Lets spread love not hate

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The tones of of many guys who post here are filled with cynisim and hate for women. Fellow Don Juans I know most of us here have fallen victims of some callous bich out there, and this has left us with bitter wounds on our hearts. To some, these expriences have eroded our confidence and turned us into bitter philosophers about women. Some have even vowed never to 'love' again. And others have chosen to destroy their own lives by turning to drugs,alcohol and even suicide. The pain here is understandable because we have all been there. But lets not miss the point, despite all the shyt that we have gone through,we shouldn't turn into bitter haters, we still need to fuk the women any way, and there is no way we will succeed when we deal with them from a bitter point of view.

I am not advocating going out there and loving in an AFC way,never do this. What I am saying is kill the hate and bitterness, luv or like the ladies in a general kind of way, hold no grudges no matter how much pain you went through. This way you will have no resentment towards them and this will improve your success with them.

In the past, I was disapointed by women, and I moved around as a woman hater. Believe you me, that during this phase of my life I wanked more and never fuked, why? I was a bitter loser and this affectecd my interpersonal skills with the women. I would become tense when talking to them, uneasy and akward. Because my mind would go like this, this is another bich who is out to get me, I know they are all biches and she is going to reject me like the others did. And guess what, this became my self fulfilling prophecy, they did reject me.

It is not untill I figured out that I was the problem, that my whole world changed. I changed my attitude from bitter women hater to liker. I like women in general, they are nolonger my enemies that I have to out witt, but people that I have to relate with on my own terms as a man.

I don't think I am about to fall in love in the near future coz I have got carreer and hobies to develope, but this doesn't mean I shouldn't fuk and the only way to get the goods is to like those who have them, this way Djaying comes naturally. I am able to be ****y and funny, challenging, confident, mysterious and posses a spine as a Man simply because I have done away with the bitterness in my heart, the stupid touchness and egocentrisim. This way I have become a better man.

So DJs you have got to know that it is not about the chics its about you, chics will always be chics and they will continue being 'illogical' and do the stupid things that they do. It is up to us to Man up, do away with the bitterness,luv women in general and that way our success and happiness as Djs will sky rocket.:cuss:
 
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It's true. Bitterness corrupts you. It makes you insecure, prideful, and depressed; everything that doesn't display a secure mindset that women are looking for. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst, and pray for the strength to handle whatever may come is all you can do.
 

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There is a difference between bitter and being realistic. When I'm giving advice to a young man who really has no clue he's being abused by his woman, Harsh reality may seem bitter,but isn't necesssarily so.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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You know what? I am always suspicious of so called "new members" that swing by sosuave and make posts like this right off the bat and act like they know it all by having "supposedly" been lurking for a while until they decide to drop their 2 cents.

Just identify yourself, there's no need to hide.
 

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DJDamage said:
You know what? I am always suspicious of so called "new members" that swing by sosuave and make posts like this right off the bat and act like they know it all by having "supposedly" been lurking for a while until they decide to drop their 2 cents.

Just identify yourself, there's no need to hide.
I may be new on the site but,not new at the game. And for your own info I have been here for quite sometime, read almost three quaters of stuff on the site, before "I decided to drop my 2 cents" as you put it.

About identifying my self,:nono:
 
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azanon said:
So how old are you blackdon?
I am a young old man. Check my profile any way.
 
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Funny how every once and a while someone will post something like this.

So you've finely managed to rise in value, and you're finely getting attention from women because of it....And now you come as a bearer of experience and insight to teach the rest of us how we too can transcend our misplaced bitterness....:rolleyes:
 

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No surprise that this ridiculous limp wristed whiny non hetero topic just magically coincides with the re-appearance of the worst female troll this site has ever had the misfortune of hosting that of course being the loathsome and vile creature known as iqqi.

You'd almost think that the topic creator and iqqi were one and the same!

Naw!!

Couldn't be!!! :rolleyes:
 
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Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Blackdon now that you have lectured us all, it's time to work on spelling and punctuation. :yes:
 

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Blackdon now that you have lectured us all, it's time to work on spelling and punctuation. :yes:
I hate defending my self. Any way, English is my third language. So you guys can pardon any errors.
 

