The Don Juan, the real you, the ideal man, whatever you call it is the state of being a man seeks to achieve to realize his full potential and better himself. If you are going to build yourself up to become something so grand, then you must create a strong foundation for it, like one would lay a foundation for a house. Without the proper foundation, the house will fall over or collapse on itself, an event that is not desirable by any stretch of the imagination. The foundation, which you want to lay for yourself comes from mastery over one’s self.
Controlling the Body:
Take a walk through a public place sometime and study those walking around you. Some people walk in a strict manner that gives them an almost inhuman quality, others walk as if their body is running away with itself making them look foolish and stupid. Yet there are others who walk with a certain grace, purpose, and control that radiate confidence and power. It is these people who seem to gather attention and naturally draw the gaze of all upon themselves, they invite the judgment of others and pay no heed to it. To have control over one’s body, you must have the proper mindset. If you are a coward, your ******d actions will betray this. If you are desperate, you will end up acting like a dog begging for table scraps. But if you believe in yourself, temper your actions with courage and confidence, others will see this and be drawn to it. To control your body so that it reflects who you are and what you stand for you must first examine your mind and adjust it accordingly.
The Mind:
Philosophers talk a great deal about the mind, and what makes up the mind. As far as I am concerned it is the place where I store my thoughts and memories. The mind is not a set thing; it can be adjusted, manipulated, destroyed and rebuilt. The problem is that other people usually create our mindsets for us. If you don’t believe me look at how feminism has changed the male persona and made it wrong for men to essentially be men. (Since we have all heard the great debate behind Feminism, I’m not going to beat a dead horse further.) The trick is to tune out other people, and only care about one person’s opinion about you, and that’s your own opinion. If you feel unhappy about something, then strive to change it. Do you think you’re a coward? Then being to identify actions that a confident person would undertake, then emulate them and practice them. Eventually you will replace cowardice with courage, doubt with confidence. You must first change your actions inwardly by thinking about being confident and courageous, but you must act this out in ******d actions. (I.E. Approaching a girl and going for a number close.) The two big things you will have to deal with are fear and desire.
The Fear:
People identify the fear of rejection as a greater fear than death. Know this, it is the fear of rejection that is the death of your life. You will never know what it means to live if you allow your fears to prevent you from taking risks. The British SAS have an excellent motto, one that you should keep with you and apply it to all aspects of your life:
“He who dares, wins.”
It is the risk takers that change society, they are also the one’s that end up sleeping with the women you dream about. The best way to defeat fear is to meet it face to face. Afraid of heights? Climb a mountain. Afraid of falling? Go skydiving. Afraid of rejection? Go ask a girl out on a date. The point is that once you face your fears and go through with it, you are left with only yourself. Fear is and will always be just an illusion that holds you back, and each time defeat fear, you become more powerful as you master what holds you back from greatness.
The Desire:
There is nothing wrong with desire, its what you do with that desire that gets you into trouble. There is a difference between having desire, and being ruled by it. Though you have desire, you should make all effort to appear to have no desire. If you cannot then your actions and presence will reek of desperation and cravenness. Women don’t dig this, because desire fuels their egotism and gives them “power.” But they don’t want this power over men, because you cannot love what you control. We love things that we can never truly have, but when those things choose to love us in return it makes it all the better. When one masters their desire they are able to control it, by controlling it we can put it away until we deem fit to use it. When a woman sees that their “powers” have no effect on a man, that he does not desire her for being a woman. She finds this attractive because he is not like the rest of the sheep because he does not have that “one thing” on his mind constantly.
Now all this theoretical talk is all fine and good, but without ways to practice it, is no better than an inspirational speech.
Ways to be more confident:
1. Work out, when you witness your own physical power your ego will feed off this.
2. Have your own opinion, it takes balls to speak your mind, the path of least resistance is very tempting, but agreeing with everyone all the time leaves you no chance to develop your own thoughts and beliefs.
3. Praise and compliments are worthless. Though it’s nice to have smoke blown up your ass, it gives you false confidence. You already know what makes you great, why do you need some else to tell you. Instead seek to constantly improve yourself; observing your effort is far more rewarding than the praise of flatterers.
4. Practice. Go out and seek the numbers of women you would like to date, bang or have a LTR with. Despite what you may believe, there is no failure when you do this, since you learn from these encounters you will become more experienced in these matters.
5. Believe in yourself. You are the prize, she must win you over, not the other way around.
How to control desire and use to your advantage:
1. Realize that you can have at anytime 10 women willing to sleep with you make this apart of your actions. You have nothing to lose, and you are held to nothing.
