Let's fix your game.

[Amazing]

Ok recently I went through a little fix of my own game, and now trying to help my friend, if anyone here has issues may be this will help

I was just not in the zone for like a week, it just seemed off.. and I didn't know what the deal was. here is how I fixed it.



Here are the nuggets:

I remembered I was actually a pretty good looking dude. A lot of us don't look at ourselves this way, ignoring compliments or whatever, but I remembered this after a couple more compliments and actually thinking about it. If you are ugly, well it's a bit tougher but do your best. if you are good looking dont let it go to your head, just know that RIGHT OFF THE BAT, YOU HAVE IT EASIER. allow that sh!t to sink in.. when you meet a girl, she is at least INTRIGUED. this alone will boost your game 30%.. dont get a big head now thinking every chick will love you.. but it will help


I realized I wasn't letting the girl chase ME. I went into this zone where I'd be talking to her normally like a person, and it would be a good convo, but I wasn't teasing enough and busting on her for being the agressor. this alone boosted my game 100%, MAKE SURE TO KEEP TELLING HER she is the one hitting on you!!
What happens here is I was not doing it and she wasnt working to get me..


I remembered that I am the prize. Prize, what? No, think about it - there are plenty of bad women out there. drug addicts (was witha coke head last night) ****ed up in the head (been there a month ago), clingy (check) insecure as hell (cue every girl who is cute and hot) BORING AS HELL (a lot of those..) going nowhere in life (all the cute girls from my HS doing hair now) and STD RIDDEN *****s (whew, pass on that)

seriously, guys, her looks is stage 1. stage 2 is more important - she can fail that stage a LOT easier. Now my friend would say damn if someone had X friend's face and Amazing's game he would be unstoppable. Yes, but outof the two, I Am the one who is the winner, because cute people are everywhere, and if they have no game well then they are SOL... I on the other hand can use my game if i didnt have looks i'd still get women... so chick is the same way - she is hot but does she have game? as in does she have the good personality and is she not a bad pick - see how much more valuable THAT is?

you, on the other hand, have a good personality, education, work? business? ambition, you LIKE living life and want more.. and you dont want latch onto someone to get it like 99% of these chicks.

ok, so prize + she is agressor + confidence that you are a cool good looking guy.




if you want to intrigue the girl take what she is RELATED TO, but IS NOT, and use that.

real examples of how i got with girls when they needed to be broken down.


asian girl - i said "yeah i have been with an asian girl before, she went to an Ivy league school, cool girl"

now chick is insecure cause she didnt go anywhere and gave it up.


Russian girl. asks me do you like Russian girls? I say yeah they are cool ive been with a couple, but I find Americans to have a fresher less jaded outlook on life.


"Yeah I knew a girl that did (X) like you, she was obsessed with working out though, poor girl spent 3-4 days at the gym to keep in great shape"

throw that once in awhile insecurity buttons is how you get them to do it.



its 4 am, lesson over to go bed. any ? leave a number

 

[Just a Shot Away]

You make it sound so easy man, and your advice is sound.

But I think you're forgetting how difficult it is to do things like "let her chase you" and "think you're the prize" when really, deep down you know that she doesn't have a reason to chase you after all, and that when it comes right down to it and you be honest with yourself...SHE'S the prize, not you.

I know, I know..."fake it til you make it" but IMO it's much easier said than done.

 

[Amazing]

You make it sound so easy man, and your advice is sound.

But I think you're forgetting how difficult it is to do things like "let her chase you" and "think you're the prize" when really, deep down you know that she doesn't have a reason to chase you after all, and that when it comes right down to it and you be honest with yourself...SHE'S the prize, not you.

I know, I know..."fake it til you make it" but IMO it's much easier said than done.

yeah I've been there, but honestly it just takes some tune up in thinking and keeping the perspective on it.

do youknow why you think she is the prize? because society, mainly women and more importnatly IDIOT LOSER GOING NOWHERE WILL PAY FOR ASS "men" made it so

it is because of loser men that girls think they are worth so much - because these idiots run around putting them up to the sky


so.. are you gonna sit there and tell me you think she is the prize because these morons made it so? hell no.

read the first post again after you read this one. and remember, what happens if it all goes WELL, BEST CASE, is you stick with her, have kids and family and YOUR LIFE WILL BECOME BORING AS HELL.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

when really, deep down you know that she doesn't have a reason to chase you after all, and that when it comes right down to it and you be honest with yourself...SHE'S the prize, not you.

Just because a man wants to have sex with a girl doesn't make her a prize. On the contrary, many girls are extremely insecure about their bodies, whether they admit it or not, and sometimes their insecurity lies in wanting to be loved more than wanting sex. And girls that get lots of sex are still insecure because they think men will not love them and only think of them as slvts, talking pieces of meat.

Think about what the winnings are when you consider who the prize is.

In the case of a "win," you win a cute girl and all of her individual attributes, and she wins an amazing man who loves himself, loves his life and is perfectly comfortable with his sexuality. A man who is a leader, a creator; a cool, fun guy.

So who is the prize here, you or her?
In a good relationship, I believe, she is your prize and you are her prize.
While still fun and interesting, the relationship itself makes something that is "prizeworthy."


Hard to understand?
I will consult Law #9 from David D's 77 Laws of Success:

"#9. Compare your progress and success only to yourself."

Everyone wants to be a winner, and there are two types of winning:

1) Achieving what you want
and
2) Beating someone else

When you beat someone else, you don't necessarily get what you want.

Now, why is this important? The "prize" is what YOU WANT, so you have to consider the girl on some level, a prize. And YOU WANT a girl who sees YOU as the "prize" because you want to be loved just as much as she wants to be loved.

Let's look at Type 2 Winning:

2) BEATING SOMEONE ELSE -
if you claim that YOU ARE THE PRIZE, in your mind, you're trying to prove to yourself that SHE IS NOT THE PRIZE.

In other words, you are trying to BEAT HER AT BECOMING THE PRIZE!

This is NOT the way to win because, in the end, you DO NOT get what YOU WANT, and everybody loses.

You lose her, you turn into a wussy, she loses you, etc...


Don Juans, if you're doing this, STOP NOW.


In reality, there is no prize, rather, there is a man who knows how to get women, and a man who tries to be a wussy because he isn't confident that women will like him for who he is, so he tries to MAKE them like him.

So to be the "prize," learn how to get women.

 

[thecurtainfalls]

You make it sound so easy man, and your advice is sound.

But I think you're forgetting how difficult it is to do things like "let her chase you" and "think you're the prize" when really, deep down you know that she doesn't have a reason to chase you after all, and that when it comes right down to it and you be honest with yourself...SHE'S the prize, not you.

I know, I know..."fake it til you make it" but IMO it's much easier said than done.

If that is truly your internal frame and how you feel about yourself, I highly suggest you put dating and attracting women on the backburner while you improve your life to the point where you can actually add value to a girl's life, and give her a reason to see you as a prize.

It's not about brainwashing yourself to think that you're the sh!t if you're not. You need to become a great man, someone worthy of what you desire. Otherwise, you'll be swimming upstream for a long time.