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Blackdon said:
I may be new on the site but,not new at the game. And for your own info I have been here for quite sometime, read almost three quaters of stuff on the site, before "I decided to drop my 2 cents" as you put it.

About identifying my self,:nono:
Ok that's fine, I will take your words for now but:

http://it-is-law.com/dump/colbert - On Notice.jpg

See what you have to understand is that there are certain members here that have their own agendas and are not here to help members out but rather troll and create dissent. Usually they create a fake user names and bring other members with fake names or trolls to praise their advice/mocking thus making it seem more legit.

No names are needed, they know who they are.
 

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Seems like there have been a couple of these trolls popping up lately.

Troll or not, to call most anyone on this site "bitter" for coming on a site designed for discussions on the opposite sex smacks of feminist agenda.

Just because some of us prefer not to sugar coat it you get your panties in a wad because if we are right then that means your entire fantasy is a sham.
 

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One of the surest indicators of an AFC mindset is the automatic presumption that anything remotely critical a man would say about women or the feminine is, by default, equated with misogyny. All a man need do is open his mouth, in the most objective way he can muster, about anything critical of the feminine and he's instantly suspect of sour grapes. He must've been burned, or is bitter and on the verge of desperation just for even a passing mention.

What an amazingly potent social convention that is - when a man will censor himself because of it on his own. The most successful social conventions are ones in which the subject willingly sublimates his own interests, discourages questioning it, and predisposes that person to encourage the convention in others. This is what you're doing here. AFCs are crabs in a barrel. As soon as one climbs up to the top to escape, 10 more clamber over him to pull him back in.

I understand what your interpretation is, all I'm asking you to do is ask yourself why you'd think they were "bitter"? This is a feminine social convention that's in the same vein as shame. Any guy that has a point about the feminine, no matter how valid, can always have his argument poisoned because he's a guy and most guys are frustrated that they aren't getting laid and this is his petty way of venting. Of course, the same can be used with women, but it's never as valid because they play the role of sexual filter. We can point out bitter women, but the feminine default is to always be cast in the victim role, so even if they are bitter it's always justified.

I'm just asking you think about it, because, when men can be convinced to participate in women's social conventions half their work is done for them.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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STR8UP said:
Seems like there have been a couple of these trolls popping up lately.

Troll or not, to call most anyone on this site "bitter" for coming on a site designed for discussions on the opposite sex smacks of feminist agenda.

Just because some of us prefer not to sugar coat it you get your panties in a wad because if we are right then that means your entire fantasy is a sham.
so discussions about the opposite sex need to be filled wit bull****? maybe i too can be looked as one those 'trolls' for my post since i agree many are bitter and pestimestic ...but let me ask somethin when u guys talk to girls are you bitter? do you even give the slightest perception that you are bitter towards the female race?....men arent fake so why the double standard?...at the same time the topic's name disgusts me ... the word 'love' is more of disease to DJs then anythin else..so i wouldn't say spread 'love' but the virtues of what men are supposed to be.
 

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Unprez said:
.but let me ask somethin when u guys talk to girls are you bitter? do you even give the slightest perception that you are bitter towards the female race?
Not at all. In fact I am well liked by quite a few women, believe it or not.

So anyone who calls me bitter (and I'm probably one of the MOST critical ones here when it comes to women) doesn't have a clue.

Both Rollo and Deep Dish have met me personally and seen me interact with women. You can ask either of them if I come off as bitter.

But wait, you all probably think THEY are bitter as well, so what can I say?
 

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For all those who feel that the guys here are bitter, how about an example? Take a quote from and reference the topic of whoever the bitter people are so we can better understand where this is coming from.

I'm thinking you're probably taking things out of context.
 

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Who cares what these trolls think.

This is a distraction.

Why there isn't a strict ban hammer here I'll never know...
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
One of the surest indicators of an AFC mindset is the automatic presumption that anything remotely critical a man would say about women or the feminine is, by default, equated with misogyny.
The OP cannot spell career; I doubt he can interpret this.
 
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