Lately, DJing is hurting my chances..

[Alex DeLarge]

So, doing the whole social circle game thing is actually starting to bite me back in the ass lately. I'm not talking about immediate social circle (IE: best friends) but more like friends of my friends and so on.. People I normally see at parties or something every two weeks.

This one girl I was seeing is spreading rumors about me that I'm sleeping with a bunch of different girls (When I'm still a virgin) to people who I barely know that claim to know me.

Went out on a date with this girl last week who is friends with a girl I was hooking up with, but it seemed like she eventually lost interest so I moved on.. But she called up my date during our date and probably yapped away about how I'm a player for 2 minutes. Dropped the girl off at the end of the date, haven't heard from her since.

My FWB seems to be getting super jealous lately and acting more like my girlfriend walking with me around campus and stuff (Which is a good thing I guess) but even though I like her a lot, and she's a HB9.. she just doesn't seem to be GF material. She's sorta one of those free spirit "liberated" girls.. . This sucks the MOST cause I can't game girls at school. I was really looking forward to this cause personally, I'm incredibly sick of night game. Too many red flag personality disorder chicks. I feel like I gotta just have a talk with my FWB, but at the same time I want to eventually fvck this girl when I got the chance!

*Just to throw it out there me and the FWB have just hooked up a buncha times when we party. Never had sex and never had a blow job, but I feel like it's coming soon lol.

 

[pdx1138]

I'll admit to being a bit confused with some of your posts.

FWB usually means you've done it with them. I didn't realize you were a virgin..you had me fooled.

I wouldn't be too worried about it...nothing you can do but keep working on it.

 

[macagent]

Just for the record, a blow job is sex. And so what if she's not GF material? Do you need to be in love with her to get wood? Go get yer bone on!

 

[Scars]

Bro, you're getting a reputation as player.. that's fvcking perfect. I don't care what anyone (especially any girl) tries to tell you. Girls secretly LOVE players.

For newbies, you should read enough PUA material to get a lay or two under your belt. Once people start talking about you, it's game on.

Ever heard the saying "bad publicity is better than no publicity"? This is precisely the case when gaming woman.

Once you have a player reputation you just run nice guy game on every woman. Don't tell them you're a virgin. Just remember that woman operate off of emotions. Instead of spending all your effort of trying to be ****y/funny, spend more time trying to make them "feel good". Tell them, "baby, I'm not a player. I'm just looking for the right girl, and so far I haven't found her". Tell her all the sh!t she wants to hear. But be suave about it.

Seriously man. I've ran through so many chicks in my town, that I don't need to do C+F routines anymore. I introduce myself and they instantly say "Oh, i've heard about you." I usually stop them right there, and say "What do you mean?" They usually name at least 5 other "friends" that I have slept with, and go on to tell me I'm a player and how they should avoid me. From there, I know it's game over. It's all about playing their heart strings. Telling them, that I'm not like that. Make them believe that I'm the one that actually gets hurt a lot, how I'm just trying to find "the one" blah blah... truth is. Woman WANT to be swept away by a player.

Sad, but true man.

-Scars

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Just for the record, a blow job is sex. And so what if she's not GF material? Do you need to be in love with her to get wood? Go get yer bone on!

Back when we were hooking up more frequently she gave me the old "I'm not ready for sex" talk. l think there are two things on this girl's agenda..

1.) She doesn't want to get attached to me if we fvck because she doesn't think I'm down for a relationship.

2.) She doesn't want to fvck because she doesn't want me to think that she's a wh0re.

The only reason why this sh1t would matter is cause I've known this girl and been friends with her since we were kids.. Probably 13 or 14 years old.

She told me she was having a party at her house soon.. (This girl lives with 7 other HB8 to HB9.5 college girls.. Everytime I'm there I'm fvckin sweating!) Well, I figure the two of us will get drunk at this party and I will MAKE DAMN SURE I don't drink too much so I don't pass out or get whiskey ****.. And if she's not down, then I'll fvck one of her other hot roomates. Score one for the bad guys.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

LOL Alex man your posts are hilarious...my favorite quote here is,

I will MAKE DAMN SURE I don't drink too much so I don't pass out or get whiskey ****..

To clarify some the terminology you're using in your posts:

FWB = Friends With Benefits (this means she is touching your penis...if she has not touched your penis or had some sort of intimate contact with your body..she is a FRIEND, not yet a FWB..just to clarify).

"Hooked Up With" = Had Sex With. If you are a "virgin" yet "hooking up with" your "FWB", you are misunderstanding these terms son.

Look -- screw what these women think -- there will be gaggles more of them in your life and they will all find some way to talk about you whether good or bad. Let them think you are a player, fine, this will honestly likely increase your chances of them looking at you from a sexual vantage point.

