lack of sex in a healthy relationship: Defining the threshold

[jhonny9546]

Usually, even a healthy relationship can experience moments of a "dead bedroom."

Yes, sometimes this depends on the woman's menstrual cycle, and other times it may be due to different factors. However, there is always an opportunity to get pleasure (such as through oral sex, handjobs, etc.).

Like every man, we have our own needs to satisfy, and sometimes, if our relationship does not meet those needs, some may resort to seeking sex outside the relationship.

According to a mature man, what is the appropriate number of days without sex before reaching the point of no return? When do you consider it appropriate to give your partner an ultimatum (either directly or indirectly)?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I guess I don't have a healthy relationship, but if one of my lovers doesn't feel like sex, I will turn to one of the others. Their lack of desire doesn't mean I have to do without sex.

 

[sharkfinale]

If you have to define threshold, I guess it is crossed

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If you have to ask, it's not enough.

 

[Lotus Effect]

You don't have to ask your partner for sex. Defintely not an ultimatum.

People fvck when they are attracted to the other person, which makes them h0rny.

If she is not h0rny, then you probably let yourself go in the process.

If you press for sex, and get it, it is going to be a very bad lay for everyone involved.

I'm not saying it does not happen, it happens. We let go. But rest assured everyone would like to be fvking.

The question you should be asking is.
- Am I blazing my trail?
- Am I an attractive MF?
- Am I working on myself (Physical, Emotional, Spiritual, Financial)

Those questions answered with an Yes are going to get you p00n.

 

[DJ Novice]

You should not regularly have to beg or ask for physical intimacy. If you need to, she is using it as a control/reward/punishment mechanism, she is no longer attracted to you, your libidos/physical intimacy needs are mismatched or there is some sort of illness such as depression. A emerging dead bedroom is a warning sign that can’t be ignored.