Lawyer chick: Any input?

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Recently a law student has been showing tremendous interest in me. She is 25 and I am 37. But age is not an issue here. What I find in her (or other lawyers, for that reason) is that she is extremely domineering, argumentative and never feels that she could be wrong. In other words, power/control is deeply inherent in her.

At one end, I feel like giving her a chance but realizing these attributes kind of dampens the whole thing. This chick could be (and in many ways is) a good mind player. Probably she inherits it from the intended profession.

Has anyone dealt with lawyer chick(s)? What advice would you give? I won't mind banging her but this could involve a little more startegy due to her b!tchiness. :D
 

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Originally posted by EpsilonArmati
Being argumentative? Hire her, not bone her, duh.

LOL!


You just have to find where her itch is. Every bi tch-wannabe has one!
 

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It's difficult but the worse thing you could do is to react to their actions, it just eggs them on. If they're on a roll about something in their lives that has no bearing what so ever on your life, let them rant.

However, as soon as it starts spilling over into your well being, just calmly say 'no.' No arguments, no justifications just plain 'no.'

If she is a woman with integrity, is caring and is flexible she won't mind. If she can't handle a difference in opinion or someone capable of living their own life, cut her loose.
 

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I don't think I would like to have a relationship with a "ranting" b!tch. Now banging her is a tempting project to pursue. :)

Who knows with her domineering personality she could be a wonderful "ride". But then she confesses that she was/is a geek. Damn!
 

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What I find in her (or other lawyers, for that reason) is that she is extremely domineering, argumentative and never feels that she could be wrong. In other words, power/control is deeply inherent in her.


Ahh... a control freak! Ain't no p_ssy good enough to justify a man giving up his gonads to a ball-crusher like that.


At one end, I feel like giving her a chance but realizing these attributes kind of dampens the whole thing. This chick could be (and in many ways is) a good mind player. Probably she inherits it from the intended profession.


MOST chicks are mind players; this forum is full of people who have figured this out.

BOTTOM LINE: Let her know you're a little too old for these games: if she doesn't get the message, kick her to the curb.
 

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Originally posted by Royal-tiger
Recently a law student has been showing tremendous interest in me. She is 25 and I am 37. But age is not an issue here. What I find in her (or other lawyers, for that reason) is that she is extremely domineering, argumentative and never feels that she could be wrong. In other words, power/control is deeply inherent in her.

At one end, I feel like giving her a chance but realizing these attributes kind of dampens the whole thing. This chick could be (and in many ways is) a good mind player. Probably she inherits it from the intended profession.

Has anyone dealt with lawyer chick(s)? What advice would you give? I won't mind banging her but this could involve a little more startegy due to her b!tchiness. :D
as a former law student all I can say is this: RUN! or try to slot her in to a no-strings attached FB relationship. I would really advise against an LTR with lawyer chicks. She will take out all her work frustrations on you, this I can pretty much guarantee.

Most female lawyers end up with other lawyers or alone in a strictly FB relationships, b/c they are such neurotic, domineering biotches. Also, it seems that the only men that can measure up to them seem to be professionals of similar standing (corp. execs, MDs)

Also most law students are usually not very attractive, and the ones that are have way too much of that attitude you described to be any fun.
 
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Maybe this is nuts, but I'd always feel paranoid about dating a lawyer because god forbid they come up with some reason to sue me after we break up... same goes for cops... I'd be all paranoid that they'd have their buddies pull me over for no reason. On the other hand though, it is always nice to have a lawyer to ask for advice or a cop to help you out when you need it.
 

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it also brings me to the paradox b/w the sexes in our society.

The more successful a woman gets the number of less "acceptable" partners she has. The more successful a man gets, the greater number of women he can conceivably hook up with. I.e. it's rare to see female lawyers hooking up with carpenters, blue-collar guys, or other males significantly under their salary range. They usually stick with their own social sphere (as I said, corp execs, MD's, etc.)

The problem is that all the really eligible MD, JD, MBA males are going after the really hot model-type freaks you see at the clubs, and not the rather homely (for the most part) female JDs. For example, there was an article I read once that the accessory du jour for New York models was a "Wall Street" boyfriend - lawyer, trader, investment banker. This kind of double-standard seems to be a point of bitterness for a lot of my female lawyer friends, and why it's not uncommon to walk the halls of prestigious law firms all across the U.S. and find tons of unattached single women.
 
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Originally posted by DIESEL
it's not uncommon to walk the halls of prestigious law firms all across the U.S. and find tons of unattached single women.
Interesting. This leads to the conclusion that by frequenting high end watering holes and looking the part, you might find fertile ground for some ONS -- long before they find out your real bank account balance.
 

