Let's talk about trust

[Burroughs]

best option is subjective. for instance, my wife is not just my best option becuase she is attractive. she fits me we like the same things. it would take more than just a "hot woman" to get me to ever leave my wife.


a woman is never wrong in her judgement on what she thinks is her best option for her at that time.

But what if all it took was a 'hot man' for your wife to leave you; as an anomaly that you have not yet forseen after a period of tension...would that make her 'wrong' in her judgement?

How about in your judgement?

Is it your fault alone as the man for 'causing' tension within her delicate femininity...are you keeper of your wife's mind, body, and soul...if you say yes..trust me..she does not feel the same way about you.

 

[backbreaker]

But what if all it took was a 'hot man' for your wife to leave you; as an anomaly that you have not yet forseen after a period of tension...would that make her 'wrong' in her judgement?

How about in your judgement?

Is it your fault alone as the man for 'causing' tension within her delicate femininity...are you keeper of your wife's mind, body, and soul...if you say yes..trust me..she does not feel the same way about you.

then apparently all she cares about is having a hot man. but my wife would not be into me as much as she is if that is all she cared about is how hot a guy is. I'm very good looking but Im' not a runway model or anything. Hell truth be told I'm sure she could find a white dude that looked just as good as I do if all it was about was looks.

 

[betheman]

you and the Z guy are working off the (wrong) assumption that life is fair lol. it's not.

No Im not, Im a lot older than you and Im well aware life is far from fair.
women are fickle, they have been since the begining of time and always will be.
I therefore refuse to accept blame for what they do or how they behave, Ill take my blame and my responsibilities. the thread is about trust, bottom line is I trust men more than women and I dont trust many men. Ive seen lots of lies and deceit in my time, this stemmed from the fact that those people were basically sh!ts and deceivers, had little or anything to do with the SO in their lives

 

[zekko]

you and the Z guy are working off the (wrong) assumption that life is fair lol. it's not.

What Betheman and I are saying is that a woman might end a relationship for any number of reasons, some of which may have nothing to do with you. That seems a better demonstration of "life isn't fair" than your assertation that a woman will only leave if the man drives her out.

if my wife left tomorrow it would be because i was not her best option.

Yes, but she may decide you're not the best option for her own reasons, not because you've done something wrong. A new option may open up to her that she didn't have before (maybe she met Tom Hanks at the mall and they hit it off). Or maybe after 20 years she starts to crave the freshness of a new relationship.

women are fickle, they have been since the begining of time and always will be.

Funny you should say that. The only thing my mother ever said to me about dating was "women are fickle".
That seemed such a strange thing for her to say, since she stayed with my father for nearly 50 years, until his death.
I always wondered why she chose that particular thing to say, I've always remembered it.

 

[disgustipated]

Man this post is so money. The whole trust her to be who she is thing....so right. This has helped me put a few past relationships into perspective and I plan on defintely using this line of thinking in the future.

So many times I put my expectations on women, wanting them to be something they haven't shown me they ARE(not capable of). How can I ever be disappointed in them again if I just trust em to be who the are.

As the great Dennis Green once said, "They are, who we thought they were!"