backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Alot can be learned in the game of life.
There are two points I want to go over, that get talked about, but I don't think many people pay much attention to, because they run into the same problems.
Most guys here, are what I would call.. unfinished.. and that's not ment to be degrading.
If you still consider yourself to be an AFC, you are unfinished. If you are out of shape, don't know how to take care of yourself, dont have any goals and just want to bang women, you are an unfinished person. This board teaches you to ahve a l meaningful life outside of women.
Now, most guys here don't undrestand the art of timing. What I mean by that is this.
Everytime you are seen, EVERYTIME, everyone you run into has a prececption of you. If you are unfinished, it will be that of an average joe.
to not be seen as an average Joe, you have to be as close to a finished product as you can be.
Most guys take an unfinished product, themselves, and court it out in front of a woman who doesn't know or care what you are trying to do in your life.
This 9 out of 10 times will lead to rejection, espically if you think the girl is better than you.
Then you run back here, wondering where it all went wrong.
I promise you, if you work on yourself, find things other than women to keep you occupied while you are on your path.. once you hit the scence, you will have more ***** thrown at you than you could imagine.
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Another thing I want to talk about is walking away.
Walking away is the most powerful thing a man can do.
However, the reason I didn't list this first, is because for a woman to apprciate the value of you walking away, you yourself must present some type of value.
It doesn't matter if you "give a little" and stop talking to her, cut her off, if you present so little that you can be replaced at the snap of a finger, she wil just replace you. But if you are a Man umong men, and you are walking away because you know you deserve better, it's a win win situtation.. more times than not the girl will realize you are diffrent and come back, and if she doesn't, do you really want a girl that doesn't reconzie what you are?
You build respect and honor when you are not around. Not by talking to her and building a rapport with her. Note that like and respect are to different things. My ex, before we dated, didn't like the fact that when she pissed me off, I would go days, even weeks without calling her, but it happened enough to where she respected the fact that she knew she would have to get her act together if she wanted a chance with me.. and I made no bones that I was seeing other women while she was "acting" either.. that what she gets for acting an ass.
Most guys think of the dating game like.. a 40 yard dash.. Want to get there as fast as possible and if you fall down, damn, you lost.
No no no no no
Meeting women is more like... a marathon. About half the time, when I get a girls number, it's a girl I have worked on for a while.. not because I couldn't have number closed at first, but I want to peak her interest as much as possible before moving foward. It's really like war.
Example.. this girl I was seeing last year. I met her the end of June.. I didn't get her number and start messing around with her until September 7th (don't ask how I remember the date).
If I would have asked for her number in say.. June or July, I have no doubt she would have given it to me... but she would have flaked...
I probably could have in august and she not flake, but I knew on that day everything was just right.
We were playing cat and mouse for about 2 months, it was ovbious to everyone.. then one day I uped the ante by letting her see another girl I was messing around with, when we just so happened to go on a date at the resturant she worked at... let her see her compition.. and the very next week she was spending the night with me.
See, the mistake most guys make, is they try all or none the first time they meet a girl. If I get a negative vibe when I meet a girl, my entire goal is to simply mantain my reputation.. simple as that. Not date her, not **** her, nothing... just don't let her leave with her thinking I'm anything but a good looking guy that ovbiously respects himself. Everything else will come in time.
This girl I started messing with recently, I have known for a year and a half she used to be my next door neighboor. I asked her over my place the first day I moved in, she said she was taken, which was true, her BF lived with her. But nevertheless I got shot down.
Instead of badtalking her, becoming an *******, or anythingl ike that, I smiled at her, even her BF.. Was always nice with them. Invited them both out when I wanted to go out, as they didn't know any of the places to hang out at.
That entire time, after I got rejected.. i could tell she though I was cute, just the way she looked at me, but nevertheless, I'm not trying to win a beauty pagent, I'm trying to get laid so I had work to do.
I let her see I was a fun guy.. I ended up sleeping with a girl from her job.. it was funny because she was coming out of my place early in the morning and then ran into each other. I flirted with her, never being overly friendly, but at the same time, being cool, but not pushing anything.
Then I caught her about 3 weeks ago by herself without her BF and she basically ****ed me on the dance floor in front of her friends.
Well, let me wrap this up. Stop thinking of women as battles, but as a big war, with little battles that end up leading to the big prize.
