backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Okay, I am in a situtation where I have been dating my current GF for almost half a year, but I am seriously, seriously considering breaking up with her, because to be 4 years older than me she is pretty immature. Yesterday she hid my car keys so I couldn't leave the house. The day before she got mad because my phone rang at 1 in the morning, even though Ic an't control who calls me. Just too high matinence for me.
Anyway, I have an old crush that I got over when me and my GF hooked up. We have always been pretty good friends but I liked her when i was younger. She has had a BF for 3 years and change now.
So I get a call from my friend friday asking what I was doing that night. We talked for a breif second then I told her I would call her back so I could watch the Sweet 16 game that was on at the time.
Later that night, my GF said she wanted to take me out to dinner (that's game fellas
) so we left at like 11ish and went to a spot and got a bite to eat at this Bar/Club.
So we get back home at around 1:30ish and I am pretty tired so we hop in bed. We talked for some minutes, and then my phone rang. I knew who it was already (my friend) cause only one person calls me that late. She has a pretty bad habit of that, and my Gf (and I) don't really like it. She is my friend and all and I don't mind her calling, or even tlaking to her, but I am usually sleep at that time.
So my GF is *****ing me out at this point, "I don't want her calling here that late anymore, you must want to **** her", which I get every other day, so it wasn't new, and if she actually believed what she was saying, she wouldn't be my GF.
So 5 minutes later, the phone rings again. I knew something wasn't right. My friend knows that I keep my phone on and If I don't answer it, I don't want to talk or I can't talk so she never bothers to call back, but she did. I guess it just quirks you learn about people over the years. Anyway I was damn close to picking up the phone and calling her back, but because my GF was *****ing and i was sleeply, I called it a night and cut off my phone.
So the next morning, I wake up and Check my messages, and she left 2 messages on my phone, both I coudl tell she had been crying. I could barely understand what she was saying. The first one was partainnig to "hey, I was just calling to see what you were up to (sleep maybe?) and just to tell you how miserable mylife is, call me back". Then the second message was "hey, tell Amber (My GF, they know each other) that I am single now, I bet she would love that".
So I was right, I had known what happened without even picking up the phone the night before, I just didn't know HOW it happened, which I will get to in a second. Amber at this time wants to know "why that white (hispanic, everyone to her that isn't black, is white) hoe (I said they knew each other, I didn't say anything about liking each other) said that about me". I told her that it doesn't take a rocket secientist to know that you don't like her. She is sure that my friend is trying to break us up by calling late, calling all of the time, coming over my house, etc, however she has acted like that well before I met amber, whcih she doesn't seem to get, it's just her personality, she is needy.
So as soon as amber left for work I get a call from my friend. Of course i had to act suprised when she told me her and her BF broke up. I asked why, and she said that he had been selling and growing drugs for the last 5 months without her or his dad knowing about it... this is a kid who goes to college, or went to college off of his dad's checkbook and his dad even offered to pay for my friends college tutition to keep to gother if he went out of state. She said she called the police and tried to get him arrested but they couldn't find anything, but she said she saw alot of mushrooms and about 10-15 shoeboxes full of weed.
We talked for a while, and I told her Id on't do drugs, which she knows, however what you do is what you do. What I can't stand, is suberban white kids trying to sell drugs because "their life is tough" or black or hispanic kids for that matter.
Anyway, we talked alot on Saturday, mainly because no one was at my house and I knew she needed someone to talk to. I will admit, it was fun talking to her. I would have picked her up and brought her over my house just so she could get out of the house, but it was hailing outside and I didn't want to leave the house, nor did I want to hear my GF's mouth at the time when she found out.
Throughout the entire day when we talked, we would be talking about certain things, like for instance, how all of her EX's friends are never up to any good and how she doesn't fit in with that crowd of people, and she would say "see, like if you and I were dating I wouldn't have a problem with your friends becuase they are good people". I didn't think much of it then, but when Amber got home from work and pissed me off yet again, it got me to thinking..... what if..... but when i sat down and reminded myself of who I was with, the what if's stopped. There is a reason I am with my current GF.
So I was pretty busy all day yesterday, and my GF was in my living room ordering pay-per-view movies, while the house needed to be cleaned (stuff like that is what gets to me). So we got mad and I told her to go to her mom's house for the night (we live together) because I needed some space away from her, which couldn't have been more trurer.
