Letting a girl you're interested in know that you have other plates.

[GhostWriter]

Hey, if any of you remember I had a post not too long ago asking what I should say if a plate asks me if I'm seeing anybody else.

In short, everybody pretty much said yes. My favorite response went something along the lines of... "I do have a few prospects but none seem to interest me as much."

Okay not exactly verbatim but I'm too lazy to dig through the old posts.

However, let's say if you have pictures or messages from other girls.

Would any of you kind of "accidentally' let her see it?

Jealously is healthy right? I'm not talking about emotional manipulation, but just letting her know that you have options and you won't hesitate to drop her at a moments notice.

FYI, things have been going pretty well with this girl. However I know that she is sort of suspicious that I'm seeing other girls. I only started spinning multiple plates after I felt that she kept talking about other guys and such to make me jealous.

 

[Falcon25]

This could turn against you. You have to have the attitude of "There are other girls interested in me, but I'm interested in you." Without saying it. Seeing you with other girls is fine and all, but you have to work up the charm. She has to know that there are others, but you are thinking of picking her out of all of them. You never directly say "Yeah, I'm dating four other girls right now". You never verbalize it. Let her wonder. Just play around with her. Tell her you got bitcvhes lined up wanting to date you, but you made time for her tonight.

 

[GhostWriter]

Awesome advice. My intention was to never verbalize it in the first place, hence the picture.

I definitely have conveyed the attitude that other girls were interested in me. However not in the sense that I'm leaning towards her out of all the other girls. More on the line of everybody is the same. I was thinking that would make her qualify to me, as opposed to the other way around.

I will definitely insinuate that I am definitely more interested in her, relatively speaking.

Thanks so much!

This was definitely great advice, thanks.

 

[Falcon25]

You bet. Good luck. Lot's of guys will say it's bad to show interest and all that. It's not about that, she actually will fall for you more IF SHE KNOWS you had OTHER OPTIONS but PICKED HER. AND WILL CONTINUE TO HAVE OTHER OPTIONS, IF SHE SHOULD START ACTING UP. She has to know that you are and will continue to be desired by other women, but have CHOSEN her. Just like out of all the dudes she could have, she chose to be with you. Just like her, you have options too. That's a part of attraction. It's okay to show that you like and want to be with a girl, as long as you DON'T VERBALIZE IT.

God's speed.

 

[Jariel]

It depends. If you're supposed to be exclusive with one of these girls or if you're the only guy she's seeing, then you don't show her you have other prospects. That's guaranteed to ruin what you have.

However, if she's playing hard to get, has multiple prospects or her interest isn't all that high, then yes, definitely!

I did this with my last oneitis (and the girl I'm currently seeing) after she flaked on a date with me. She had a bf at the time too. I treated her like a mate and openly told her about one of the women I'd been seeing and how wild she was. She tried being cool, telling me to go for it and all that, but then she started judging me as a player and I could tell she was p!ssed off. It was a big turning point for me as that same night she came out and told me she was into me and things basically escalated from there.

Just don't go playing the jealousy card unless you need to.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Habla sin hablando - speak without speaking.

Imply it with your behavior. Never overtly tell (or telegraph by your actions) a woman she's in competition for your attention. Allow her to come to the conclusion that your attention is in demand. Her imagination is the best tool in your DJ toolbox. Learn how to use it.

Limit your availability to her. Let her call go to voicemail and call her back half an hour to an hour later. NEVER immediately respond to texts. Increase value through scarcity. Be responsibly, but unavoidably in demand. The less available you appear to be, the more available you "might" be for a competitor.

 

[Iceberg]

Habla sin hablando - speak without speaking.

Imply it with your behavior. Never overtly tell (or telegraph by your actions) a woman she's in competition for your attention. Allow her to come to the conclusion that your attention is in demand. Her imagination is the best tool in your DJ toolbox. Learn how to use it.

Limit your availability to her. Let her call go to voicemail and call her back half an hour to an hour later. NEVER immediately respond to texts. Increase value through scarcity. Be responsibly, but unavoidably in demand. The less available you appear to be, the more available you "might" be for a competitor.

"Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what other people think you've got."

 

[pinhas]

Habla sin hablando - speak without speaking.

Imply it with your behavior. Never overtly tell (or telegraph by your actions) a woman she's in competition for your attention. Allow her to come to the conclusion that your attention is in demand. Her imagination is the best tool in your DJ toolbox. Learn how to use it.

Limit your availability to her. Let her call go to voicemail and call her back half an hour to an hour later. NEVER immediately respond to texts. Increase value through scarcity. Be responsibly, but unavoidably in demand. The less available you appear to be, the more available you "might" be for a competitor.

+1

Read and implement the above stated; its a great advice and exactly what you should do. Let your actions speak for you.

 

[squirrels]

Dude, the best way to subtly let a girl know you have other options is to "be busy".

I.e. don't call her up EVERY Friday or EVERY Saturday or EVERY Tuesday to "do something". And when you're with her, don't tell her ALL ABOUT what you and your friends are doing, etc...it's OK to bust out an anecdote once in a while, but don't let her in on your life-story.

Be busy...don't answer her calls or texts right away when she calls on a weeknight, for example. Wait 5-10 minutes...let her think that you're out on a date with another girl and you had to wait for her to run to the bathroom before you could respond. Girls imagine crap like that...you don't need to explicitly tell them that stuff.

If anything, occasionally (RARELY...you don't want to LOOK like you're dropping names) tell her something about "your friend stacey" or "your friend jennifer" that's relevant to the conversation...but don't talk about them. If she asks, they're "just friends".

Really, though...just keep your mouth shut. Let her think she's one of three or four.

Oh, and don't become "routine". I had this one girl that I had watched football with (and f**ked) two Sunday nights in a row. She wanted to do it again for a third Sunday...I made up some excuse about not getting out. Never get into a habit of doing the SAME thing on the SAME night, week after week. And when she calls you spontaneously and asks you to come out somewhere with her, be sparing in when you actually go.

Now if she asks directly...respond as vaguely as possible. "Eh, a couple dates here and there." If she presses the issue change the subject. If she KEEPS pressing, give her a, "It's none of your damned business" look.