Lay report!!!! (didn't feel any sensation while fvcking :( )

[happyguy]

OK, good news, I got over my mental block with intercourse! I met a woman from craigslist, gamed hard and gamed fast, and ended up doing her missionary style and doggie style two hours after meeting her. (A pretty woman, the intelligent, spiritual, mature type. A 7 in the looks dept, a 9 in everything else. She is a giver).

Bad news, I did not enjoy fvcking at all! I felt absolutely nothing. My di*k felt numb. I was thrusting my ass back and forth awkwardly based on her grunting and huffing and puffing. I couldn't feel my di*k for gods sake!! Is anything the problem here? Like I had said in a few previous posts, I had a sticking point with the actual intercourse act... last time I did it was 3 years ago, and I have only done it twice in my whole life. I have been jerking off pretty furiously the past few months cus of stresses with school and work. Does that have anything to do with it? I was thrusting around for like 3 minutes, and my di*k went totally limp. Turned her around to doggy style, and it took me forever to get my boy inside of her. Again gave up after 2-3 minutes. She gave me head for, like, ever (at least half an hour) and I still couldn't cvm. I had to use my hands to get off.

I feel stupid posting this. I need basics on how to fvck. But I got over the mental block at least. It feels like a relief.

 

[speakeasy]

Houston, we've got a problem.



Seriously though, just watch some pornos if you need to learn how to f*ck. I'm also surprised that someone met a good looking girl off of craigslist. Didn't even think such a thing existed since there's no photos.

 

[Ace of Flames]

Stop masturbating so much. Or stop totally, that would be even better. You've probably gotten so used to your own hands, that's all you can get off to. It can happen. Your body gets accustomed to the speed and pressure you use when you go at it, and nothing else cuts it after awhile. Also, a woman's vagoo can't give the same grip and tightness your hands can, so while she may be perfectly tight and feel great, if you're so used to your hands, you might not feel like its tight at all.

Of course, she might just have been as loose as a wizard's sleeve. In that case, get another girl man.

 

[happyguy]

Oh, I have fooled around with a couple of 9's off craigslist (one a model, and one a smoking hot and filthy rich middle eastern woman). I don't pick them up in the personals section. One HB9 I met off of the rants&raves section, the other in the strictly platonic section. I have met at least four other HB6-8 from the rants and raves section.

Though this one today, I did find in the w4m section, she had posted her pictures with her ad. She apparently got 300 emails in 2 days, she was talking about the other emails, and I told her to shut up I wasn't interested. I basically told her to shut up about 3 times in two hours, and I got a two calls from two other girls when we were walking around (I took one call in front of her and made plans for Sunday with that chick). I think it was a combination of assertiveness and social proof.

 

[Street_Fighter]

where you even sexualy aroused at that point or were anxious and excitable?

 

[happyguy]

I lost it while she was fumbling with the condom. (I thought it'd help to have her put it on, but she messed up and mounted the rolled up side on the inside.. by the time the condom was on, I was on half mast). I wasn't really all that excited, that is true... i feel mastrubation killed that hunger. I wasn't excitable, I am good at keeping calm, I was focused on getting it over with.

 

[speakeasy]

I doubt the masterbation had anything to do with it. Probably were some psychological reasons. I'm assuming this was your first time, so you were probably just self-conscious.

 

[Roulette]

This has happened to me before. Stop jerking off as much for one. Next, try to relax and just immerse yourself into the moment.

My problem now is that I can go for hours sometimes and not get off. I'm like the energizer bunny of sex and I HATE it.

Kudos,
Matt

 

[Street_Fighter]

I lost it while she was fumbling with the condom. (I thought it'd help to have her put it on, but she messed up and mounted the rolled up side on the inside.. by the time the condom was on, I was on half mast). I wasn't really all that excited, that is true... i feel mastrubation killed that hunger. I wasn't excitable, I am good at keeping calm, I was focused on getting it over with.

lol not exactly the best mindset

 

[Obsidian]

Stop masturbating so much. Or stop totally

amen

Of course, I've tried unsuccessfully to stop totally. But I really don't think it's good to do it very often, especially if you're going to be sarging real babes.

 

[Alphamale1821]

I assume you used a condom and sex with condom does reduce the sensation to a degree. However to feel no sensation at all i take it your penis isn't getting enough blood circulation. Next time maybe try a **** ring

 

[action1]

Probably you are suffering some kind of performance anxiety since your inexperience. Also stop mastrubating so much.

