Lay Report: Lost the virginity and very disappointed

[Mr. Delicious]

I used to believe in the whole waiting till marriage thing. Actually I still do but the past few months I decided I couldnt wait anymore. So recently I have been trying my best to lose the virginity because I really wanted to see what it was like and just to get it over with. I had been as far as third base with girls and enjoyed it.

Anyway, I was fooling around with this girl and one thing led to another of course. I was her fifth guy. I didnt use a condom because she is on the patch. Well the actual act of having sex was really disappointing. I thought it would feel better than it did. I had no problem lasting cause I wasnt really gaining that much pleasure from it. I actually had to try and finish about an hour into it. Which i was able to do eventually. I wasnt nervous or anything I was just like this really isnt that great. Later that night we did it again for about 40 minutes without me finishing. I just got worn out and finally stopped. She was loving it though. She kept trying to get me to keep going and saying all this stuff like how I made her *** 4 times. She didnt know I was a virgin. She keeps calling me wanting to do it again and wont leave me alone.

Anyway, Afterwards I came to the realization about how freaking much bullcrap I put up with in the past for girls for basically something that really isnt that great after all. At this point I feel like if I never have actual sex with a girl again it wouldnt be a big deal. Now I dont know what to do. Everyone seems to overrate it so much. I feel like something is wrong with me. I still kind of want to date chicks and have relationships but now I really feel like I just dont care anymore if anything ever happens again with another girl. Its like most girls seem really dumb or shady so all they had to offer was sex. Now that I feel that was really overrated it feels like they have nothing else to offer me. Why should i put up with all of their stupid conversations, games, bs etc? Why do you guys that like it alot enjoy it so much?

Is there something I am missing?

 

[CLOONEY]

DUDE, finally you realise what I always say, it is TOTALLY overrated. Although u will still want it, it is just instinct. I honestly find head a WHOLE LOT BETTER. I was the same, when I first had it I was like WTF, is that it!!! Roll over, have a cigarette and go to sleep !! But without the cigarette part of course.

I dont like the BS and games, and I dont do it just for the sex. I have a GREAT life, infact it is fukcing fantastic. But I never do feel TOTALLY complete, like u do when you also have a good girlfriend. That is all I bother with the crap for. If all you were dooing before was just for the sex, u had the wrong minset dude.

 

[Nine Breaker]

Congratulations.

... Not on losing your virginity, but on the realisation you are experiencing because of what you have done.

The simple fact is that sex is an experience, and it is but one of countless experiences that you have the option of experiencing throughout your lifetime. An experience that appeals to some does not necessarily appeal to others, but when a person attempts to act as if something they do not enjoy that highly does, in fact appeal to them, then they have fooled themself and wasted time that could have been spent on something more important to them.

You will find that average chumps lust after sex as if it is the epitome of experiences, the singular action that can lead to true happiness and contentment. This is largely pathetic, not only because they are merely following what others tell them and lack the ability to set their own ambitions and goals, but also because a good number of them are lusting for an experience that they have NEVER experienced before, and already value so greatly.

Ultimately, what you are feeling now is something that every single real man has felt at a certain point in his life - that sex is nowhere near as fufilling and important as everyone makes it out to be. This is what separates the men from the chumps - being able to decide for yourself what experiences appeal to you the most - and then going out to experience them.

You are not "missing something" at all, as you seem to think. The truth is, whether you consciously know it or not, you get the real point more than most guys ever will.

 

[Tango-Kid]

My opinion on the subject. I also think that sex is way too overrated in the modern culture.

But sex can also be amazing! I´m not a romantic fool, but I think that with the right person it can be something divine! When your bodies´ are like Jing and Jan.. they complite each other and satisfy each other.

Not always, even if she looks great and knows surely what to do, I feel really good having sex. I think it´s about how your bodies match each other. Do you understand what I mean?

So for you guys who have just lost their virginity, and for those who have been practicing sex for longer, but who have not found sex so amazing as people talk: Don´t worry, with the right person it can something else!

Sex might be perfect on the first time with each other, but I think it usually gets better when you start to know each other´s bodies, needs and wants. Knowing your own body and knowing how to ENJOY is also important.. many people seem to "observe their performation" whilst they should concentrate in their inner satisfaction. "Observing" makes sex seem cold and like a routine... like masturbating (I´ve heard some people still do it)

Tango-Kid

 

[Genghis Juan]

I agree with you guys regarding sex. Its really not that big of a deal. Usually when I tell people this, they look at me like I have two heads. Its sort of the same rush you get when you are on a rollercoaster ride. Also, in the teens and early 20's the testosterone is on full throttle too, making you lust like a hungry wolf. Im in my late 20's, but I still lust for it, but I don't lust after it like its the holy grail, I lust after it like its desert or something...

Sometimes, sex can be a pain, if you want a quickie, and she is looking for the whole enchalada.

 

[Ice Cold]

haha

My first time lasted about 2 mins. But that wasn't fair cause she gave me a bj for a few minutes before that.

It's all about sexual compatibility man. Some girls are gonna be like you described, with others both of you are gonna get so excited and sweaty you're gonna love it.