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Originally posted by BobbDobbs
Interesting. This leads to the conclusion that by frequenting high end watering holes and looking the part, you might find fertile ground for some ONS -- long before they find out your real bank account balance.
most definitely, and even then you can still have a sustained sexual relationship with them if she enjoys fukkin you, just realize that you won't be going to any work-related social functions with them.
 

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Female lawyers are bitc hes, bottom line. Big pain in the as s. I wouldn't date one.
 

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Originally posted by myfriendblu
Female lawyers are bitc hes, bottom line. Big pain in the as s. I wouldn't date one.
I once dated a feminist that was going to school to become a lawyer.

Only once...
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
I once dated a feminist that was going to school to become a lawyer.

Only once...
Ouch! Can't get much worse than that.
 

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Originally posted by BobbDobbs
Interesting. This leads to the conclusion that by frequenting high end watering holes and looking the part, you might find fertile ground for some ONS -- long before they find out your real bank account balance.
Now that's a really interesting concept. I'd never thought of that, but it makes perfect sense. Too bad I'm not interested in ONS. :D
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
I once dated a feminist that was going to school to become a lawyer.

Only once...
Originally posted by coin
Ouch! Can't get much worse than that.
Oh yeah I forgot, she was queer too. Nothing against alternative lifestyles but come on, all of this PLUS being on the far left too!!! How much can one guy take???!!!!

Someone was playing a cruel trick on me but thank heavens that the medication is helping me now ;)
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Oh yeah I forgot, she was queer too. Nothing against alternative lifestyles but come on, all of this PLUS being on the far left too!!! How much can one guy take???!!!!
Hey is it me, or were the Twin Cities militant lesbian central..?
I don't mind lesbians - as long as they aren't the nasty butch ones -but I must say I find those activist, political lesbians REALLY annoying. It's like they have to let you know they're lesbians every 2.5 seconds ?
 

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Originally posted by DIESEL
Hey is it me, or were the Twin Cities militant lesbian central..?
I don't mind lesbians - as long as they aren't the nasty butch ones -but I must say I find those activist, political lesbians REALLY annoying. It's like they have to let you know they're lesbians every 2.5 seconds ?
Yeah, mine wasn't butch at all (she was always the pretty girl) but she did let it be known that she was a liberal queer. That was fine with me, great sex will make us guys overlook a lot of things. :p

I had to reevaluate my standards when she would get upset with me because I wouldn't vote democrat during elections. I'm not against gay or womens rights but what the hell would I get out of voting that way? Give me a smaller government and I'm a happy camper.
 

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Lawyer chicks can be very power hungry - but there are many different kinds. It's definitely true what DIESEL says that when she's in work, she'll be looking to be with a guy in a similar social standing or above her - not generally below. Since they are generally ambitious, they seek to find a guy who is similarly ambitious and shares those values, esp. in a professional capacity. Also tend to have high sex drives!

Think about it. It's a question of respect. A relationship never works if the girl doesn't respect you. The more successful a girl becomes, the less respect (relationship wise) she tends to have ppl who she considers below her...that's why she looks to ppl around her who share her position and values. Typical bullshyt...no matter where you are or what you do, you still IMO respect everyone and get along...rather than looking down on them. These traits exist in law particularly, sad to say.

I've found though that the most down to earth chicks are the ones from less well-off backgrounds - generally - they have more personality and character and don't tend to be arrogant, than those who have had to struggle little for being where they are. But then, the less arrogant ones also tend to have more drive and ambition .... many young lawyers when starting have their eyes set on the top of the corporate ladder - and with hard working ambitious girls, that means they sacrifice having kids till much later in their career (once they have gotten their careers off the ground) .. Means more FB's and STRs when they are under 30.

Those are the career driven girls.

I've met many who want to work as lawyers but also have a life - who are not argumentative and are feminine, who also have good looks. VERY rare...but they exist. Personally though, I think she'd have to be a very special for an LTR.

Your girl seems to be on the arrogant side - generally the worst combination - since they think they are the shyt when in fact they may not be able to cut the ice. Getting these girls is generally easy, it requires a strong, ambitious (or looks the part!) DJ who knows his game, who's confident, charming, personable and funny...whose not afraid of taking what he wants. Once you get them in bed it's little to no strings attached. You'll get her wet if you show ambition.

I also don't understand why lawyers have to think that arguing with everyone, about small issues, will make them a better lawyer. It's as though they are practising their skills full-time. They're the ones that generally annoy others most and end up burning, rather than building bridges and relationships (work or otherwise).

At least though they are the wolves - what you see is what you get, you have to also be aware of the wolves in sheeps clothing - but that's another subject!

Go have some fun with her!
 

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