Landing hot girls becomes easier after college, anyone agree?

[Benjaymin]

I am 27 years old and a mixed race male (Dominican and filipino). Look the same now than I did back in college but something changed for me.

After graduating from USC (praise god best day of my life, I am not even a Trojans fan because I hated my time at that school so much, went due to scholarship and because it close to family), years down the road, **** just changed for me.

At USC, I only got laid twice and both times it was from girls that weren't students (once on a vacation). After USC, not only have I gotten laid over 20 times, I have had serious relationships with girls that looked good and weren't even the same race as I was.

I have been with Asian girls, barbies, and even had an LTR with a good looking brunette, a blonde that modeled, an asian-white mix that worked at an upscale restaurant, beautiful persian girl with rich parents, and a brunette that is on her way to becoming a doctor.

Now I realized that in college, it is easier to smash an average looking chick but the hot girls are very difficult to get with because:

1. they are usually in sororities and their sisters watch their every move
2. they are usually under pressure to date the kind of guys their sisters and social circles find attractive
3. a lot of pre-selection
4. as a college male, you are still developing mentally and you haven't hit your prime yet

What I saw at USC was that the Channing Tatum looking dude or Chris Hemsworth surfer boy looking male was always getting the top quality poon.

In real life, it is like every guy had a chance to get in on the action. For some reason, confidence, life experience, game, and other things started to matter more. Like girls became more open minded.

I have dated girl in the past 2 years that back in college would get shunned and excommunicated from their sororities for being with me even though I am not a bad looking guy.

 

[user name]

not according to this article:

http://elitedaily.com/dating/sex/why-you-cant-find-someone-to-love/

but ultimately it depends on the person.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

not according to this article:

http://elitedaily.com/dating/sex/why-you-cant-find-someone-to-love/

but ultimately it depends on the person.

odd, yet many people say it gets easier for guys with age

 

[user name]

odd, yet many people say it gets easier for guys with age

I would say it gets easier for guys with 'sage'...

 

[JaegerPilot217]

I would say it gets easier for guys with 'sage'...

really it does?

 

[user name]

really it does?

Yes. It does.

Just like fixing the engine of your car becomes easier if you understand how an engine works.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Yes. It does.

Just like fixing the engine of your car does if you understand how an engine works.

i'm guessing the reason why it becomes easier for men as they age is because of money, career, stability?

 

[user name]

i'm guessing the reason why it becomes easier for men as they age is because of money, career, stability?

Not at all.

I knew plenty of women who 'dated' millionaires in their 40s + and they weren't interested in them other than the free meals and the social value they gave her.

A schmuck at 20 is a schmuck at 40.

I did know one guy, however, who was 40 something, pot-bellied, short but the best damn salesman I ever met. He also understood women. And had an ever-revolving round of women around him. I could never understand the attraction at the time. But now i do.

He understood women and what they want. A man who is confident in himself and values himself - which is what he was, regardless of his looks.

It has nothing to do with age and everything to do with 'sage'.

Know thyself.

Once you know who you are, everything else falls into place.

 

[thatfeel]

not according to this article:

http://elitedaily.com/dating/sex/why-you-cant-find-someone-to-love/

but ultimately it depends on the person.

That article/site is tumblr-tier.

 

[HyperAnalyze]

Social circles are the easiest ways to get laid in college.

 

[Benjaymin]

Social circles are the easiest ways to get laid in college.

ya, and I suck at making social circles

 

[Benjaymin]

not according to this article:

http://elitedaily.com/dating/sex/why-you-cant-find-someone-to-love/

but ultimately it depends on the person.

article written by a woman, shocking!

Women pass their peak after college and men start to hit theirs. Dumb bish wants all men to be hopeless and connect with some party sloot in college so they don't excel afterwards. Real life > College.

1. No more dumb**** social circles
2. Girls aren't constantly suffocated by their elitist social circles and sororities
3. You can do whatever you want and go wherever you want in your free time
4. You can **** a girl without having to worry about her tight knit social circle finding out and coming on to her for ****ing an outsider

 

[TheODB]

You're right to a certain extent, just not because of the reasons you cite.

Landing hot girls (or any girls, really) SHOULD be easier during college than during anytime thereafter because a guy will never have that many single, attractive women that are experimenting and "finding themselves" romantically and sexually. In college, you have access to tens of thousands of these girls, all of which happen to reside within the same few square miles. It is very unlikely that a guy would ever find himself in a situation like that after college, especially when you consider that most women hit their physical peak in their early 20s.

Trust me when I say that a guy doesn't need to be a fraternity brother, a jock, or a high status male in order to get with a decent number of attractive women in college. In many respects, a guy's success with women in college comes down to if and when he decided that consciously working on how to attract women was a priority, provided he wasn't already a "natural" with women or unusually good looking.

A guy who dresses above average, is in shape, and can effectively initiate flirty conversation with lots of women in the right places (house parties, certain bars, campus social events, etc.) has a MAJOR advantage over just about any other guy regardless of his "status" on campus. If a guy decides on his first day of school that he is going to learn how to be fearless when it comes to his dealings with women, and if he tenaciously hangs onto that goal, he will have gotten with a decent amount of good looking women by the time he graduates 4 (or 5 ) years later.

