Letting girls know you're interested

[cyo72]

Re: Re: Letting girls know you're interested

Originally posted by Satan Psycho
No shyt. Don't ever believe that playing games is somehow wrong or hurtful to our objective. I'm getting sick of of people giving AFC advise and I hope newbies don't follow it. If you don't play games you don't have game and you get no poontang. It's just that simple. We were all lucky enough to find this amazing Web site and if you choose to dismiss what you learned here then more power to ya.

You make a good point.. If you guys want play then you have to learn the game. But for some of us who are more interested in a relationship or whatever.. the girls who play games are typically the ones that arent worth your time.

 

[madgame]

This site changed my whole out look on women. I used to be a real AFC back in the days and kinda believed this whole being yourself **** was what you had to do. But actually if u really fall for a girl and start acting "AFC" being mushy and clinchy its bull****. Its infatuation that makes u do those stupid things. If ure infatuated u usually dont act like "yourself" (whateva that is anyways) anymore. You start acting like a ***** cause you think itll make the girl like u more.

Come on thats true isnt it fellas??

In general Im looking for a long term relationship too (prolly not right now, but who knows..) and you could accuse me of "playing games", but I dont really consider myself a "game player"...This site and my bad experiences with the way I used to act before changed my whole mindset AKA "myself". I dont play games like crazy, but I know that its a major turn off to women if u show too damn much interest in them. So I just dont place them on a pedestal anymore, and I dont even feel the urge to do that...which I used to way before. All in all I would say my mindset changed because of bad experiences and the help of this site which helped me figure out what I did wrong. In other words: I changed because of experiences. Its not only like that with women. People just change. Period.

Just meant to say that to all the people who might think getting "game" means not "being yourself", not being "true to yourself" or whateva.

By the way, infatuation is a ***** lol. If somebodys infatuated with someone and puts them on a pedestal dont tell me their "being themselves"

peace

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

I say hey beautiful to all girls I know, including all the ones i've had sex with and many of them are still friends. They would always be "you called her beautiful too!" I would always counter with, ye but your the most beautiful and use my attitude grin. Always worked. One of the last girls I had sex with (SOOO Goooood sex) was actually the best friend of one of the girls I used to bang the month before her... The evening we met I was making out with both of them.... The new one was really scared and irritated cause I was a player but she was really sexually attracted to me and the other was asking which of the two I wanted to have sex with =) So I said the new one to my friend i used to bang and a couple days later we met again and what do you know, the new one shares comes into where I'm sleeping after the party jumps all over me, rips of my boxers and her thong and slids down and rides as hard as she can... Both are my best friends now =) And we talk about everything. It's great. I got them without trying, I was just my usual I'm really handsom and attractive and sexy and all that attitude and they both came to me.

Another good one was over a year ago, this was really strange really. I was at a mates house, we were taking some beers before we were going to a disco. His bestfriend was there, a really sexy girl. This was a period I didn't feel too good about myself, (This was before my whole workout alot etc period to build up my body.) I said hi and all that but generally I just chatted with my mate, drank some beer, fixed my hair, danced around in the livingroom etc. We were just 3 guys and that girl there. So we go out to a disco later and dance and suddenly that girl comes up to me, whispers into my ear "Are you aware of how ****ing horny you've made me all evening, you want to go out?" I said ye, 5 min later we were ****ing like mad on a parkbench I had talked with her maybe 5-10 minutes earlier on the evening and generally not given her much thought, just the usual smirks and arrogant eyecontact I give girls I'd do.

Another good thing about that girl is that she told a friend of hers (A reaaaaallly sexy and good lookin girl, HB9) that I was well equiped and knew how to use it. So once I was really drunk (I don't remember this) we met, I just remember later on when I started to sober that we were making out really long. A week later she invites me to her place for a really good massage and some insane handwork and general sexual pleasures =)

Fun fun =)

 

[Slickster]

Challenge and Mystery do not work unless there is interest there to begin with. I think a lot of people here make that mistake. They meet someone and don't say much to appear to be a mystery. Or they play hard to get with someone who couldn't care less. Hell I read a post recently where some guy was mirroring a chick who was reading a book/studying. She probably didn't even know he was there! In most of these cases the guys have great enthusiasm but lack the application skills.