Take Cialis a couple of times , just to be confident while "Performing" and to boost your confidence.

 

[beastmaster79]

maybe do something to raise your testosterone. it can fluctuate highly depending on your habits and lifestyle.

another thing. don't bone a girl just becuase you think its something you should do or becuase its available. bone a girl that really gets you going.

or maybe it could be from watching too much porn. like you no longer respond to the normal female body. you need a super hottie to get aroused.

good luck. i wouldn't stress, she's probably just not your type and you didn't know it . the forcing yourself to make it happen probably led to you to overlook the fact.

 

[Leporello]

If you're rushing it can also be a problem. Just relax and get comfortable.

 

[floydtheater07]

It's probably psychological. I used to have the same problem when I first started fvcking. I was too preoccupied with pleasing my girl that I felt liked I needed to get aroused. If it becomes something that you feel you need to do, you forget that it's actually something you want to do.

Here's a few hints that may sound weird, but worked for me and cured me of my problem instantly.

-when you start out, and she is under you, put your legs outside of hers. Then, ask her to squeeze her legs together, obviously not TOO tight, or she'll squeeze your balls, and we don't want that. But tight enough that you can feel it, then squeeze her legs with your own (or not, it's not totally necessarry) and just start some thrusting. In about a minute, maybe less, you'll see what I mean, if it works for you. You'll be so hard and horny that getting it up and keeping it that way will be no problem, and you'll be able to totally recall that sensation when you're trying to get it up next time.


-Be dominant. Take what you want.


-Don't try to get it up. It's supposed to be natural. If it's psychological, reverse psychology used to work for me. Pretend you are about to speak in front of a large crowd and you need to keep it down or everyone will see. It can work depending on your problem.


However, the first tip is my most highly recommended. I did it once and have never had a signle problem ever again.

 

[Last Man Standing]

A pretty woman, the intelligent, spiritual, mature type.

A spiritual hor? Is there such a thing?

 

[Oisdog]

it's called retarded ejaculation, look it up!

-your mindset plays an important part...you need to get in the moment and be more horny durin sex...relaease your mind from distractions during sex

- change the way u masterbate...make yourself be able to come by masterbating less aggrssively and slower...

As AOF said, a womans ***** will not be able to compete with the speed and pressure of your own hands

 

[Vixen]

Was there enough foreplay? Dudes need foreplay too. Just because you're hard doesn't mean you should stick it in right away - actually get yourself all worked up first.

 

[Night Owl]

More foreplay, in fact, the more the better. Sticking in is just the icing on the cake. Forget how they do it on porn films as they just stick it and go at it for hours on end... or do they? The sessions are film over a period of time with breaks in between and the film eventually edited together to make it look like one of session. Porn is not real, it's a fantasy...

Remember that old classic song - I need a lover with a slow hand and easy touch, well that is how foreplay should be. Anybody can just stick it in and trust away at it like mad man on heat . Learn foreplay. Learn how to turn on your partner and teach her what you like. Get her into such at state she is beggin' for you to stick it in, but even then, carry on with the foreplay until she is at the point of exploding. Then go for it.... !!

Pre-sex teasing and foreplay is key for satisfaction and a great love life for both you and your lover. Time invested in learning foreplay, sex massage and arousing you and your lover to such an intense state before the main event will keep them coming back for more and more. In fact, if like me you have learned how to do it properly you will have a job getting rid of them, and then they tell their mates too, who want to find out for themselves.

I once spent three hours in foreplay, giving her 13 small orgasms before I finally stuck it in. The end result was soo intense, we both slept for nearly 18 hours afterwards... Wow - one I will never forget, and nor will she as she keeps reminding me !!

Learn to be a " lover with a slow hand and easy touch" and drive them wild in bed before sticking it in...

You know when you have intense great sex as it takes days to recover.

 

[happyguy]

Thanks for all the help guys. I figured the reason was my di*k was desensitized from using my hands so often. I also was not really hungry for her that much... I had met her only 2 hours earlier. I was rushing to use this opportunity to get over my mental block with sex.

Also I felt like only about couple of inches of my **** was actually inside of her. Is that normal, or does it feel that way because the head of the c*ck is more sensitive than the shaft? The condom killed the sensations for me also.

I was thinking very hard about not masturbating again and reading about self control and all that, only to promptly jerk off again this afternoon. I am working on it though.