Letting her down easy

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A lady hit on me, who is not my type. Would like to let her down easy. It's been awhile since I had to say no, to a lady who's interest level is through the roof. Maybe I'm making this too complicated, and should just tell her she's not my type. I can't remember how a DJ would go about this. She's seem like the promiscuous type, so she may have have found another guy as I am typing this. Still would like to know.
 

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She's seem like the promiscuous type, so she may have have found another guy as I am typing this. Still would like to know.
Women never don't have another guy. Just let her down. She'll go right to her backup options.
 

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Good problem to have.

But I'd be covert and just not react/reply. That's the language, covertness, women speak, so she will get it.
 

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Good problem to have.

But I'd be covert and just not react/reply. That's the language, covertness, women speak, so she will get it.
Yes, the thought crossed my mind.
 

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Women reject men all the time. Don't be afraid to do the same. Put your well-being first. If she's bothering you, just tell her she's bothering you and to leave you alone.
 

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Women reject men all the time. Don't be afraid to do the same. Put your well-being first. If she's bothering you, just tell her she's bothering you and to leave you alone.
She's not bothering me.. She's fun, and reminds me of my bratty sister. I still would like to be friendly. I do care.

Thinking of putting her in the dreaded friendzone.
 

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that might increase her attraction to you though. want what they cant have etc.
 

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that might increase her attraction to you though. want what they cant have etc.
That's true....I was thinking the same thing. Trying to friendzone her,telling her to leave you alone,or just flat out rejecting her COULD cause her interest to spike even higher than it currently is.

You could always just the AFC route. You know...be nice,kind,treat her with respect. Call her everyday,talk about the two of you spending time together or doing stuff in the future,etc. Be a little needy/clingy. That'll run her off in the other direction. It'll take a little time to do all that,though.....whereas,flat out rejecting her will only take a split second.

So it's up to you. You can just turn her down. She'll either say ok and move on,or display even more interest towards you.

Or you can go AFC. You'll turn her off,so you won't have to reject her,but it'll take time to do.
 

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that might increase her attraction to you though. want what they cant have etc.
That's true....I was thinking the same thing. Trying to friendzone her,telling her to leave you alone,or just flat out rejecting her COULD cause her interest to spike even higher than it currently is.

You could always just the AFC route. You know...be nice,kind,treat her with respect. Call her everyday,talk about the two of you spending time together or doing stuff in the future,etc. Be a little needy/clingy. That'll run her off in the other direction. It'll take a little time to do all that,though.....whereas,flat out rejecting her will only take a split second.

So it's up to you. You can just turn her down. She'll either say ok and move on,or display even more interest towards you.

Or you can go AFC. You'll turn her off,so you won't have to reject her,but it'll take time to do.
No can do, the AFC route. There are top plates around!

The situation may make the plates have more respect, and spill the beans! (come forward with their feelings)
 
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A lady hit on me, who is not my type. Would like to let her down easy. It's been awhile since I had to say no, to a lady who's interest level is through the roof. Maybe I'm making this too complicated, and should just tell her she's not my type. I can't remember how a DJ would go about this. She's seem like the promiscuous type, so she may have have found another guy as I am typing this. Still would like to know.
You want to know how to "turn down" a girl who wants to sleep with you? Come on bro, is this an ego thing or are you serious?

If you are serious, just don't respond or make simple excuses. Don't reject her, don't put her in the friendzone, don't call her, don't email her, don't text her, don't do anything. If you reject her you have closed her off. What if she becomes ridiculously hot in 6 months and you want to sleep her then? Because you "wanted to let her down easy" back when you won't be able to. Just let her keep at coming at you.

Either way, by the time you figure out how to let "her down easy", she has already slept with 2 other guys and is pregnant by a 3rd.
 
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A lady hit on me, who is not my type. Would like to let her down easy. It's been awhile since I had to say no, to a lady who's interest level is through the roof. Maybe I'm making this too complicated, and should just tell her she's not my type. I can't remember how a DJ would go about this. She's seem like the promiscuous type, so she may have have found another guy as I am typing this. Still would like to know.
No one's going to know why she's not your type more than you.

A way I've done in the past is hit them with a few lines that would test any girls comfort..(compliance tests) and when she shows some irritation, straight up "I'm no longer interested. you're not what I expected. Sorry"

Last time I did it with a milf that I realized wasn't as attractive as when I was drunk lol .. Messed with her and asked her to throw on some lingerie and snap me some nice photos and all before letting her know i was done.
 

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You want to know how to "turn down" a girl who wants to sleep with you? Come on bro, is this an ego thing or are you serious?

If you are serious, just don't respond or make simple excuses. Don't reject her, don't put her in the friendzone, don't call her, don't email her, don't text her, don't do anything. If you reject her you have closed her off. What if she becomes ridiculously hot in 6 months and you want to sleep her then? Because you "wanted to let her down easy" back when you won't be able to. Just let her keep at coming at you.

Either way, by the time you figure out how to let "her down easy", she has already slept with 2 other guys and is pregnant by a 3rd.
You are silly! I'm in the market for a LTR, not a quick lay. I don't sleep around, and am probably the only one on this forum who doesn't.
 

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No one's going to know why she's not your type more than you.

A way I've done in the past is hit them with a few lines that would test any girls comfort..(compliance tests) and when she shows some irritation, straight up "I'm no longer interested. you're not what I expected. Sorry"

Last time I did it with a milf that I realized wasn't as attractive as when I was drunk lol .. Messed with her and asked her to throw on some lingerie and snap me some nice photos and all before letting her know i was done.
I think going to go with "overqualify" on this one.
 

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Either way, by the time you figure out how to let "her down easy", she has already slept with 2 other guys and is pregnant by a 3rd.
Can't emphasize this enough. Men need to get it into their heads that women have not had less sex than them, have not had fewer sex partners than them, and are not less deceptive about it than them. And here we have wifehunter thinking about how to let her down, when she's already on the way to her next d!ck.
 

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Can't emphasize this enough. Men need to get it into their heads that women have not had less sex than them, have not had fewer sex partners than them, and are not less deceptive about it than them. And here we have wifehunter thinking about how to let her down, when she's already on the way to her next d!ck.
Unless they don't sleep around, shocker!!!

But yes, I do believe the ladies like the D!
 

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After a certain age, it all changes man. Not all girls constantly sleep around, have multiple sex partners at their disposal. Alot of women in thier 40's are barely active sexually.. Even the attractive ones. Bodies change, sex drives change.. lol.. menopause starts creeping in

Sorry to knock down your theory @AttackFormation .. Again I feel you say alot of superficial stuff man.. Without realizing, not every guy is as young as you and some guys go for more mature women who aren't the same as the 20-30 yr old's who do have lots of guys are their disposal and very sexually active
But my post was not targeting women in or about to hit menopause. It's about the start-of-sex-drive to 30-something girls, for which it is not superficial at all.
 

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But my post was not targeting women in or about to hit menopause. It's about the start-of-sex-drive to 30-something girls, for which it is not superficial at all.
I would say it's an accurate generalization. Just means, I need to be careful.
 

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He's 42 man. can't automatically assume he's just talking about any women. Could easily be talking about a 40 yr old chick. Never know
These ladies are college aged.
 
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