There are two points I want to go over, that get talked about, but I don't think many people pay much attention to, because they run into the same problems.
Most guys here, are what I would call.. unfinished.. and that's not ment to be degrading.
If you still consider yourself to be an AFC, you are unfinished. If you are out of shape, don't know how to take care of yourself, dont have any goals and just want to bang women, you are an unfinished person. This board teaches you to ahve a l meaningful life outside of women.
Now, most guys here don't undrestand the art of timing. What I mean by that is this.
Everytime you are seen, EVERYTIME, everyone you run into has a prececption of you. If you are unfinished, it will be that of an average joe.
to not be seen as an average Joe, you have to be as close to a finished product as you can be.
Most guys take an unfinished product, themselves, and court it out in front of a woman who doesn't know or care what you are trying to do in your life.
This 9 out of 10 times will lead to rejection, espically if you think the girl is better than you.
Then you run back here, wondering where it all went wrong.
I promise you, if you work on yourself, find things other than women to keep you occupied while you are on your path.. once you hit the scence, you will have more ***** thrown at you than you could imagine.
____________________________________
Another thing I want to talk about is walking away.
Walking away is the most powerful thing a man can do.
However, the reason I didn't list this first, is because for a woman to apprciate the value of you walking away, you yourself must present some type of value.
It doesn't matter if you "give a little" and stop talking to her, cut her off, if you present so little that you can be replaced at the snap of a finger, she wil just replace you. But if you are a Man umong men, and you are walking away because you know you deserve better, it's a win win situtation.. more times than not the girl will realize you are diffrent and come back, and if she doesn't, do you really want a girl that doesn't reconzie what you are?
You build respect and honor when you are not around. Not by talking to her and building a rapport with her. Note that like and respect are to different things. My ex, before we dated, didn't like the fact that when she pissed me off, I would go days, even weeks without calling her, but it happened enough to where she respected the fact that she knew she would have to get her act together if she wanted a chance with me.. and I made no bones that I was seeing other women while she was "acting" either.. that what she gets for acting an ass.
Most guys think of the dating game like.. a 40 yard dash.. Want to get there as fast as possible and if you fall down, damn, you lost.
No no no no no
Meeting women is more like... a marathon. About half the time, when I get a girls number, it's a girl I have worked on for a while.. not because I couldn't have number closed at first, but I want to peak her interest as much as possible before moving foward. It's really like war.
Example.. this girl I was seeing last year. I met her the end of June.. I didn't get her number and start messing around with her until September 7th (don't ask how I remember the date).
If I would have asked for her number in say.. June or July, I have no doubt she would have given it to me... but she would have flaked...
I probably could have in august and she not flake, but I knew on that day everything was just right.
We were playing cat and mouse for about 2 months, it was ovbious to everyone.. then one day I uped the ante by letting her see another girl I was messing around with, when we just so happened to go on a date at the resturant she worked at... let her see her compition.. and the very next week she was spending the night with me.
See, the mistake most guys make, is they try all or none the first time they meet a girl. If I get a negative vibe when I meet a girl, my entire goal is to simply mantain my reputation.. simple as that. Not date her, not **** her, nothing... just don't let her leave with her thinking I'm anything but a good looking guy that ovbiously respects himself. Everything else will come in time.
This girl I started messing with recently, I have known for a year and a half she used to be my next door neighboor. I asked her over my place the first day I moved in, she said she was taken, which was true, her BF lived with her. But nevertheless I got shot down.
Instead of badtalking her, becoming an *******, or anythingl ike that, I smiled at her, even her BF.. Was always nice with them. Invited them both out when I wanted to go out, as they didn't know any of the places to hang out at.
That entire time, after I got rejected.. i could tell she though I was cute, just the way she looked at me, but nevertheless, I'm not trying to win a beauty pagent, I'm trying to get laid so I had work to do.
I let her see I was a fun guy.. I ended up sleeping with a girl from her job.. it was funny because she was coming out of my place early in the morning and then ran into each other. I flirted with her, never being overly friendly, but at the same time, being cool, but not pushing anything.
Then I caught her about 3 weeks ago by herself without her BF and she basically ****ed me on the dance floor in front of her friends.
Well, let me wrap this up. Stop thinking of women as battles, but as a big war, with little battles that end up leading to the big prize.