her or when she kinos me?

 

[hashman]

sorry for the double post i couldnt edit, i was thinking maybe (theres a party this friday, i could escalate kino/isolate to a kiss there) saying "What are you doing this weekend" Hb: "blah blah blah" "so and so is having a party this friday, your coming" would this be good? Or should i straight up tell her im interested (Again how should i do this if this is what you suggest?

 

[LostAndConfused]

Is there a chance that shes setting you up for the kill (i.e: the lets just be friends talk)? This girl that I'm in the friend-zone (i dont care, im not attracted to her and I dont do her any favors either) always does kino on me, but isn't receptive to mine, whenever I care to do so. I mean its just a possibility...

 

[HandyAndy]

Im not a really big DJ, so i dont have much advice to give other than the basics, you could wait for some better advice cuz I dont know what to tell you lol.

 

[hashman]

it is a possibility, but i REALLY doubt it, she treats me much different compared to other guys shes LJBF'd, like shed had to be one weird ***** to be ljbf'ing me and i think she would have said something by now, just this weekend, she invited me to go to a party with like her friends her group. I dont have a cell and she even called my friend who she LJBF who she NEVER calls to ask if we were coming (we being most likely me, i told her earlier id be coming with this person.) i dont care if she is id rather find out anyways my question is how should i go about this. I was thinking of that idea, telling her to come to the party, also she goes home during lunch at school i was thinking of telling her to stay for them, this way she knows im interested up until the weekend and i can game her/kino/eye contact etc her more that way, because other then this i only see her for a bit and school and most of our contact is done over msn. Should i do this? or just tell her shes coming to the party

 

[LostAndConfused]

Well if shes not LJBFing you and you guys show reciprocating interest and kino in each other, I don't see why you don't just ask her out, as sometimes waiting too long causes her to set her interest on other guys (and her "out" would be to LJBF you).

But someone more experienced might disagree.

 

[hashman]

well this is the point of my post, how should i ask her "out" i have no where to take her, i WOULD just invite her to my house but thats off limits my house is dirty beyond my repair for the time being, (dont ask lol.) I wish i could just ask her as this would be the ultimate test that would convey my interest but i cant have her over, and im 99% sure she would come too, so it sucks. I cant drive either so its not like i can drive her to the movies or anything, what should i do

 

[LostAndConfused]

Hmm, dating is pretty hard because you cant drive (I should know, I'm in the same boat), but you could just ask her if she wants to hit up a movie, then tell her to just meet you there and have someone drop you off.

Or, just hook up with her at that party you were talking about.

 

[Rata Blanca]

Hmm, dating is pretty hard because you cant drive (I should know, I'm in the same boat), but you could just ask her if she wants to hit up a movie, then tell her to just meet you there and have someone drop you off.

Or, just hook up with her at that party you were talking about.

Or Maybe you get lucky and she goes to your house and pick you up

 

[hashman]

she doesnt drive either

 

[Eugene123]

DUDE! the same **** happened to me pretty recently. I screwed it up because i didn't do anything. because im always busy on the weekends, and i didn't have a car or anything... YEAh... So i think the best thing to do is set up a date like something like hey lets go the park and have an adventure!!! and well see where it goes from there... or some **** like that. or be like

Hey your attractive to me, lets hang out. and maybe if your lucky, you'll score with me... some **** like that.

 

[The Forms]

PLEASE don't call her and just TELL her you like her and want to date her. Because she won't know how to react to that. You never want to just put a woman on the spot. You wrote about saying something along the lines of, 'hey, I like you, you like me, let's date."

Put yourself in her shoes and think about how she would most likely react. She'd think, "crap. This guy totally just put me on the spot. How do I respond? I mean, I like him, but I was thinking something more along the lines of we get together and have dinner and a movie or something. He's doing this all out of order. You don't just ask someone to be your girl when you haven't even been on a proper date or spent a good amount of alone time together."

You need to isolate her. That's the next step. If neither of you drive, it doesn't really MATTER where you go. Before I could drive I would just meet up with a girl at the mall and walk around all afternoon. Or we'd meet up at one of those mini-golf/arcade joints. Just somewhere where you can hang out with each other for a while without getting hassled by anyone. At your age it doesn't have to involve a lot of prethought or exciting activity. You just need to be alone with her (and have the balls to kiss her when it's time).

 

[hashman]

yeah, i knew it was a bad idea to say that lol, i just wanted to let you guys know my intentions so you could shape up what i meant. Anyways, how would it be if i asked her to do "something"? Heres the thing, im not 100% if that party is going on this weekend, and i want my intentions to be known during the week. If i say like "lets do something this weekend" or "Whats going on this weekend? Were doing something" its good because in this particular situation, I personally cant offer that many great things to do besides maybe go to the party together IF it happens, but if i let her know i want to do something with her she can offer more possibilities, would this work out? (again im pretty sure shes into me so now its just a matter of getting her out to do soemthing so i can isolate and escalate to a kiss.)

 

[The Forms]

It's usually best to already have something in mind when you ask a girl to do something over the weekend. Mainly because saying "let's get together and do something this weekend" is kind of vague and doesn't really feel like a firm commitment to hang out, so if somebody else asks her to do something particular she's likely to go with that person.