So My friend calls me at like 12:00 and we talked for a while. Not much about her breaking up with her Bf, but about just stuff in general, sex, why I still see amber if we are having so much trouble, her mom who I am good friends with, etc.
Towards the end of the conversation she said something along the lines of "yeah, he called me today and we talked, and I told him we need to meet in person so I can see what I am going to do".
so I asked her is she considering taking him back?
She said "I am really leaning towards leaving, but it's a posibility"
So I asked her "not to be mean, but in all seriousness, when is enough, enough? No one really likes him, including your mom who won't let him come in your house anymore, he dropped out of school, he is antisocial, you complain that he never takes you out, EVER, you just go to your, i mean his friends house every weekend and watch them play video games (my GF complains about the same thing but I make sure i take her out at least 1 times a week bare minimum), he does drugs, tried to kill h imself last year, and now you found out he sells drugs? Seriously, if finding out that your BF is putting your life in danger isn't enough to break up with him, what is?"
She said " i know , you are right, but we have been though so much together it will be hard to leave him, but i know that's not an excuse".
Now, I feel bad because I knew she had lower self esteem than most people, even though she is georgous, but this takes the cake. And to be frank, I can't be friends with someone, help someone that doesn't want to help themselves, because in the end, she isn't doing anything but wasting my time with her problems that she doesn't want to fix if that makes any sense.
I also feel bad because for 5 months, I really didn't like her in that type of way, even though the way my GF think I wanted her soo bad I might as well at times. I guess, the combination of my GF acting the way she is and her and her BF seperating kinda made me look at her again for a brief second. It's just like that when you have one person over here acting like the wicked witch from the west, and another person on the other end acting the total opposite.
I really don't need much advice, and I am not afraid to leave my GF if I have to. I can find someone else and I am not afraid of being single, I kinda of even enjoy it. I really just needed to vent so I wouldn't mess around and say something to someone that shouldn't have been said.
I can honestly say I love my GF. For all of the bad things I posted about her, she has a heart as pure as gold, will go out of her way to make me happy, is great in bed and makes me laugh. However, the arguements we have are soo bad at times, I don't know how I do it constantly. Sometimes, most of the times, I honestly see where she is coming from. But when she goes in "princess mode" I can't deal with her. I even had a talk with her mom on helping me deal with her because I would love to make it work, but you can only give someone so many chances.
Anyway, I have an old crush that I got over when me and my GF hooked up. We have always been pretty good friends but I liked her when i was younger. She has had a BF for 3 years and change now.
So I get a call from my friend friday asking what I was doing that night. We talked for a breif second then I told her I would call her back so I could watch the Sweet 16 game that was on at the time.
Later that night, my GF said she wanted to take me out to dinner (that's game fellas
) so we left at like 11ish and went to a spot and got a bite to eat at this Bar/Club.So we get back home at around 1:30ish and I am pretty tired so we hop in bed. We talked for some minutes, and then my phone rang. I knew who it was already (my friend) cause only one person calls me that late. She has a pretty bad habit of that, and my Gf (and I) don't really like it. She is my friend and all and I don't mind her calling, or even tlaking to her, but I am usually sleep at that time.
So my GF is *****ing me out at this point, "I don't want her calling here that late anymore, you must want to **** her", which I get every other day, so it wasn't new, and if she actually believed what she was saying, she wouldn't be my GF.
So 5 minutes later, the phone rings again. I knew something wasn't right. My friend knows that I keep my phone on and If I don't answer it, I don't want to talk or I can't talk so she never bothers to call back, but she did. I guess it just quirks you learn about people over the years. Anyway I was damn close to picking up the phone and calling her back, but because my GF was *****ing and i was sleeply, I called it a night and cut off my phone.
So the next morning, I wake up and Check my messages, and she left 2 messages on my phone, both I coudl tell she had been crying. I could barely understand what she was saying. The first one was partainnig to "hey, I was just calling to see what you were up to (sleep maybe?) and just to tell you how miserable mylife is, call me back". Then the second message was "hey, tell Amber (My GF, they know each other) that I am single now, I bet she would love that".
