Let me tell you why most of your suggestion will not work

[Quinzio]

(Forgive my bad english, I live in Italy).

Since this site is meant to help people working out with women, it's a good thing to be frank and honest.

If you're reading this board that's pro.lly because you haven't a steady girlfriend, and you are not satisfied of your relationships with girls you know.
As most of your suggestions you give in this site will not work for me, they won't work for many readers of this board, and I 'll shortly explain why.
The basic underlying message of this site is: get as much women as you can. Get #numbers, get dates, get ****s, and get them beautiful. That's wrong.
Everybody has it's own lifestyle, his ability, his own limits. What you'll have to search is an EQUILIBRIUM in your life.
"Yesterday night I knew HB9".... let me tell you, that's bull****.
You got to know the girl(s) that suites for you.

We are all different and you can't take it out of your life.
The daugther of Mr. Rockfeller, will not go out with you unless she sees you with a 100.000$ car.
A female electronic engineer will not let you take her out if you don't talk properly and if you don't show you have a good culture.
A girls dressed in a "freak"way, will not go out if she see you wear classy clothes.
People tends to stay with their own clan of similar peers.
Riches with riches, poors with poors, ignorants with ignorants, genius with genius, pretty girls with handsome guy, and etc. etc.
Women are really choosy, and they look carefully who you are, where you come from, from the very first moment you know them.
They literally X-ray you.

That was point 1). Now point 2).
That is a message to a paticular cathegory oof men.

Many, and I said many people (including me) have issues with depression and anxiety.
I have this problems and so let me tell how reality is.
Women avoid men with mental weaknesses like the plague. Dep. and anxiety will force you to whine on your life, and that attitude will leak in every word you say to a women you just approached.
Women get approached on a regular basis and they know men much better than we know women. They are wonderful machines to judge how mentally strong a man is. They throw games and tricks at you just to see how you react and how mentally you are.
They could take up their ***** shield just to see how much interested you are in them. They throw tests at you in a way you don't even realize you are under evaluation.
That means every sign of depression and anxiety will be a major turn off for them.

Why I say this things to you ? Because I have never read them in this site.
Maybe now, some of you realize why they can't get chicks while they read of wonderful adventures on this board.

If you suspect you have any kind of depression or anxiety, it's likely you already are depressed and anxious.
Go and talk to a doctor, Google for dep and anxiety, talk to your friends and family.
Even when girls reject you, ask them why they reject you.
If you just found a clever women, she will probably spend time to explain you why you are a turn-off for her. Ask them if they think you are depressed ar you look unsatisfied.
Don't be ashamed to ask tell them you have poor relationships with chicks, you just finished rejected and LJBF, your chances just went to zero, now USE that girl to get good advices.
They are human beings and if they see you are an aware man, that you take care of your mental health (like women do), that you are willing to improve yourself, they will give you good suggestions.
Don't pretend you are happy when you're not, or you're extrovert when you're shy. You'll be unmasked before you realize.
I know well what I am talking about.

A last thing.
Well before wasting time chasing women, find a wingman, find more than one.
Make fiendship with guys that look girls and run behind tem. Hang out with them, look as they do, ask them.
Don't hang out with your boring clueless friends. Better go out alone.
An hour in real life with a good wingman is worth 1000 hour of reading of this site.



Comments and objections are welcome.
Have a good happy day.

 

[Jariel]

Very good post and you have made some excellent points.

Your first point is especially important and I have just had a similar piece of advice from a friend, which answered a big dilemma for me.

I often get involved with women who are not suited to me - even emo chicks and goths. You could say I'm generically attractive (tall, tanned, in good shape, popular and charismatic) and I make a good trophy boyfriend. So what happens is women try to make it work with me and give me more chances than they would give to most guys. But ultimately there's no chemistry and it doesn't last.

This is where the average looking guy has the advantage because his relationships are founded on chemistry rather than physical attraction.

The same can be said in reverse. Just because a woman is hot, doesn't make her relationship material.

 

[LionOne]

For me the basic underlying message is: become the best man you can. This site is about self improvement, getting your shyt together and then living the lifestyle you want. The chicks come and go but you spend your entire life with yourself. This is the best site I have found which teaches the lifestyle a real man should have. Read some of Pook's posts. He got it right.

