Less time spent increases her IL?

[SoSuaveDude]

ok I only see this girl once a week at most. I know she has deep feelings for me too, but should I up the amount of time we see each other per week. is seeing a girl once per week adviceable to remain somewhat mysterious, and maintain her high IL?

 

[rtrev64]

:nono: I would say, that you should not up the amount time spent with her. I made that mistake and was dumped because well, I was not mysterious anymore, I was her lap dog. yes, that will happen to you if you see her more than once a week.

You should up the amount of time of not seeing her.. hangout with your buddies more, do stuff and keep your option open for other chicks too..

Just my opinion..

 

[EA Gold]

Well another option you would be to up the amount of times you see her per week but keep the amount of time seeing her very brief like you have things to do. Have the attitude of her almost winning you over but at the same time you still not sure about her and you not wanting to commit to anything.

You might also want to tell her things your very passionate about then cut her off and escape.

 

[Jariel]

When you get into a relationship, it's fine, even necessary, but in the early stages make sure you limit your time together and your contact.

Like rtrev, I've been dumped before for failing to keep up the challenge. She was acting quite smitten with me, calling me all the time and wanting to meet every day. I got complacent, started answering every call, replying to her texts and moving our dates forward. She soon lost interest.

Sometimes you have to do the opposite of what feels right. You would think that more time spent together would strengthen your relationship, when the opposite is true.

 

[rtrev64]

When you get into a relationship, it's fine, even necessary, but in the early stages make sure you limit your time together and your contact.

Like rtrev, I've been dumped before for failing to keep up the challenge. She was acting quite smitten with me, calling me all the time and wanting to meet every day. I got complacent, started answering every call, replying to her texts and moving our dates forward. She soon lost interest.

Sometimes you have to do the opposite of what feels right. You would think that more time spent together would strengthen your relationship, when the opposite is true.

EXACTO!!

 

[Diaforetikos]

For me, it was about finding the right balance between too much and too little. They Kyle eithe lose interest since I didn't follow through like I should have, trying to seem as if I was busy and disinterested. Or I would give too much attention too soon, and they would not care as much.

You just have to find the balance that works for you.

 

[zekko]

You just have to find the balance that works for you.

I agree you should find the right balance.
There are some factors missing here, like what your age is and how long you've been seeing this girl.

Ultimately, it depends on what you (and she) want from this relationship. Since you talk about "deep feelings" I'm assuming you guys are wanting an LTR. If so, I think that you are never going to be able to take things to the next level ro find out if she's the real deal without spending more time with her.

If she gets bored with you and loses interest, then she wasn't the right one for you, charge it to the game. You're lucky you found out sooner rather than later.

Being mysterious is okay, but if you're wanting to get serious with each other, sooner or later you're going to have to let her get to know you. Besides, it sounds like she's already attracted to you.
The better the relationship, the fewer the games you play with each other. That's what I think anyway.