Latest Chick

Champ Slice

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 8, 2016
Messages
73
Reaction score
31
Age
31
Sup guys. I sorta touched on this in a previous post but I really am curious to see what all the Don Juans think.

A year ago I went to Comic Con dressed as Mrs. Potts from Beauty and The Beast. While there I run into this solid 9 and get her number. At the time I wasn't a very confident person so I never did anything. She later found and added me on facebook and this past year on snapchat as well.

One day I hit her up and we make plans to go out that Thursday. Everything goes really well. We met up for a few drinks downtown then went to do karaoke. I dropped her off back home around 2:30/3 AM. She is practically begging me to come inside but Captain Save A Hoe respectfully declined. I wait a few days and text her. She tried bsing me so I just told her "If you ever want to hang out just lemme know". She then gave me the "you waited so long to text me I thought you thought i was boring and ugly."

So we make plans to go out Saturday. When Saturday comes around I meet up at the designated spot and she texts me 30 minutes late saying she is going to be late. Fine whatever. She later texts me to go home and she is sooooo sorry because her new job is making her stay really late to train. When I worked in retail I never stayed past 12:30. She was telling me she wouldnt be out until 3. I don't even waste my time texting her again.

A week later she hits me up apologizing and invites me out on Thursday. I keep ragging on her for flaking but we go out that Thursday and as soon as we walked into the haunted house she was very aggressive and all over me. So I'm feeling on her the entire time. Later that night when were eating she keeps asking if i think she is boring. She kinda is but I just am having her laugh the entire time. She invites me out the next thursday to meet her friends and some family. I tell her im gonna be out of town for my birthday. She then asks questions such as "Are you Religious?" "Why do you keep your guard up?" and "Why did you wait a year to ask me out?"

When I drop her off we kiss and she grabs my hand like she wants me to come in. Once again Captain Save A Hoe declines.

We text a few days later then nothing. On my birthday she texts me apologizing that she didnt text me at midnight and she is asking if a build a bear would be an acceptable present. We make plans for when I get back to town. When I get back to town I text her and she replies "I cant wait to see you :)" I text her back and she doesnt text me back. Whatever.

When Thursday comes we text back and forth and i ask her what time are we to meet up. No response. She is on snapchat that night posting a bunch of stuff with her friends. So I'm just like **** it on to the next one. Anyways, a few days later I get a text around 3 AM from that day we were texting saying "let me think about it". (I had an outdated iphone. I just recently switched to the 7.). So I text her the next day asking what happened and she lied saying she never has thursdays off and it becomes apparent she was just brushing me off. So I let it die.

She later invites me out. Cool.

I text her the day before we are to go out to confirm and she tells me she was in an accident and cant even work. Fine. Next night she posts some **** on snapchat of her at work. She was wearing a neck brace tho. Funny ****. I don't text her except for her birthday, being nice since she told me happy bday. She texts me that she misses me bunches. I brush her off by telling her when im free ill take her to dinner.

Just last week she texted me out of the blue while Im with my grandfather on his deathbed. A few days after that she texts me asking why i kissed her. Says she really liked me but I never texted her and kept leaving her hanging. So I invite her out for this past tuesday. We text all day friday and all day saturday. Sunday she blocked my cell phone and snapchat. I call her from my work phone just to confirm she blocked me. Sure enough she picks up. I play dumb and tell her my phone isnt working. She brushes me off giggling the entire time saying she will text me and whatnot. Havent heard from her since.

My roommates gf says to watch out and that she may end up texting me in a few months.
 

Fireballs

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 13, 2008
Messages
574
Reaction score
310
Location
Australia
On the off chance that this really happened, I'll post my thoughts.

She tried to get you inside her house twice and you declined .. why didn't you bang her ? She gave you a second chance to bang her but after you said no again she thought you were either gay or a pvssy and lost all interest..

She may indeed text you when she gets pumped and dumped next looking for some attention but I highly doubt you will get anywhere with her .. Her mind is made up about you ..
 

