Lesson Learned: Hesitate or Masturbate

[youngmack]

That sh1t is soo true yo ! Hesitate or masturbate. There was this new transfer student who had English with me. Shes banging (especially) her body. As soon as i seen her i told myself im going to get her number. Days went by and each day i told myself that im gona approach her and get that math, but i kept *****ing out.

Three months later i still haven't approached her and today i seen her with some dude in my grade hugging up at the basketball game. Damn that **** hit me hard. Lesson learned yo.

Another thing: The main reason why i didnt approach her is because i dont think im that attractive/Low self esteem/Low confidence. I hear that cold approaches don't really work for guys that aren't up there in looks

 

[NewAndImproved]

Just approach man. That's the only way to know whether your limiting beliefs are true or not. Regret sucks. Far more than rejection. Once you finally figure this out for real then you'll be on your way.

And for the record, I would say good looks matter more for night game in the club, where there are so many distractions and stimuli.

 

[Gunner26]

I know exactly what you mean youngmack, it's a horrible feeling. It happened to me last year at uni about march time, I saw a girl that I thought was gorgeous and I even caught her looking at me a couple times here and there.

Skip forward to October, I still have no idea what her name is and I see her all cozy with some guy one night out. It felt terrible. I felt like a little ***** and a *****.

Sorted it out though. Since the turn of the year I have spoken to this girl twice. Saw her at the bar, so I just sucked it up went over and said hi. I chickened out of asking for her number, but I got her name and I saw some interest on her part. Next time I see her I'm getting the digits. A friend even said that she was out of my league. ***** please, it's not the looks that matter.

Gunner

 

[Gray The Prince]

I know exactly what you mean youngmack, it's a horrible feeling. It happened to me last year at uni about march time, I saw a girl that I thought was gorgeous and I even caught her looking at me a couple times here and there.

Skip forward to October, I still have no idea what her name is and I see her all cozy with some guy one night out. It felt terrible. I felt like a little ***** and a *****.

Sorted it out though. Since the turn of the year I have spoken to this girl twice. Saw her at the bar, so I just sucked it up went over and said hi. I chickened out of asking for her number, but I got her name and I saw some interest on her part. Next time I see her I'm getting the digits. A friend even said that she was out of my league. ***** please, it's not the looks that matter.

Gunner

They actually do. They're just not everythintg.

 

[Gunner26]

@gray - I didn't specify properly what I meant by looks not mattering. What I meant was that it should not be your view of your looks that prevent you from approaching a woman, as OP seems to have done in this instance.

Insecurity about your looks is no reason not to approach a woman, for all you know she may have completly different ideas about what makes a guy hot then you.

 

[Gray The Prince]

@gray - I didn't specify properly what I meant by looks not mattering. What I meant was that it should not be your view of your looks that prevent you from approaching a woman, as OP seems to have done in this instance.

Insecurity about your looks is no reason not to approach a woman, for all you know she may have completly different ideas about what makes a guy hot then you.

Ah ok, there ya go. That, I agree 100% with.

 

[Wolfbones]

I'm just like you, YoungMack. Though my selfconfidence and selfesteem aren't low. I'm just not motivated enough to make a change. I have my reasons, but yet I need someone to push me off the edge. I'm starting with the cold approaches soon, and my looks are actually unfortunate haha. However, I am very hygienic, dress well and smell nice. There's nothing I can fix about my face though. But that's okay, 'cause I've got my s/c and s/e.

 

[Fatal Jay]

no you guys just afraid of the word no

the world isn't about you, you know what makes a don juan a don juan, hearing the word no to the point it makes you want to keep asking every hot girl for the number.

Its a number game,expect the word no, or expect to be lonely for the rest of your life

you will get to a point where you will be numb to the word no.

and you guys mos def not there yet, I can tell you guys are highschoolers

 

[Gunner26]

I'm not there yet no. I'm no where near where I want to be, however that's not the point. Point is I know, and OP knows now too what to do in this situation. That is progress.

You grab your nuts and do it anyway, because if you hesitate, you masturbate. It's a mistake, I at least, know I will not be making again. Hence why I have spoken to my girl in question since realising what a ***** I was being.

Yea maybe I am still a little scared of the word no. But at least I'm trying to get over it.

Also not a highschooler.

Gunner

 

[Gray The Prince]

no you guys just afraid of the word no

the world isn't about you, you know what makes a don juan a don juan, hearing the word no to the point it makes you want to keep asking every hot girl for the number.

Its a number game,expect the word no, or expect to be lonely for the rest of your life

you will get to a point where you will be numb to the word no.

and you guys mos def not there yet, I can tell you guys are highschoolers

What area of Texas do you reside in?

 

[Wolfbones]

no you guys just afraid of the word no

the world isn't about you, you know what makes a don juan a don juan, hearing the word no to the point it makes you want to keep asking every hot girl for the number.

Its a number game,expect the word no, or expect to be lonely for the rest of your life

you will get to a point where you will be numb to the word no.

and you guys mos def not there yet, I can tell you guys are highschoolers

Yeah, I'm a highschooler. You got that one right. I'm a junior.