 

[DankNuggs]

1.) Maybe your gay
2.) Maybe you were concentrating more on performance and lasting, and not concentrating enough on how it feels for you.

Tough to make a decision off of one experience good or bad...

This ninebreaker fellow seems to think that sex is hugely overrated. I don't quite understand that, are you saying your hormonal urges are overrated? Maybe consult #1 as well...

You can start the whole "society places huge emphasis on sex" argument, but to tell you the truth, the guy that gets none is going to be sexually frustrated, getting lots of sex will leave you more clearminded...

I do agree that the less you put sex on a pedestal (like HB's) the easier it will be for you to attain your goals...

 

[Bishop04]

I would recommend hopping over to Amsterdam for a week's visit to the Red Light District. It's definitely worth the time, if you're a bit new to sex. Even those who are experienced often learn a few things they never knew before, and with tickets around 400, why not?

 

[Trance]

"1.) Maybe your gay
2.) Maybe you were concentrating more on performance and lasting, and not concentrating enough on how it feels for you."

Either these, or u have some kind of hormonal disfunction. How can any guy not enjoy sex?? Specially if it was your first time and u did good, how is it possible that u didnt loved it?

 

[b's nuts]

ahhh. so you fvcked a girl with a loose pvssy. My first time, i didn't think was that great, but i definately was looking forward to finding a better lay. When you find a girl that puts it down the way you like it, it makes a huge difference. Then again, maybe she was just really loose. The more comfortable you get, especially with the person you are having sex with, the better it gets. DON'T GIVE UP YET! sex is very good, it could be overrated to you, but you are the one who built it up to that stature. Find a tighter hole.

 

[Abnigh9]

Actually to be honest, I think it's either you're gay, or you masturbated too much. When you masturbate a lot, you tend to go "oh god... my hand is much better".

I've gone out with over 134 women, but before the first frew time, I used to masturbate. As I realized, I waited a few weeks.

Started doing it again, ooh the drip and wetness felt so good.



Or in the end, it's not your fault. It's the loose pvssy.

 

[Tango-Kid]

I've gone out with over 134 women, but before the first frew time, I used to masturbate.

That means 135? What´s the context?

 

[FreeStyleZ]

Abnigh, are u saying that u stopped masturbating for a few weeks so that ***** felt good again?

 

[Abnigh9]

Originally posted by Tango-Kid
That means 135? What´s the context?

Frew=few.
Typo.

The context? None. Just saying saying that sex can be very good or very bad depending on the woman.

Btw, more than 135 women, probably 200 by now. I'm 40 now, almost 41. I know people who has over 1,000 and the most I heard is 2.5, who is of course, the legendary Don Juan himself.

Btw, the 1,000 one, he's 51, anyone who lives in Maine can visit me. He has proof.

 

[Abnigh9]

Originally posted by FreeStyleZ
Abnigh, are u saying that u stopped masturbating for a few weeks so that ***** felt good again?

Yes.
What does the ***** mean? B itch? It's not the girl that felt good, it was ME.

All I'm saying is, sex is good if not done for a long time.

 

[Mr. Delicious]

Maybe the girl was loose. It was hard to get in but once inside its like I hardly felt anything?

 

[Mr. Delicious]

oh ya btw I am definately not gay. I still am attracted to girls and they are as hot as ever. I just really didnt enjoy sex as much as i thought i would.

 

[Nine Breaker]

Originally posted by DankNuggs

This ninebreaker fellow seems to think that sex is hugely overrated. I don't quite understand that, are you saying your hormonal urges are overrated?

I didn't think everyone here would understand my point.

I am NOT saying that sex is overrated. I am saying that the lust for sex is the overrated, obsessive waste of time. If you spend your time lusting after only one type of experience, then you are going to miss out on a world of other experiences, many of which can be slightly more meaningful than having a woman blow your load.

As far as hormonal urges are concerned, any real man is a man who is in control of his urges, and not a set of urges that dictate control of a man. Which do you think you are?

 

[squirrels]

Women are a journey, not a destination.

In today's society, the focus is on getting it and getting it right away. We're used to instant gratification through stuff like porn. The "enjoyment" comes from just dismantling a woman and learning how to get her hot and get her into it...and all the nuances and challenges and trials and tribulations of that experience, with sex being the grand finale.

I don't know how I'd feel about just banging a girl...I like getting intimate, I like foreplay, I like kissing, I like it when her breathing gets heavy, I like seeing her squirm. I like feeling her get wet down there, I like the way she tastes. I like the way her hair falls around my hips when she's going down on me. Those kinds of things.

People focus so much on "the act", acting like it's going to change their lives. It doesn't. It's just another fixation society has.

Enjoy the experience. And don't sit there and try to tell me it wasn't at least SOMEWHAT fun.

 

[DJnomore]

Don't lose hope

When you are in love with a woman even if it is bad you will love it.

If you are not in love with the woman you will find ones that know what they are doing and you will be fine.

your experence is very common lots of virgins think sex is way more than it is, and they totally miss that your first time at sex you are pretty bad at it.