Its all kind of funny. People take some of these ideas too literally.

In regards to conveying interest I think there are a few things that you have to observe before doing so.

1. Signs of attraction. No one wants to put themselves out there on the line by revealing their interest too early. If you do, and the interest isn't reciprocated then you risk rejection. Knowing the "female signs of attraction" (there are tons) eliminates alot of this risk. If she's showing all kinds of buying signals then like Becker said you can't really go wrong - she's interested. *Discovery Channel had a series called Science of Sex and one episode was showing female signs of attraction. There was like 20 or 30. When the actress was demonstrating them I was like "Wow, I've seen that before"

2. Your looks and Her looks Sorry people but looks are extremely important when you first meet someone. If you are a 9 and she is a HB6 then you're going to be able to get away with showing interest. She'd probably be thrilled to have caught your eye. However if its the other way around - you are a 6 and she's a HB9 then showing your interest isn't going to get you very far. Everyone is interested in her and you are nothing special until you prove otherwise.

Here is a great tip that I learned from SexPDX.

During a conversation you wait until a *high* point before you reveal your interest.

For example. You're chatting with a cutie about "xyz" and you find out somewhere along the line that the two of you have something in common. ie. You feel the same way about something, you both like the same tv show, both remember a scene from a movie, you've both been to the same place before, etc. It could be anything. A point of laughter, or one of those times where you'd almost feel like high 5'ving each other because you agree about something. We'll call these moments *high* points.

These are the moments that are prime for revealing your interest in her for example: Asking her name
Number closing
Kiss closing
Kino
Moving closer
"I like you"
"You're fun"
etc.

I hope some might find this as enlightening as I did.

P.S. Sorry if I've repeated some things that others may have touched on already. Didn't have time to read all the replies.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

I honestly think that the thing most boys or coming Don Juans lack is the ability to read signs of attraction. A girl hints more subtle and most guys won't catch on at all. Someone should really write up a good guide or simular on catching the good signs... And no I don't mean the twirling of hair/straw or thrusting your chest or all that other swada sites are putting out.

 

[NatureGuy]

This is a great discussion Becker.

 

[becker]

Originally posted by Slickster
Challenge and Mystery do not work unless there is interest there to begin with. I think a lot of people here make that mistake. They meet someone and don't say much to appear to be a mystery. Or they play hard to get with someone who couldn't care less. Hell I read a post recently where some guy was mirroring a chick who was reading a book/studying. She probably didn't even know he was there! In most of these cases the guys have great enthusiasm but lack the application skills.

Its all kind of funny. People take some of these ideas too literally.

In regards to conveying interest I think there are a few things that you have to observe before doing so.

1. Signs of attraction. No one wants to put themselves out there on the line by revealing their interest too early. If you do, and the interest isn't reciprocated then you risk rejection. Knowing the "female signs of attraction" (there are tons) eliminates alot of this risk. If she's showing all kinds of buying signals then like Becker said you can't really go wrong - she's interested. *Discovery Channel had a series called Science of Sex and one episode was showing female signs of attraction. There was like 20 or 30. When the actress was demonstrating them I was like "Wow, I've seen that before"

2. Your looks and Her looks Sorry people but looks are extremely important when you first meet someone. If you are a 9 and she is a HB6 then you're going to be able to get away with showing interest. She'd probably be thrilled to have caught your eye. However if its the other way around - you are a 6 and she's a HB9 then showing your interest isn't going to get you very far. Everyone is interested in her and you are nothing special until you prove otherwise.

Here is a great tip that I learned from SexPDX.

During a conversation you wait until a *high* point before you reveal your interest.

For example. You're chatting with a cutie about "xyz" and you find out somewhere along the line that the two of you have something in common. ie. You feel the same way about something, you both like the same tv show, both remember a scene from a movie, you've both been to the same place before, etc. It could be anything. A point of laughter, or one of those times where you'd almost feel like high 5'ving each other because you agree about something. We'll call these moments *high* points.

These are the moments that are prime for revealing your interest in her for example: Asking her name
Number closing
Kiss closing
Kino
Moving closer
"I like you"
"You're fun"
etc.

I hope some might find this as enlightening as I did.

P.S. Sorry if I've repeated some things that others may have touched on already. Didn't have time to read all the replies.

Good points here. Nuff said