2. Evaluate women are how cool they are to hang out with. Personality and looks must go hand in hand. If she looks good but is human garbage then why are you dumpster diving?
3. Do not tolerate bull****, ask yourself if a guy was doing this why I let it slide? Women respect a man who can stand up to others, whether they are men or women.
4. Realize sex is not the end all be all. Sure its nice, but if you got nothing else that attracts you to her about after a week all you have left is some used goods.
5. Stop jerking off. This is a big one, women can tell the difference between a guy who gets some and a guy who has to give himself some. Also by denying yourself in the respect you gain control over your desire by fighting it, and women’s charms will be less effective. I’ve also notice you exude something in this state and women seem more receptive and attracted to you.
The best approach:
The one that is timely, confident and without fear.
The best phone convo:
The one that is timely, to the point, friendly and confident.
The best kiss:
One that is gentle, 5 seconds long and is carried out in a smooth manner.
The best way to get sex:
You shouldn’t have to ask for it, your actions should build up the levels of sexual tension so high that she should feel that she needs a bikini because she is getting so wet.
The best way to build up that sexual tension:
Give her some tension and take it away later. Give her some physical contact but back off. Make her think your going for kiss and then kiss her check. Make her think your going for a sex close and then just suddenly say good night and leave. It will leave them confused, excited and horny. Don’t hold out, or make it drag on forever. Simply let her get a little further each time, to entice her to continue. Make her feel as if she is conquering you when in fact she is dancing to your tune, but be sure she knows that she could lose you at any moment and she must be attentive to the “signs” you toss her.
The great secret behind all women:
There is no secret; they are far simpler than you make them out to be. The reason why they confuse you and make you wonder so much is that you try to use logic to analyze their emotionally charged actions. Believe all women even hot women are a dime a dozen, what separates the cream from the cr@p is personality.
How you should treat women:
Nothing special about them, until you find that one they claim exists.
When you think you found the “one:”
If she is driving for marriage or further commitment she is not the one. The one is going to happy enough to be by your side as your girlfriend or significant other, marriage is just a formality.
You’ll notice that this is not an in depth guide, this is not a how to, I will not lead you by the hand. These are merely goals and guidelines to show you what is worth achieving. Only you can do this, you have to learn it for yourself. The more experience you get the more concepts become easier to grasp. Once you understand, things become natural. I promise nothing to you, because I can make you do these things are become a better person, that will always and be best left to you alone.
-Grey Fox
Controlling the Body:
Take a walk through a public place sometime and study those walking around you. Some people walk in a strict manner that gives them an almost inhuman quality, others walk as if their body is running away with itself making them look foolish and stupid. Yet there are others who walk with a certain grace, purpose, and control that radiate confidence and power. It is these people who seem to gather attention and naturally draw the gaze of all upon themselves, they invite the judgment of others and pay no heed to it. To have control over one’s body, you must have the proper mindset. If you are a coward, your ******d actions will betray this. If you are desperate, you will end up acting like a dog begging for table scraps. But if you believe in yourself, temper your actions with courage and confidence, others will see this and be drawn to it. To control your body so that it reflects who you are and what you stand for you must first examine your mind and adjust it accordingly.
The Mind:
Philosophers talk a great deal about the mind, and what makes up the mind. As far as I am concerned it is the place where I store my thoughts and memories. The mind is not a set thing; it can be adjusted, manipulated, destroyed and rebuilt. The problem is that other people usually create our mindsets for us. If you don’t believe me look at how feminism has changed the male persona and made it wrong for men to essentially be men. (Since we have all heard the great debate behind Feminism, I’m not going to beat a dead horse further.) The trick is to tune out other people, and only care about one person’s opinion about you, and that’s your own opinion. If you feel unhappy about something, then strive to change it. Do you think you’re a coward? Then being to identify actions that a confident person would undertake, then emulate them and practice them. Eventually you will replace cowardice with courage, doubt with confidence. You must first change your actions inwardly by thinking about being confident and courageous, but you must act this out in ******d actions. (I.E. Approaching a girl and going for a number close.) The two big things you will have to deal with are fear and desire.
The Fear:
People identify the fear of rejection as a greater fear than death. Know this, it is the fear of rejection that is the death of your life. You will never know what it means to live if you allow your fears to prevent you from taking risks. The British SAS have an excellent motto, one that you should keep with you and apply it to all aspects of your life:
“He who dares, wins.”
It is the risk takers that change society, they are also the one’s that end up sleeping with the women you dream about. The best way to defeat fear is to meet it face to face. Afraid of heights? Climb a mountain. Afraid of falling? Go skydiving. Afraid of rejection? Go ask a girl out on a date. The point is that once you face your fears and go through with it, you are left with only yourself. Fear is and will always be just an illusion that holds you back, and each time defeat fear, you become more powerful as you master what holds you back from greatness.
The Desire:
There is nothing wrong with desire, its what you do with that desire that gets you into trouble. There is a difference between having desire, and being ruled by it. Though you have desire, you should make all effort to appear to have no desire. If you cannot then your actions and presence will reek of desperation and cravenness. Women don’t dig this, because desire fuels their egotism and gives them “power.” But they don’t want this power over men, because you cannot love what you control. We love things that we can never truly have, but when those things choose to love us in return it makes it all the better. When one masters their desire they are able to control it, by controlling it we can put it away until we deem fit to use it. When a woman sees that their “powers” have no effect on a man, that he does not desire her for being a woman. She finds this attractive because he is not like the rest of the sheep because he does not have that “one thing” on his mind constantly.
Now all this theoretical talk is all fine and good, but without ways to practice it, is no better than an inspirational speech.
Ways to be more confident:
1. Work out, when you witness your own physical power your ego will feed off this.
2. Have your own opinion, it takes balls to speak your mind, the path of least resistance is very tempting, but agreeing with everyone all the time leaves you no chance to develop your own thoughts and beliefs.
3. Praise and compliments are worthless. Though it’s nice to have smoke blown up your ass, it gives you false confidence. You already know what makes you great, why do you need some else to tell you. Instead seek to constantly improve yourself; observing your effort is far more rewarding than the praise of flatterers.
4. Practice. Go out and seek the numbers of women you would like to date, bang or have a LTR with. Despite what you may believe, there is no failure when you do this, since you learn from these encounters you will become more experienced in these matters.
5. Believe in yourself. You are the prize, she must win you over, not the other way around.
How to control desire and use to your advantage:
1. Realize that you can have at anytime 10 women willing to sleep with you make this apart of your actions. You have nothing to lose, and you are held to nothing.
2. Evaluate women are how cool they are to hang out with. Personality and looks must go hand in hand. If she looks good but is human garbage then why are you dumpster diving?
3. Do not tolerate bull****, ask yourself if a guy was doing this why I let it slide? Women respect a man who can stand up to others, whether they are men or women.
4. Realize sex is not the end all be all. Sure its nice, but if you got nothing else that attracts you to her about after a week all you have left is some used goods.
5. Stop jerking off. This is a big one, women can tell the difference between a guy who gets some and a guy who has to give himself some. Also by denying yourself in the respect you gain control over your desire by fighting it, and women’s charms will be less effective. I’ve also notice you exude something in this state and women seem more receptive and attracted to you.
The best approach:
The one that is timely, confident and without fear.
The best phone convo:
The one that is timely, to the point, friendly and confident.
The best kiss:
One that is gentle, 5 seconds long and is carried out in a smooth manner.
The best way to get sex:
You shouldn’t have to ask for it, your actions should build up the levels of sexual tension so high that she should feel that she needs a bikini because she is getting so wet.
The best way to build up that sexual tension:
Give her some tension and take it away later. Give her some physical contact but back off. Make her think your going for kiss and then kiss her check. Make her think your going for a sex close and then just suddenly say good night and leave. It will leave them confused, excited and horny. Don’t hold out, or make it drag on forever. Simply let her get a little further each time, to entice her to continue. Make her feel as if she is conquering you when in fact she is dancing to your tune, but be sure she knows that she could lose you at any moment and she must be attentive to the “signs” you toss her.
The great secret behind all women:
There is no secret; they are far simpler than you make them out to be. The reason why they confuse you and make you wonder so much is that you try to use logic to analyze their emotionally charged actions. Believe all women even hot women are a dime a dozen, what separates the cream from the cr@p is personality.
How you should treat women:
Nothing special about them, until you find that one they claim exists.
When you think you found the “one:”
If she is driving for marriage or further commitment she is not the one. The one is going to happy enough to be by your side as your girlfriend or significant other, marriage is just a formality.
You’ll notice that this is not an in depth guide, this is not a how to, I will not lead you by the hand. These are merely goals and guidelines to show you what is worth achieving. Only you can do this, you have to learn it for yourself. The more experience you get the more concepts become easier to grasp. Once you understand, things become natural. I promise nothing to you, because I can make you do these things are become a better person, that will always and be best left to you alone.
-Grey Fox