You say that people tend to stay in certain groups. This is true but not an obstacle. Don't let thoughts like this get into your way to excuse yourself from approaching. You say women are choosy but they only want to see if you have and can keep your shyt together. Once you do then it's only about repetition on the field. You find a rich woman and you are poor? She probably won't care as long as you don't make it an issue. And if she cares you shouldn't care. Insecurity smells.

I agree with your second point. Women hate weak men. If you have problems this site is a great resource for self improvement. You have to dig the good posts and see yourself which are worth reading (read the DJ Bible first). This site has something for everyone, depending on your own situation.

 

[spider_007]

I DISSAGREE


Lot of people will say that you should go after every women you see (especially hot). The reson for that is; so you loose the feeling of being AFRAID to approch a quality woman.

I personally belive in QUALITY approches. If you see a quality chick who is worth your time, then do it.

As for the mental health thing. This site has helped me A GREAT DEAL with my mental health.

this is what i've REALIZED in the last few months i was on here:

-There is notting wrong with being a MAN. Take the responasability and LIVE LIKE A MAN.
-Chicks arn't all they are cracked up to be. There is a lot of damaged goods outhere, and i now i know haw to seperate them.
-I realized I am a quality man. I may not be rich, nor am I the most exciting man out there, but I AM A MAN, I live my life the best way i can, i'm not a thug, i have my own code OF HONOUR, and i live by it. I still have a long ways to go but i know i will get there one day, and just the fact that i'm trying puts me ahead of any other AFC outhere.
-By realizing some of these things i developed a confidence to talk to just about anybody (for the first time in my life). After all your not doing notting wrong. You have no ill will toward anybody nor do you want to take advantage of them, so why should you be shy about finding out who they are and what they are all about....

SOMETHING YOU NEED TO REMEMBER

any woman will go out with you if she sees the potential in you for great things. IF YOU ACT LIKE A MAN, IF YOU SPARK HER EMOTION AND SHE THINKS YOUR BALLS OF FUN, IF YOU HAVE THE POTENTIAL TO BE THE KING OF YOUR DOMAIN, SHE WILL BE YOUR QUIN.

that's why there is a saying: "opposites attract"

 

[Socialreject]

I'm gonna go with LionOne on this...

You are directing your comment on the PUA's and players on this site. I for one am not one of them. I read this board to improve my inner 'game'.

 

[Climax]

This site is more of a "playa" site now... it has changed from a few years ago. (I have been reading this site since 2002) ... If you are interested in relationships etc, then u can join this forums sister site found in my signature

just my 2c.

Laterz...

 

[pimpfromdayone]

I agree with much of what you say, except the part about showing the emotion you are feeling. Everyone, even the best looking, smartest, most sociable, happiest people have their ups and downs (I have some confidence swings myself from what I think to be a combo of underlying depression (runs in family) and social anxiety), but that doesn't mean you can't try to improve the situation yourself. There are many people on here who were previously way too shy to even speak to women, and now they are doing way more than that. They weren't masking anything but their inexperience. I don't think anyone is completely extroverted or introverted, and I really don't think it matters... being extroverted just increases your chances of getting women. There is not a dam-n thing wrong with being introverted, and many of the smartest people are, but they just don't have the opportunities to get women like extroverts do, unless they change their behaviors and start developing a more outgoing personality that is essential to success in this area. Depressed people also have a major disadvantage. Women don't give a fu-ck why you're depressed, they just know they don't want you. Most of them are depressed enough as it is, they don't need a depressed bf. If you start acting undepressed, perhaps you will become undepressed, who knows. If you need prescription pills, by all means do so, but don't rely on them. You can trick women into thinking you're not depressed at all, and then from there, they will already like you so much they won't care. That's how I see it at least, but what do I know. This site is about self-improvement, no matter what your current situation is, and that's what it's all about.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

You sure give good advice on an internet forum while you have 3 koks stuffed in your mouth.

 

[pimpfromdayone]

Yeah, women are supposed to have less confidence than men anyway. I don't want a woman who thinks she runs the world, and there are many who act like that these days
I want a FEMININE woman, not afraid to express her feelings, who wants me to take care of her, who wants to feel loved, etc. If you get a woman who thinks she doesn't need you, get out of there.

It's funny Jcrew how that girl was criticizing you when it was she who had the biggest problems. That's often how it works out. They say people who treat others like that are really the weakest of all.