You know man, if you would pay attention to the successful guys you would actually realize that men are the end choosers not the women
Women will choose a guy in the sense that she will be receptive to him, but finally it is the guy who is choosing as he can accept the courtship process or decline it
As an idea of the woman is mentally ok and not a hoe, a quality guy (that is also at least a bit experienced + ok mentally ) is not as replaceable as you you put it
If you would pay attention yourself, you'd see that life and success are not defined by those who make it, but those who do not; if every man hits the same place, the expectation placed upon the common man rises.
Success is not something just every man can accomplish, it is a burden to be successful because it requires the denial of the common things that those who are not successful flounder and enjoy in, like for example the presence of a woman in the first place.
Only a fool believes he is strengthened by the temptations around him, those same fools are the ones who give definition to what success is and is not, just as you have here; a man who believes a woman to be his purpose can never truly succeed, this is the most basic aspect of game, one you yourself have failed to recognize.
When I say "I viewed a woman as an object" that is exactly what I mean, I viewed a woman as my purpose and was doomed from the start because of it, I assigned her the fate that I chose for her, I assumed I owned her, but we don't own anything there, not even our children, we can only share in ownership at best.
Even the successful man realizes he is only a piece of the whole, whether it be a business he leads, a social circle he inhabits, a woman that looks up to him, it's all the same, just a piece. Any man who thinks himself the whole is the biggest fool of all.