let's discuss: Two approaches on how to be a Don Juan

[donjghk]

Two approaches on how to be a Don Juan

I've gotten very good advice here about 2 approaches to be a don juan...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=225267


in short:
Desdinova wrote:
about connecting emotionally
is about emotional fluctuation/give her positive reactions and active dates
treat her like you're dating her


sodbuster:
Its about self improvement, higher value / higher sex rank
Is about competition and other women

Two very good ways to approach.

The following is fiction.
Some questionable/ doubtful Don Juan movies:
(and I know the difference between fiction and real life)



Do you guys know the movie Don Juan DeMarco - with Jonny Depp
About a man who believes himself to be Don Juan, the greatest lover in the world.

I like the approach of Don Juan in this film and how to handle a woman

on the other side - more recent movies
Crazy, Stupid, Love - with Ryan Gosling
Ghosts of Girlfriends Past - with Matthew McConaughey
and then of course James Bond, he has all the right features to get the girls

there are more alpha male / real man things...

they all have some good points to think about


Two very good ways to approach.

what is the best way to go...if there is one?
maybe a mixture of both?
Can we learn from these things and add in real life?

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

This is something that very few understand anymore. These are both great ways to becoming a 'Don Juan', however, they will work for these 2 different people better than they ever will for you because (assuming they have both gotten to the paramount of developing themselves) it is THEIR OWN PERSONAL game; it is the way that works for them personally.

Allow me to elaborate, basically, when you become so great with women (and people in general really) to the point where it is almost completely natural for you, then you will begin to realize that you can bend the 'rules' to your will and even make your own rules in a sense (which is why these aren't really rules at all and are meant to be treated more as guidelines instead). This is the point where you have built your own personal game, or as we like to call it here, inner game.
It is the point where you are sure of yourself, confident as fvck, and don't really need people to make you feel happy because you are naturally happy. You are like this because you are natural, not fake. You do what you want without thinking about it. When people say 'think before you act', you don't think before you act because all of the social dynamics come naturally to you and are second nature, thus you do not need to think about it. You may occasionally break these social 'rules' but only because you just want to do something because you feel like doing it or because you have a specific goal in mind. Others may look at you strangely, but because you are confident and sure of yourself and don't care about what others think of you, these same people won't look at you strangely and may even respect you, simply because you are confident and sure of yourself.

The way you live your own life is your game. No need for tricks or techniques or anything like that because at this point you are natural. You naturally perform these 'tricks' or 'techniques' because of your lifestyle. Thus, you have your own game.

 

[donjghk]

Hmmmm... thanks ImTheDoubleGreatest!

Google tells me that these two approaches has names
Casanova and Don Juan

Thats a lot to think about
What's my personal game, how improve it...

 

[mangotot]

I don't know about sosuave.net and their theories but in life you have three types: the player, the provider and the celebrate.

The provider is where 90 per cent of the men are at, 7 per cent are players and 3 per cent celebrate.

 

[BraddH]

Both combined.

 

[JohnChops]

Two approaches on how to be a Don Juan

I've gotten very good advice here about 2 approaches to be a don juan...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=225267


in short:
Desdinova wrote:
about connecting emotionally
is about emotional fluctuation/give her positive reactions and active dates
treat her like you're dating her


sodbuster:
Its about self improvement, higher value / higher sex rank
Is about competition and other women

Two very good ways to approach.

The following is fiction.
Some questionable/ doubtful Don Juan movies:
(and I know the difference between fiction and real life)



Do you guys know the movie Don Juan DeMarco - with Jonny Depp
About a man who believes himself to be Don Juan, the greatest lover in the world.

I like the approach of Don Juan in this film and how to handle a woman

on the other side - more recent movies
Crazy, Stupid, Love - with Ryan Gosling
Ghosts of Girlfriends Past - with Matthew McConaughey
and then of course James Bond, he has all the right features to get the girls

there are more alpha male / real man things...

they all have some good points to think about


Two very good ways to approach.

what is the best way to go...if there is one?
maybe a mixture of both?
Can we learn from these things and add in real life?

I like a mix of the two. Improving yourself is a must. Also, I feel like a lot of guys here forget the first one, connecting with women. They are so busy trying to hit the gas and rail them as fast as possible and yet they barley have time to enjoy and take in a woman for what she is, another person living her life. It's fun to explore what they're all about and then it makes the physical stuff 100x more potent and enjoyable.

Example: I used to have this girl who I railed, never really spoke to or anything, just banged, typical **** buddy type deal. The physical stuff felt like mutual masturbation and it was alright I suppose. Then I had this other girl, a few months later, who we were also a fbuddy scenario, we only saw eachother when we wanted to fvck. However, this time I actually had some convos about just life in general with her, before we fvcked, I felt like it made things a lot better between me and her. Connecting with her + banging her = awesome.

Some may argue, but hey just dropping my 0.02.

 

[JohnChops]

Two approaches on how to be a Don Juan

I've gotten very good advice here about 2 approaches to be a don juan...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=225267


in short:
Desdinova wrote:
about connecting emotionally
is about emotional fluctuation/give her positive reactions and active dates
treat her like you're dating her


sodbuster:
Its about self improvement, higher value / higher sex rank
Is about competition and other women

Two very good ways to approach.

The following is fiction.
Some questionable/ doubtful Don Juan movies:
(and I know the difference between fiction and real life)



Do you guys know the movie Don Juan DeMarco - with Jonny Depp
About a man who believes himself to be Don Juan, the greatest lover in the world.

I like the approach of Don Juan in this film and how to handle a woman

on the other side - more recent movies
Crazy, Stupid, Love - with Ryan Gosling
Ghosts of Girlfriends Past - with Matthew McConaughey
and then of course James Bond, he has all the right features to get the girls

there are more alpha male / real man things...

they all have some good points to think about


Two very good ways to approach.

what is the best way to go...if there is one?
maybe a mixture of both?
Can we learn from these things and add in real life?

I like a mix of the two. Improving yourself is a must. Also, I feel like a lot of guys here forget the first one, connecting with women. They are so busy trying to hit the gas and rail them as fast as possible and yet they barley have time to enjoy and take in a woman for what she is, another person living her life. It's fun to explore what they're all about and then it makes the physical stuff 100x more potent and enjoyable.

Example: I used to have this girl who I railed, never really spoke to or anything, just banged, typical **** buddy type deal. The physical stuff felt like mutual masturbation and it was alright I suppose. Then I had this other girl, a few months later, who we were also a fbuddy scenario, we only saw eachother when we wanted to fvck. However, this time I actually had some convos about just life in general with her, before we fvcked, I felt like it made things a lot better between me and her. Connecting with her + banging her = awesome.

Some may argue, but hey just dropping my 0.02.