What I'm trying to say is that landing hot girls generally becomes easier after college for most guys because of factors intrinsic to them, NOT external factors like the ones you mention. Frankly, what you say is dangerously close to defeatism.

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE!!!

In college, I dressed like ****, didn't care. But I had the IDGAF attitude and laid women much more than my friends. Was not in a fraternity, but had a good deal of sex... not top 1%, but I didn't go too long without.

Since then, I've gone through stages of continuing to look like crap and still pull chicks. But at my age now, I do dress better for women in my age bracket.

Also, some of the younger chicks see a 40-plus dude dressing like a 20 year old as a loser Peter Pan who never grew up.

I still party, have fun, hang out with multiple crowds. But at my age, I strike a pose that fits with both those chicks my age (stylish but still bad boy) and the younger crowd (cool clothes from the vintage store).

You do have to adjust as you age.

Banged more chicks this year than I did any year in college.

 

[FairShake]

I'm a better man than I was during my college (age) years. So yeah, I'm finding it easier. Social circles are ALLEGEDLY harder to make after college, but only if you don't have the skills or patience to look and work your way in.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

You're right to a certain extent, just not because of the reasons you cite.

Landing hot girls (or any girls, really) SHOULD be easier during college than during anytime thereafter because a guy will never have that many single, attractive women that are experimenting and "finding themselves" romantically and sexually. In college, you have access to tens of thousands of these girls, all of which happen to reside within the same few square miles. It is very unlikely that a guy would ever find himself in a situation like that after college, especially when you consider that most women hit their physical peak in their early 20s.

Trust me when I say that a guy doesn't need to be a fraternity brother, a jock, or a high status male in order to get with a decent number of attractive women in college. In many respects, a guy's success with women in college comes down to if and when he decided that consciously working on how to attract women was a priority, provided he wasn't already a "natural" with women or unusually good looking.

A guy who dresses above average, is in shape, and can effectively initiate flirty conversation with lots of women in the right places (house parties, certain bars, campus social events, etc.) has a MAJOR advantage over just about any other guy regardless of his "status" on campus. If a guy decides on his first day of school that he is going to learn how to be fearless when it comes to his dealings with women, and if he tenaciously hangs onto that goal, he will have gotten with a decent amount of good looking women by the time he graduates 4 (or 5 ) years later.

What I'm trying to say is that landing hot girls generally becomes easier after college for most guys because of factors intrinsic to them, NOT external factors like the ones you mention. Frankly, what you say is dangerously close to defeatism.

yeah I would say it all comes down to how outgoing the guy is, his social circle and social network that he has, he is either the leader or just a member of a known group

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Yeah, I go to a college like that. Theres not a day that passes by that I do not think of graduating from this hellhole

 

[Benjaymin]

I disagree. I was VERY SOCIAL and VERY OUTGOING in my college years, no success whatsoever. Again, might have to do with my ethnicity, the only guys who got laid at my university were White guys or athletes who were usually Black. Other guys were AFCs and I was actively trying my ass off to not be an AFC but I ended up being one anyways. I could make girls laugh, went out, did my best, put my best foot forward but at the end of the night? NO SEX.

My college years were frustrating and I believe me not being a White male in a hellhole like USC worked against me in attracting women. Part of it being that girls are TIGHTLY tied to their social circles and if you were a minority trying to penetrate that social circle you often got the disgusting look by people. I had people tell me right to my face "why not go hang out with the mexicans?". That is how bad it was.

Now being out in the real world, 20 or so lays later, and having relationships with some dime pieces, I don't ****ing get it. I didn't change **** about myself other than location. The same kind of women who would not TOUCH ME in college have given me head, let me rawdog em, and even let me do anal. Hell I have even ****ed some college girls to make up for the lost time.

Those of you having success in here in college, more power to you but college was hell for me and I tried to improve myself, that went nowhere.

My younger cousin is full Dominican (looks Black though) and is attending the University of Tennessee (Knoxville). Tells me how much of an incel he is there.

 

[Benjaymin]

I'm a better man than I was during my college (age) years. So yeah, I'm finding it easier. Social circles are ALLEGEDLY harder to make after college, but only if you don't have the skills or patience to look and work your way in.

You don't NEED social circles after college. You go to a ****ing bar, hit on some sluts, take one home, and never have to see her again unless you want to. Not to mention women are out to get picked up and ****ed, they aren't out to look for validation from their insecure sorority sisters who are trying to what football player or fraternity guy's **** they want to stuff in their mouths.

The whole college fantasy is only true if you are in a fraternity or an athlete, for a guy who isn't White, college becomes complete and total hell, I hated my college years and was so ****ing miserable back then even though I tried not to be.

Problem is, college girls are ATTACHED to their social circles, they let their social circles control everything they do and they let their social circles get a tight grip on their mind. That is all college is about, how well you can convince someone to let you climb to the top of the social ladder and in some cases, your ethnicity can become a roadblock especially at a school like USC that punishes you for not being a rich white prep.

I am so ****ing happy I finished college and I would make my kids research their school.

Go to school in a city like NYC where logistics are ****ing amazing, if you are stuck in a college town you are ****ed.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Its all a 10% issue in college.