If you are concerned about losing your virginity, my best advice is to not do this completely blasted at some house party. Find some chick you honestly dig, use your game on her, and make it a special and enjoyable thing...create the setting for it...invite her to some place where you can enter into sex (ie, a nice apartment setting, a quiet place you have to yourself, an outdoor camping place)...create some amazing experience for her and see if you can't enjoy a physical connection with her...I'm sure a lot of people lose their virginity in a quick cheap way, but really sex can be overrated -- make it a special thing between you two if you can -- and try to lay a chick you actually respect and have some connection with -- your sex experience will be 1000x better than some drunken-whiskey-washroom experience, IMHO!

/edit/ Also remember sex is not the prize, the prize is having a mindset and way of being that works for you -- and wear a condom! You don't want to knock-up some woman! Make sure you also understand who you are laying and her potential sexual past...choose clean intelligent women!

 

[Alex DeLarge]

LOL Alex man your posts are hilarious...my favorite quote here is,

To clarify some the terminology you're using in your posts:

FWB = Friends With Benefits (this means she is touching your penis...if she has not touched your penis or had some sort of intimate contact with your body..she is a FRIEND, not yet a FWB..just to clarify).

"Hooked Up With" = Had Sex With. If you are a "virgin" yet "hooking up with" your "FWB", you are misunderstanding these terms son.

Look -- screw what these women think -- there will be gaggles more of them in your life and they will all find some way to talk about you whether good or bad. Let them think you are a player, fine, this will honestly likely increase your chances of them looking at you from a sexual vantage point.

If you are concerned about losing your virginity, my best advice is to not do this completely blasted at some house party. Find some chick you honestly dig, use your game on her, and make it a special and enjoyable thing...create the setting for it...invite her to some place where you can enter into sex (ie, a nice apartment setting, a quiet place you have to yourself, an outdoor camping place)...create some amazing experience for her and see if you can't enjoy a physical connection with her...I'm sure a lot of people lose their virginity in a quick cheap way, but really sex can be overrated -- make it a special thing between you two if you can -- and try to lay a chick you actually respect and have some connection with -- your sex experience will be 1000x better than some drunken-whiskey-washroom experience, IMHO!

/edit/ Also remember sex is not the prize, the prize is having a mindset and way of being that works for you -- and wear a condom! You don't want to knock-up some woman! Make sure you also understand who you are laying and her potential sexual past...choose clean intelligent women!

I always figured hooked up meant making out and sh1t haha.

But yeah I agree with you on the last part, I just feel like everytime I try to do something like that it just doesn't work out though. I'm not a hideous looking guy either but I'm also not Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome.

I told two of my friends who are girls that I'm a virgin cause the both of them were wondering how many girls I'd slept with (they've seen me out on the field closing numbers lol).. They were both shocked and didn't believe me at all.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

I just feel like everytime I try to do something like that it just doesn't work out though.

That'll happen man -- you'll learn. Sometimes we have a romantic notion of how things ought to go, but rarely does it unfold that same way. I'd say just let it flow naturally and it will -- find a chick you're into and escalate a bit (ie, make physical contact with her gently)...again this is a process and not manipulation, but rather making her feel comfortable and good (which you both probably want) and to build intimacy (which you both want). KINO, as described on this forum, is really effective in getting anyone accustomed to your touch and to bring you closer. I use KINO on friends, family, touch people on their shoulders -- not in a gay way -- but as a method of concern and it does make people drop their walls down.

So find some chick you like, talk to her, make her smile, enjoy who she is and gauge if she is someone you can trust -- touch her shoulder when you stand to leave the table, or open a door for her and touch the small of her back guiding her in...these subtle things really honestly work...it took me a long time to learn how not to feel awkward touching women...with practice and experience your confidence will build. It is very natural when inexperienced to have anxiety about sex, about kino, etc, but don't let your fears withhold you -- and as you push through that plateau it will open up to new things.

It'll happen man -- and it'll be good -- you clearly have confidence with women, you clearly aren't afraid to talk to them...just find a few you really are attracted to, use kino, invite them on outings that are fun, exciting, challenging and that can seg-way into alone time if it works...feel her vibe...if she is leaning into you, touching you, moving closer to you, she is magnetized and you are doing well..this is when you add some extra kino and mildly escalate...don't be afraid (inexperience can cause this anxiety!) -- just go with it and touch her with confidence. There is nothing here about taking advantage of her, or forcing yourself on her -- it is merely escalating your connection through the knowledge you posses and confidence to use that knowledge...kissing and touching is a great way to move towards sex...start with just kissing...take it slow...touch her...her sides, her neck, her back...play with her hair...build up her anticipation...build up her feelings of closeness, she will truly enjoy this, love this, want this...you'll get her fired up below and things will just transpire. Like I said, just have confidence, choose a respectable one (she'll be less likely to play games too). And honestly, women in college, a lot of them are inexperienced too...they don't KNOW what they are doing either...they are following their feelings and going with it...learn to nurture and nourish their feelings of attraction and disconnect from any negative experiences with them...

You'll be fine man. Just give it time. Don't rush it. I wouldn't be surprised if in the next year you post on this forum of a few different women you've spent "time" with...

Much love man!