Champ Slice

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 8, 2016
Messages
73
Reaction score
31
Age
31
Are you? DON'T BE AFRAID OF YOUR MANLINESS! Better to try and fail than not try at all! She will let you know if you go too far
I mean,deadass, I'm not a Don Juan. I'm just not that good with women. I suffer bad from oneitis. This is why I joined the forum, so I can learn the ways. I wanted to bang and then I thought, no, I kinda like this girl. It all blew up in my face.
 

The Duke

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 4, 2008
Messages
5,609
Reaction score
8,514
You should have dropped those panties son. This is what has her hamster wheel in overdrive. This is a pretty low quality girl anyways so don't fall for her if you do fuhk her. And if you do, go all out XXX p()rn star on her. You need to make up for some lost time.

Its always best to go for it if she gives you even the slightest opening. Don't be afraid of offending her. If she doesn't like your advancements she will tell you no and then respect her wishes. You will always score more points for attempting. Attempting to fuhk a woman helps her feel desired and signals that you are a "man". Once she feels desired, she will want to please you and at some point she will fuhk you to keep you.
 

Roober

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 2, 2016
Messages
2,383
Reaction score
2,123
I mean,deadass, I'm not a Don Juan. I'm just not that good with women. I suffer bad from oneitis. This is why I joined the forum, so I can learn the ways. I wanted to bang and then I thought, no, I kinda like this girl. It all blew up in my face.
You need to work on your confidence. You have to believe you can do it. A great way to start?

EVery time you go somewhere make eye contact with women and smile

Make small talk with everybody, this takes practice. DO IT EVERY time you talk to someone, even if it just cashiers.... EVERY.... SINGLE... TIME.... men and women. The more you practice, the more you will feel yourself loosen up.
-Don't know what to say? "How are you?" is the easiest opener in the world... Anything other than "good" and you can play with it. Sometimes I go with "only good, you should be great!" with high energy. Then they talk about something random to open the convo.
-Another good opener is an observation... women do chit to be noticed. ALL WOMEN DO IT. If she crazy nails, shoes, something different in her hair, say something about it. You wouldn't believe how many women I have said something like "I love that nail color on you. It looks fantastic"... then they go into a story on why that color
-Another good opener is asking for an opinion on something. Just be ready if it doesn't match yours...
 
Last edited:

sazc

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 23, 2016
Messages
4,502
Reaction score
3,429
I agree with @Howiestern this is a pretty low class girl. She's also straight playing games with you, telling you she is working (or whatever it was) and then snapchatting, and blocking your number, texting you days later and trying to make it appear as if it was a delayed text.

IMO if she was really into you, she would be upfront and available to you, without games. she would be honest, no bull$hit.

My guess is that she is strictly trying to turn you into an orbiter. She has zero intention of being a quality female in your life. She is trying to get you to sleep woth her so that you wil fall for her, take her places, spend money on her, etc. I also think your room mates GF might be right.

Therefore, if you hit it, wrap it up and see how she behaves after. If she's respectful and present, that's one thing. If not, she's trying to game you. If you keep her around for the $ex, make sure it's the wrapped-up-late-night-booty-calls only. lol, I get accused of thinking like a guy on here. Females like these piss me off. There's zero reasons for games and no guy should be made to think he's got a chance when the intent is just to manipulate him.

I'm glad that you are working on your captain save a ho syndrome. Let the females save themselves, you have a life to live and a future to focus on. You need to spend time on that.

Lastly I am going to suggest that you raise your standards. One a girl starts with the games, especially this early, next her. (it says a lot about who she is) I know the scarcity theory comes into your head and you think "how long is it going to be until the next one?!" but girls playing games deserve to be taught a lesson. If you cant next a game playing female, then turn her into a late night booty call.

In general, I suggest you raise your standards and require more from the females you spend your time on.
 

Champ Slice

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 8, 2016
Messages
73
Reaction score
31
Age
31
I agree with @Howiestern I also think your room mates GF might be right.
What should I do when she makes contact with me?

Also, why would she be so petty? Yea I was never a pushover but, why be kick somebody in the balls if they open the door for you?
 

sazc

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 23, 2016
Messages
4,502
Reaction score
3,429
What should I do when she makes contact with me?