So I was right, I had known what happened without even picking up the phone the night before, I just didn't know HOW it happened, which I will get to in a second. Amber at this time wants to know "why that white (hispanic, everyone to her that isn't black, is white) hoe (I said they knew each other, I didn't say anything about liking each other) said that about me". I told her that it doesn't take a rocket secientist to know that you don't like her. She is sure that my friend is trying to break us up by calling late, calling all of the time, coming over my house, etc, however she has acted like that well before I met amber, whcih she doesn't seem to get, it's just her personality, she is needy.
So as soon as amber left for work I get a call from my friend. Of course i had to act suprised when she told me her and her BF broke up. I asked why, and she said that he had been selling and growing drugs for the last 5 months without her or his dad knowing about it... this is a kid who goes to college, or went to college off of his dad's checkbook and his dad even offered to pay for my friends college tutition to keep to gother if he went out of state. She said she called the police and tried to get him arrested but they couldn't find anything, but she said she saw alot of mushrooms and about 10-15 shoeboxes full of weed.
We talked for a while, and I told her Id on't do drugs, which she knows, however what you do is what you do. What I can't stand, is suberban white kids trying to sell drugs because "their life is tough" or black or hispanic kids for that matter.
Anyway, we talked alot on Saturday, mainly because no one was at my house and I knew she needed someone to talk to. I will admit, it was fun talking to her. I would have picked her up and brought her over my house just so she could get out of the house, but it was hailing outside and I didn't want to leave the house, nor did I want to hear my GF's mouth at the time when she found out.
Throughout the entire day when we talked, we would be talking about certain things, like for instance, how all of her EX's friends are never up to any good and how she doesn't fit in with that crowd of people, and she would say "see, like if you and I were dating I wouldn't have a problem with your friends becuase they are good people". I didn't think much of it then, but when Amber got home from work and pissed me off yet again, it got me to thinking..... what if..... but when i sat down and reminded myself of who I was with, the what if's stopped. There is a reason I am with my current GF.
So I was pretty busy all day yesterday, and my GF was in my living room ordering pay-per-view movies, while the house needed to be cleaned (stuff like that is what gets to me). So we got mad and I told her to go to her mom's house for the night (we live together) because I needed some space away from her, which couldn't have been more trurer.
So My friend calls me at like 12:00 and we talked for a while. Not much about her breaking up with her Bf, but about just stuff in general, sex, why I still see amber if we are having so much trouble, her mom who I am good friends with, etc.
Towards the end of the conversation she said something along the lines of "yeah, he called me today and we talked, and I told him we need to meet in person so I can see what I am going to do".
so I asked her is she considering taking him back?
She said "I am really leaning towards leaving, but it's a posibility"
So I asked her "not to be mean, but in all seriousness, when is enough, enough? No one really likes him, including your mom who won't let him come in your house anymore, he dropped out of school, he is antisocial, you complain that he never takes you out, EVER, you just go to your, i mean his friends house every weekend and watch them play video games (my GF complains about the same thing but I make sure i take her out at least 1 times a week bare minimum), he does drugs, tried to kill h imself last year, and now you found out he sells drugs? Seriously, if finding out that your BF is putting your life in danger isn't enough to break up with him, what is?"
She said " i know , you are right, but we have been though so much together it will be hard to leave him, but i know that's not an excuse".
Now, I feel bad because I knew she had lower self esteem than most people, even though she is georgous, but this takes the cake. And to be frank, I can't be friends with someone, help someone that doesn't want to help themselves, because in the end, she isn't doing anything but wasting my time with her problems that she doesn't want to fix if that makes any sense.
I also feel bad because for 5 months, I really didn't like her in that type of way, even though the way my GF think I wanted her soo bad I might as well at times. I guess, the combination of my GF acting the way she is and her and her BF seperating kinda made me look at her again for a brief second. It's just like that when you have one person over here acting like the wicked witch from the west, and another person on the other end acting the total opposite.
I really don't need much advice, and I am not afraid to leave my GF if I have to. I can find someone else and I am not afraid of being single, I kinda of even enjoy it. I really just needed to vent so I wouldn't mess around and say something to someone that shouldn't have been said.
I can honestly say I love my GF. For all of the bad things I posted about her, she has a heart as pure as gold, will go out of her way to make me happy, is great in bed and makes me laugh. However, the arguements we have are soo bad at times, I don't know how I do it constantly. Sometimes, most of the times, I honestly see where she is coming from. But when she goes in "princess mode" I can't deal with her. I even had a talk with her mom on helping me deal with her because I would love to make it work, but you can only give someone so many chances.
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