How do you guys push yourself if you guys want something? I need some pushing. I've seen some cute girls around school that I've never talked to before.

 

[Fatal Jay]

Yeah, I'm a highschooler. You got that one right. I'm a junior.

How do you guys push yourself if you guys want something? I need some pushing. I've seen some cute girls around school that I've never talked to before.

rejection, you treat that ish like its your best friend, rejection will make you numb and get many numbers in the end, if your scared of rejection, then she will make you a lonely lunatic.

and grey the prince im from east texas

 

[youngmack]

Yeah man this sh1t sucks. I've never approached before and its mainly because of what i said in the OP. But i guess ima have to just do it anyway

 

[Wolfbones]

Yeah man this sh1t sucks. I've never approached before and its mainly because of what i said in the OP. But i guess ima have to just do it anyway

I too have to start approaching yet. Best of luck to you, bro!

 

[betheman]

As soon as i seen her i told myself im going to get her number. Days went by and each day i told myself that im gona approach her and get that math, but i kept *****ing out....

Three months later i still haven't approached her and today i seen her with some dude in my grade hugging up at the basketball game. Damn that **** hit me hard. Lesson learned yo.

Another thing: The main reason why i didnt approach her is because i dont think im that attractive/Low self esteem/Low confidence. I hear that cold approaches don't really work for guys that aren't up there in looks

the facts; Cold approaches or any approach will have an end result, the end result maybe you get blown out? now, this is not the be all and end all as your subconscious and ego will have you believe, yeah it sucks however how you get over it depends on how you decide to handle it.

"Three months later i still haven't approached her and today i seen her with some dude in my grade hugging up at the basketball game. Damn that **** hit me hard." had you approached her and been blown out, you would not have these feeling, guaranteed! next time you delay an approach think back on this regret, is 5 mins of set back worth it? the logical answer is of course no. this is part of the mindset you need to take into the approach, its an effedctive means to allow you to move on instead of here you are 3 months later still wondering..what if??

 

[Poonani Maker]

I know you dudes young, but I haven't mb'd in almost 8 weeks. Haven't hesitated either, just bidding my time. Mbing is BAD no matter if you lose the chick or not. Sure, you can't get away with playing with your percker/balls, but just don't come man. It TRULY saps your manhood, it just does. You are TTTtotallly attractive to chicks when you Don't mb for loooong periods of time. You just naturally exude cvm from your pours, the chicks sense it, they want you period. When it snows or it's really cold out I'll tend to hunker down a few weeks and not chase tail and this sometimes leads to nude-picture-looking-up and potential for mbing. When I mb, all is lost, I lose my appeal to women, That fast, in an instant. When I don't ever mb, my abilities, my character, my charisma, my ability to voice things in an engaging manner to suck in the chicks gets elevated or amplified. It all becomes easy or fun to play with girls' emotions. When I'm shut down from mbing, I can not and will not toy with girls as much. Right now, as I type, I'm at a pinnacle of non-mb state. My day today reflected that cause almost (ok, I'm saying ALL) all women whether they initially liked me or not (they eventually DID) were happy to have me around, all smiley. Also, I'm really healthy via diet and, of course, fitness, work. Been drinking green tea morning and evening Every day for over a month..finally following doctor's orders (from 2 years ago) to drink the stuff and he's right. Green foods also important, salads and such, in moderation.

 

[Purefilth]

I know you dudes young, but I haven't mb'd in almost 8 weeks. Haven't hesitated either, just bidding my time. Mbing is BAD no matter if you lose the chick or not. Sure, you can't get away with playing with your percker/balls, but just don't come man. It TRULY saps your manhood, it just does. You are TTTtotallly attractive to chicks when you Don't mb for loooong periods of time. You just naturally exude cvm from your pours, the chicks sense it, they want you period. When it snows or it's really cold out I'll tend to hunker down a few weeks and not chase tail and this sometimes leads to nude-picture-looking-up and potential for mbing. When I mb, all is lost, I lose my appeal to women, That fast, in an instant. When I don't ever mb, my abilities, my character, my charisma, my ability to voice things in an engaging manner to suck in the chicks gets elevated or amplified. It all becomes easy or fun to play with girls' emotions. When I'm shut down from mbing, I can not and will not toy with girls as much. Right now, as I type, I'm at a pinnacle of non-mb state. My day today reflected that cause almost (ok, I'm saying ALL) all women whether they initially liked me or not (they eventually DID) were happy to have me around, all smiley. Also, I'm really healthy via diet and, of course, fitness, work. Been drinking green tea morning and evening Every day for over a month..finally following doctor's orders (from 2 years ago) to drink the stuff and he's right. Green foods also important, salads and such, in moderation.

Theyre younger than you so they can get away with fapping. Testosterone levels dont start to drop till mid 30's, at their age test levels are still on the rise/ sitting constant.

not saying you're wrong here - you're right, just youngers can get away with it.