Also, why would she be so petty? Yea I was never a pushover but, why be kick somebody in the balls if they open the door for you?
Honestly, there's a thousand reasons why she would be petty and/or manipulative. Could be that's what her mother taught her, could be she was abused by a man, could be she was madly in love with a man and he left her, could be that she feels she was used by men and now she's going to get hers from them, could be that so many betas were at her beck and call she started to believe she could play all men like this. You'd have to ask her to find that out, but first she has to own the behavior, and they never do.

The most important thing is that you SEE it and refuse to accept being treated like that from any woman. Your standards are higher.

First things first, do NOT fall for this woman or believe you can change her. When/if she contacts you, that depends on what you want to do. Knowing it isnt going anymore, why dont you practice your DJ skills? Read up on them and give them a shot. Why not? see if you can bed her?

If you want to avoid the drama then just dont reply. Just do not buy into the idea that, if you dont entertain this female, you dont know how long it will be till the next one. The mistake both sexes make in dating is thinking a person who makes themselves available to date is someone that warrants an attempt to date. IMO this woman will bring you drama and tie up time that you could have used to meet other females.
 

daddymonsterpoodle

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 9, 2015
Messages
714
Reaction score
433
Age
54
Maybe it is time to put her to the test.
Next time she texts invite her to your place and bring a bottle of wine.
In femspeak this translstes as "come to my house so I can bang the hell out of you. " if she makes up any excuse as to why she can't, politely tell her to never call your number again and hang up on her.
Take back your power.
 

Champ Slice

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 8, 2016
Messages
73
Reaction score
31
Age
31
Im just gonna workout and eat right for the next 6 months then walk in to her store with another hottie and not even acknowledge her.
 

sazc

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 23, 2016
Messages
4,502
Reaction score
3,429
Im just gonna workout and eat right for the next 6 months then walk in to her store with another hottie and not even acknowledge her.
please dont. that move will be so transparent to her. she's going to know you did it on purpose. round these parts they call that a beta move
much better to eat right, work out and find yourself a new someone(s) to occupy your time, and forget about her
 

Champ Slice

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 8, 2016
Messages
73
Reaction score
31
Age
31
please dont. that move will be so transparent to her. she's going to know you did it on purpose. round these parts they call that a beta move
much better to eat right, work out and find yourself a new someone(s) to occupy your time, and forget about her
Lol I definitely won't. I really truly believe we will cross paths and she will feel like a dumbass and deep down inside I will be laughing. Fdb
 

Champ Slice

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 8, 2016
Messages
73
Reaction score
31
Age
31
Don't buy in to the bullsh*t mindset that she was "low-quality". That merely serves to shift the blame on to her.

You need to accept responsibility.

I have held off of having sex before too. And I think that is probably because you didn't think that you were entitled to the girl.

You got awed at her beauty.
Don't get it twisted Keith Sweat. She was bad as hell but it definitely wasn't a case of "I'm not good enough".

Even with all her flaws and red flags I really enjoyed her company and was hopelessly seeking more of a LTR.

Don't kill me.
 

sazc

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 23, 2016
Messages
4,502
Reaction score
3,429
Lol "Keith sweat" :p
 

Champ Slice

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 8, 2016
Messages
73
Reaction score
31
Age
31
Calling her a "9", being too afraid to initiate a simple text, and declining to be intimate with her, are not exactly signs of a man comfortable in taking what he wants.

I'll just say better to forget it than to consider this situation again, then.

It's either going to be a platform to improve upon, or something that is just going to bring you down/piss you off.
I wouldn't say I was afraid to initiate text. Just didn't feel like texting her.


Reading this makes me sad and confused. Why oh why?
Mama raised me to be a gentleman. I think she would consider me a failure also. Lol.
 

daddymonsterpoodle

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 9, 2015
Messages
714
Reaction score
433
Age
54
I am not saying never refuse an offer BUT you have got to be pretty confident in your game and you have to have created a lot of sexual tension.
She needs to be thinking "OMG, I want him to take me. " not "I wonder if he is heterosexual."
It can even be a lot of fun having women who are DTF and seeing how long you can keep them waiting for it.
It HAS to be done from a place of confident masculine energy or it will seem like nervousness which wil repel them.
 
Top