Landing opportunities for cold approach

[anonymous12345]

My main source for leads is cold approach, street game.

This forenoon a girl, walking her dog, smiled and said hello. This is as good IOIs get and a perfect opportunity to talk. But I just greeted back and then continued walking past, this despite I had pondered whether to approach — I had prepared.

I have the flu, had approached a girl before this which rejected, but still I question why I had this “cow mode” that just trashed this excellent opportunity. Sleepy, passive.

A first step is to not waste opportunities, that is to not skip the approach. I miss several per week. It’s typical some internal monologue that makes up some reasoning about why to not approach. It’s mostly cowardliness, fear for the various risks. It’s also often fitting to previous failed approaches, my brain using historic data.

I wish I listened less to that part of me, but moderation and sophistication is also important, instead of uncontrolled mad man.

Thoughts on calibrating in this area are welcome.

 

[SW15]

My main source for leads is cold approach, street game.

In 2012, Roosh called street approaching the most difficult approach venue.

How To Pick Up Girls On The Street

When Roosh wrote that, he mainly wrote that about United States residents trying to do street game in the United States.

You are fortunate that you are in Europe. European cities are better set up for street approachers. There's more use of public transportation and foot traffic than in the United States. Only a few older USA cities (New York, Boston, Chicago, Philadelphia, and Washington DC) are well set up for street game. In Europe, nearly every city is set up for street game.

In Sweden, it might be true that Stockholm is well set up for street game. Over the years, I've heard of very few field reports on street game coming out of Stockholm.

In Europe, London is most known for street game. The London Daygame Method (an attempt to utilize Mystery Method in non-bar setting) emerged from London, England. Tom Torero and Nick Krauser have been most associated with the London Daygame Model. Troy Francis and James Tusk also emerged from that London pickup scene and were associated with daygaming in London.

I'm not sure how much Swedish culture differs from English/British culture on street approaching.

I have the flu

Focus on recovering from the flu and not doing street approaches or any approaches at all.

A first step is to not waste opportunities, that is to not skip the approach.

It's common for even experienced cold approachers to miss some approaches. Men who are more experienced approachers will miss fewer approaches.

It's common to lock up in the moment and not be able to deliver an opening line. Another thing that can happen is that a good moment to approach passes and the woman is being blocked out by her friends.

I miss several per week. It’s typical some internal monologue that makes up some reasoning about why to not approach. It’s mostly cowardliness, fear for the various risks. It’s also often fitting to previous failed approaches, my brain using historic data.

Approach anxiety is a real thing. You are way too much in your head on the approaches.

What's your porn consumption like? If you did no porn/no fap or greatly reduced your porn consumption, you might be able to get to a state of being so horny that you're able to block out much of the internal monologue about failed approaches.

One of the most difficult things about being a cold approachers is dealing with the rejections. Approaching strangers in general has a high rate of rejection and it's psychologically difficult to push through all of the rejection. It's awful to do something like go out to a public place like a walking path or grocery store for 2 hours on a weekend morning and have no approaches result in first dates planned/number exchanges.

Bar approaching can be even more brutal. Plenty of men leave bars in the early morning hours empty handed and pissed off. They are somewhat intoxicated and greatly unhappy that their night out did not result in first dates planned, number exchanges, or same night sex. Mostly every male has been in this situation at least once and it stinks.

If a man takes too many rejections without having any successes to show for it, then he's going to be dealing with self-doubt and fear surrounding approaching strangers. The mind works this way to prevent further psychological damage.

 

[anonymous12345]

What's your porn consumption like? If you did no porn/no fap or greatly reduced your porn consumption, you might be able to get to a state of being so horny that you're able to block out much of the internal monologue about failed approaches.

I'm nofap/noporn since long. It was a challenge, but definitely worth it. My d works very well. I *** when I want to, and it's absurd: it's erected after cumming, and I can go afterwards. I've only heard influencer/porn star Stirling Cooper able to do the same.

One of the most difficult things about being a cold approachers is dealing with the rejections. Approaching strangers in general has a high rate of rejection and it's psychologically difficult to push through all of the rejection. It's awful to do something like go out to a public place like a walking path or grocery store for 2 hours on a weekend morning and have no approaches result in first dates planned/number exchanges.

Yeah, it's an emotional roller coaster, one needs to overcome all the harshness. But here's the thing, some people excel at it, and they're not on this forum. Pierce Brosnan's Bond gets dissed a lot, he survives it.

For me I have this anxious, measly monologue that I give the command and listen to. I shouldn't, I should be in control, be high energy/alert, and just steer the way I'm capable to.

Bar approaching can be even more brutal. Plenty of men leave bars in the early morning hours empty handed and pissed off. They are somewhat intoxicated and greatly unhappy that their night out did not result in first dates planned, number exchanges, or same night sex. Mostly every male has been in this situation at least once and it stinks.

Yeah, the sight of devastated men on the bus home a Saturday night is harsh. I'm one of them.

If a man takes too many rejections without having any successes to show for it, then he's going to be dealing with self-doubt and fear surrounding approaching strangers. The mind works this way to prevent further psychological damage.

Sounds correct, but some just deal with it.

 

[SW15]

I'm nofap/noporn since long. It was a challenge, but definitely worth it. My d works very well. I *** when I want to, and it's absurd: it's erected after cumming, and I can go afterwards. I've only heard influencer/porn star Stirling Cooper able to do the same.

You're in a good spot there for a 40 year old.

No porn and no masturbation is a challenging. You've managed to achieve that in life.

If you can achieve a challenging like that, then you might be able to conquer an approach anxiety challenge.

it's an emotional roller coaster, one needs to overcome all the harshness. But here's the thing, some people excel at it, and they're not on this forum. Pierce Brosnan's Bond gets dissed a lot, he survives it.

The vast majority of men are not on SoSuave or similar forums.

The YouTube comments section probably gets more male attention.

the sight of devastated men on the bus home a Saturday night is harsh. I'm one of them.

I can imagine. There's not much of an equivalent to this in my USA city. Many of the men failing to get laid or set up future dates after bar approaching on Saturday nights are likely taking rideshare apps home in my city. I'm sure the rideshare app drivers see plenty of empty handed men going home early on Sunday morning. Some men in my city are fortunate enough to live walking distance from some of the more active nightlife venues in my city. They can walk home disappointed.