Lay Report: Lost the virginity and very disappointed

[alakazam]

It all depends on you and your partner and somtimes just the situation...

I've had mediocre sex that just sucked, and I've had sex that literally blew my mind. (I was seeing fireworks).

Sex is a very mental thing, and hornier your mind gets the better it will be. Next time try making foreplay last for an hour or two and see what it's like when you finally get to the deed.

 

[Squid]

Originally posted by squirrels
Women are a journey, not a destination.

In today's society, the focus is on getting it and getting it right away. We're used to instant gratification through stuff like porn. The "enjoyment" comes from just dismantling a woman and learning how to get her hot and get her into it...and all the nuances and challenges and trials and tribulations of that experience, with sex being the grand finale.

I don't know how I'd feel about just banging a girl...I like getting intimate, I like foreplay, I like kissing, I like it when her breathing gets heavy, I like seeing her squirm. I like feeling her get wet down there, I like the way she tastes. I like the way her hair falls around my hips when she's going down on me. Those kinds of things.

People focus so much on "the act", acting like it's going to change their lives. It doesn't. It's just another fixation society has.

Enjoy the experience. And don't sit there and try to tell me it wasn't at least SOMEWHAT fun.

Squirrels, I agree with you 100%. It's "the game" that makes it so fun as well. Sex is like everything else in life, it's what you make of it.

 

[Dark Nimbus]

Originally posted by Mr. Delicious
Maybe the girl was loose. It was hard to get in but once inside its like I hardly felt anything?

I had the same thought when I first lost my virginity. I was turned off at how little I felt it and thought the girl was loose, even though she was a virgin just like me. Once you get better at it that thought will go away and you'll start feeling it more and more. I think masturbation numbs your member somewhat since it's more extreme, so it takes a while to feel the pleasure of a girl’s puss.

As far as sex being overrated, it is. It's the best free entertainment in life, but it's still not that big a deal, especially if you're getting it regularly. What Squirrels said is spot on, the chase is as important as the act itself, along with the subtle things along the way. Be thankful you didn't wait until you were married to find out just how overblown the idea of saving yourself is.

 

[Trance]

btw, my first time was good cause it was with someone i loved, and i enjoyed a lot sharing ourselves like that, but the feeling itself was nothing compared with the sex i had with my last LTR. We were making all sorts of horny stuff, and using situations and words to make it hotter, and it was just amazing sex.

Like everything in life, practice makes perfection. Enjoy sex ^_^

 

[legolas]

This is the single most important thread that every newbie should read and understand. Right on the money!!!

Sex is overrated!!! Just watch the Paris Hilton tape. It's lame.

Oh and btw, I'm tagging this thread. I'll save it later

 

[gentleman193]

About the Hormones

If your serotonin level is too *high* it impedes your sex drive. Prozac and those drugs do that. So does a lot of sunlight, turkey, magneisum, or some other foods. St. John's Wort, 5HTP, and other stuff like that. Sex will feel like *nothing* if serotonin is too high. I have experienced that and it felt like taking a piss, nothing more.

On the other hand, low serotonin level increases sex drive. You can crank it up naturally with kelp, high in iodine, it stimulates thyroid hormones which produce more sex hormones. The pills are super cheap at CVS.

So just imagine being 12 again and this time your hot baby sitter does give in to your pleading and make you a man. It would've felt like heaven on earth back then. By 20-something it just won't feel that good. Blame the hormones.

But crank up the sex drive as described above, lay of the little man for a week or two, and the next time you have sex it will feel fukking incredible. Of course you will last 2 minutes and your woman will be unhappy but who are we trying to please here anyway. Leave it to Sting to be the champion in that category.

Also note, if you try the kelp and you manage to master your domain, so to speak, you will turn into a barbarian. I think women sense the heightened sex drive, and so long as you don't drag them by the hair it could help your game.

 

[smooth666]

The process of making love is just great and it is much more than F***ing. I think there are a lot of better things in life than f**cking but hardly anything is better than making love to a women you really like.

If the f**ck did not feel good you might want to try:
a) other positions (missionary does not give me much either)
b) do more oral sex and the f**ck just as an add-on.
c) change partners and see how it goes

 

[dietzcoi]

It definitely depends on the compatibility of the partners.

You have to just find the right person.

It does not mean she is bad in bed, you two just don't match up.

She needs somebody who matches her and you do too....'

Don't give up. I guarantee it will get better (from personal experience)

Dietzcoi

 

[Life-Trainee]

Geez, are you people insane? I'm 22, I still have the excitement about sex as when I was 14. You just have to be inventive and try different things. If anything, it's the sex education or lack of to blame. The more you do it the better you become at it.

 

[c-note]

Maybe you are gay! lol j/k

 

[HollowHorizon]

Don't be a fool wrap your tool

 

[NewMan]

- don't judge it on the first time you did it. The first time I played Golf I was like - What the fvck is this? running around chasing this small little ball!!!! - with time you and it will get better.

- There are many different types of sex - maintenance sex, making love, Fvcking, revenge fvcking, slow, quick, dirty.... you name it. You've not experienced or experimented. Try this.

- Sex is a form of power. There is nothing like (in my opinion) having a woman there - wanting your every touch - on the verge of c#ming - and you have the power the grant that.

- there's also nothing like meeting a slvt in a bar - taking her back to HER place - just pulling her panties down - throwing her over the couch and fvcking the sh#t out of her - hard, agressive,m nasty fvcking.

- There's also nothing like finding a woman that you care about - and love. That you want to spend time with - that you love to touch - and making love to them - without a condom, knowing that your both juices are interwinded - c#ming inside a woman is probably for me the closest I will ever feel to her.

- finally - your young. You've got lot's of time to have sex and enjoy it. Experiement. It matter not how long it takes you to blow - you will eventually learn to have that under control. There are lot's of different kinds of women out there - your search has just begun for one that matches what YOU are looking for. Good luck, and I hope you find her - because when you do, it will be the best exerience in the world.

 

[Lingham]

Originally posted by legolas
This is the single most important thread that every newbie should read and understand. Right on the money!!!

Sex is overrated!!! Just watch the Paris Hilton tape. It's lame.

Oh and btw, I'm tagging this thread. I'll save it later

I agree. But ****. . . . . just about everything in life is highly over-rated. That anything we desire can completely and eternally make us satisfied is the great human myth. Complete satisfaction is not an earthly matter.

We need to be reminded so we don't become desperate or suffer too much desire.