So my ex had a bad day yesterday. We texted back and forth throughout the day, she's telling me how crappy her day was. Apparently she's been fighting with her mom too. So at 11:45 at night she texts me, what are you doing? I reply that Im just watching TV before bed. She says she's sitting in the parking lot of CVS and is debating whether she should go home? I call her to see what's up. So she tells me briefly about the fighting with her mom. I tell her tomorrow will be better, don't let one day get you down, etc. Then she proceeds to tell me ok, I guess I'll go home. Talk to you later and hangs up. Very strange? No? Something tells me she was fishing for something else.
Late night text from my Ex
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That was my impression and that's exactly what I didn't want. Just what I need to get dragged back into her drama. At least from the outside I can keep my distance if need be. I'll be her friend, because we were always there for each other and listened to each other, but getting back together, or even just sleeping together, there is always a price to pay for that!
If she had at least come out and said that she wanted to come talk or even if she said I want to come over and bang the hell out of you, at least I would have respected her honesty. Half our problems were started cuz she doesn't open up about what she wants. I have to guess, constantly having to guess whats on her mind. She's willing to tell me all these other problems and such, but not anything about us. She ended it with me, so if she is thinking about getting back together, it's my feeling it should come from her. It's not for me to say I'm thinking we should try again. She made her choice, if her mind has changed, she needs to suck it up and spit it out! No pun intended! Lol
bignick... couple things here:
1) Don't expect women to come right out with what they want. A huge part of game is learning how to read women and know what they want/expect. You are gonna deal with that with every single woman you date/hook up with. This case here was pretty easy to decode. Whether she wanted to come over, or wanted you to meet her out somewhere, that was as easy as it gets.
2) Don't give her the power. You say "if she is thinking about getting back together, it's my feeling it should come from her". You need to take the lead here. If you want to be with her, make the move. If you don't want to be with her, her making a move shouldn't mean anything to you. What you are saying is this is all her call. YOU be the leader here. Don't be dependent on her.
3) Somewhat related to my point above, and more of a question. You say that if you get back together it should come from her, yet your post before that one, you said you would be her friend "but getting back together, or even just sleeping together, there is always a price to pay for that!". So, which is it? Are you realizing you shouldn't get back together because of of the price to pay? Or are you waiting for her to come crawling back?
1) Don't expect women to come right out with what they want. A huge part of game is learning how to read women and know what they want/expect. You are gonna deal with that with every single woman you date/hook up with. This case here was pretty easy to decode. Whether she wanted to come over, or wanted you to meet her out somewhere, that was as easy as it gets.
2) Don't give her the power. You say "if she is thinking about getting back together, it's my feeling it should come from her". You need to take the lead here. If you want to be with her, make the move. If you don't want to be with her, her making a move shouldn't mean anything to you. What you are saying is this is all her call. YOU be the leader here. Don't be dependent on her.
3) Somewhat related to my point above, and more of a question. You say that if you get back together it should come from her, yet your post before that one, you said you would be her friend "but getting back together, or even just sleeping together, there is always a price to pay for that!". So, which is it? Are you realizing you shouldn't get back together because of of the price to pay? Or are you waiting for her to come crawling back?
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^^^what he saysPDubb75 said: