learnt so much tonight - small FR-

[Packers2010]

one of my wings told me to come out to one of the smaller club spots. the place closed at 12 and since i had to catch the train home. ( which never happened because they was cancelled on my line :S)

i will keep this on the shorter side. i did approach about 10 sets or more. though i'm only going to mention the ones i learned from

i talk to this girl at the bar while she was getting a drink. i was talking to her, but she wasn't hooking very well. so i left. BIG MISTAKE. i easy could have still talked to her for at least another 3 mins easy. i feel like i am ejecting from sets WAY to early. my plowing ability is not there. not sure how to fix it. pointers?

the next set was a auburn hair chick. to say i was into her was an understatement! i lovvvveeee girls with auburn hair. it's like it't not read but it's not brown. it's just perfect

so i open her, with hey my name is packers and with my hand our the hand shake. i like this opener. i didn't hear her name so i pulled her in close. then i said i loved her hair and touched it a little. ( the grab so good maybe do it more solid next time. ) then she is like. hey sorry I'm going with my friends. as her friend tugs at her arm. so i turn back to my friends and say " whatever" like i was pissed off and ishe is like " i'm sorry nice to meet you"

i have no idea why i tired to freeze her out. i shouldn't have done that. when i turned back to my friend he told me i should have pushed harder. which i should have.

the last set i am going to mention was good. ( not the last set of the night)

so i see this blond all alone and looking bored. i approach with. "you look bored. " she tells me she is waiting for her friend. and it goes from there. we talk about hiphop and other things. i don't remember how the convo goes fully but these things stick out.

while waiting for her friend to show up. she complimented me on how i smelt. i wear think glasses i also had on a red polo ( so going to wear more polos to the club. sure it's dressed down but you should see some of the scrubs in the club. i felt OVER dressed. ) she said i looked like i was out of the big bang theory ( no idea what to make of this) she also told me i was a nice guy ( noooo! )

i tried to get her to dance because a good song came on. but she wouldn't move. her friend showed up and i met her also. witch was good.

i'm pretty sure she was a hb7 ot 8 so i felt like i did pretty well. i could notice she was really entitled. and sure of herself. it was pretty good to have a 10 min convo with her. though when her firend's how up a guy did too. so i just left.

i really need to learn to stick in there. i just eject so often. the problem is. i'm ejecting before the interaction can get good or have any chance. it's like the girl has to be SUPER into me in the first min for me to stay. witch is asking WAY to much.

i'm so happy i went out tonight. last Saturday i went out and it was awful. all my sets blew up in my face. then i stated drinking in a club that is $10 a drink so burn threw 4 of those to try kill my AA didn't work.

i always though AA would be with me all the time. but tonight i didn't see it much aT ALL. i had never been to this club before ether. i'm not sure why this night turned out to be good. ( when i say good i mean good for me. because 1) yes i didn't get any number or any sex. but for me this is a win)

i feel like if i can sting together more nights like this i will be well on my way.

if anyone can tell me what i did wrong or right or just wants to give me a well done post away!

 

[Kbomb]

Sounds like you did just fine. Your starting the process and it seems like your well on your way. If there was any advice, don't get emotional. Be more aloof to the reactions and actions of the girls you will meet. Be playful and humorous, and if/when things go bad, move along smoothly. The very fact that you can always approach another girl/girls is proof positive nothing was lost, and truthful insight was gained.

 

[Mike32ct]

Good report. I'll give you a tip...

I don't think of it in terms of "plowing" but more so being unaffected by dead spots in the conversation.

It's easier to do this when you have a legitimate reason to look straight ahead. I like to be seated at the bar and chat with women next to me. Then if the conversation has a quiet spot, I can sip my drink or look at the TV screen (ie look straight ahead) rather than feel uncomfortable looking directly at them in silence.

 

[DonGorgon]

ummm you didn't actually do anything ... or did i miss something?

 

[Packers2010]

ummm you didn't actually do anything ... or did i miss something?

i did. but i did to me. not to you.


i'm still not that very good at this, so i don't get a lot of what YOU would call " results" ( what i call a result is pretty much what happened last night. in the future i know this will change)

i know i didn't do any thing " wrong" i just wanted to post having a good night for a change because Saturday was BRUTAL!

I think things have to move fast. i assume because the environment is forever changing.

the hb 8 i was with is an example. she was all alone i Should have been all up in her **** then before her friends came.

sometimes though it's hard to tell. i feel like the hotter girls hb say 8 up really " know what's going on" and can converse well so sometimes a guy like me can get the wrong idea. IE. shes not into me but because she doesn't can all " non interested i need to go with my friends kind of thing" i take it for she likes me. when really it's just an extension of her personality and is being nice.