Lack of subjects to talk about with women lately

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why is that?

i used to have long and interesting conversations with women in the past, both online and in the real world, now i cant/dont/wont carry on the conversation to a satisfactory level. both with face to face convos/text messages/online chats.

for example my ex gf was texting me and asking me about what i've been up to and after some texting i lost interest and thought to myself, what am i going to say next? oh **** it, i dont want to. i think she noticed and didnt send more.

oh btw she told she broke up with me because she didnt know what love meant back then (she was 19 and i 27) and that she was too young to deal with a long term relationship (although she found a new guy a month later and dated him for 6 years,she told me he beat her in front of other people and made her life like hell). guess what? i didnt feel sorry for her,in fact after knowing this i lost interest in keeping contact.

anyway why this loss of capaciry to create subjects /conversations? is it because i'm tired of the dating game / because i adapted to loneliness and lost social skills because i dont have friends to hang out with? because i stopped reading the newspapers / books or because i've been hurt in the past and i dont give a **** anymore?
 

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Try to place the focus of conversation on the other person. Listen to what she tells you and enquire further on any subject hints she drops you.

Obviously this won't work if you don't want to talk to the other person - you'll have to make an effort.
 

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I think its just aging and wisdom.

A 2-hour conversation usually only consists of about 10-20 minutes of actual worthwhile information sharing. The rest is padded out with small-talk, awkward pauses while somebody thinks of something to say, and boring droning that blends into the background for the listener.

As I age I find women less and less interesting and see them more and more in terms of how they are useful to me (sex). The point is that most women are not all that important, not all that interesting, not all that fun, and not all that essential.

Its only after you've become very good with women do you realize how ordinary and boring most of them really are. Once you get past the p*ssy obsession of your teenage years you realize there was nothing to be obsessed about.

Its always the men who suck with women that find them the most interesting. I have a co-worker in his 40's who sucks with women and he still looks at them with the same admiration and awe most teenage boys do... like these magical goddesses. Hahaha f*cking loser.
 

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Children say more interesting things than most women. Don't talk to women, do whatever you want and let them tag along. If you have social sh1t to talk about, like people at work who bug your ass or women who backstab you, then girls are experts on those subjects. Otherwise girls and boys are not compatible. If I wanna talk about stuff, I call a friend. If I want to unload and complain about something, I do it on my wife.
 

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I find it funny when someone posts that they find women really interesting and enjoy talking with them. Whatever.

Consider a particular girl you "like". Now stipulate that you will never have sex with her. Literally. As in she doesn't have a vag. Or it's permanently sealed shut. Or it has sharp teeth and will bite your c0ck off the moment you penetrate her. Seriously. Still "like" her? Still want her to be your girlfriend? Doubt it.

While there are some very cool women out there, generally either really athletic or really nerdy (the main idea being that the two of you share a passion for some particular interest, could be ironman triathlon, art, etc.), the vast majority are boring and annoying. Without sex or the anticipation of it, it's just not fun hanging out with these women. Listening to a girl complain about something isn't fun. Watching her judge other women isn't fun. Small talk to pass the time is disingenuous and annoying. Dealing with some stupid shyt test isn't fun -- and the only reason she doesn't get a foot up the ass because of it is... sex.

So yeah.
 
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