Nova,
You bastard! All the Korean girls are MINE!
Good for you man. But I see some classical red flag signs. I know that we've established that Asian women tend to be slightly different from white women, but still, they are HUMAN. We can't discard the fact that they will respond to attraction and seduction tactics in a similar way. We just have to add a cultural twist on it, as Asian men.
I've deteremined that Asian dating culture is slightly on the AFC side. Its more traditional, and gender roles are more firmly entrenched. And overall, I don't see Asian women fighting to get out of those gender roles. Asian woman it seems like are more comfortable being in the subordinate role when it come to romance (But oh shiet, watch out when it come to professional or social situations -- they will get NASTY if you disrespect them... esp. the AAs.
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Therefore, I think its okay to be a bit more forceful and sexist (w/o overtly and verbally expressing such sentiments... that will only get you into trouble). Who gives a **** what that Korean girl thinks. Kiss her, drag her around. Asian girl are notorious for testing their men.
In fact, I think they are about 10 times as coy and manipulative as white women are. You've really got to gauge them carefully.
Nova, I think your girl either has only mild attraction to you, isn't sure, or is just draggin you along by your ****. Don't take this shiet test from her. Show her that you're a man. Just grab your balls and DO IT. Many Asian men are shy and passive, so more likely than not she will be TURNED ON by your aggressiveness. I've found that the masculine approach works best in these situations. Make a physical move, to hell with the consequences. I was once out with a Korean girl that was coy and evasive all night, and I got annoyed so I just grabbed her arms and french kissed her. I held her tight, so she couldn't budge. She seemed shocked at first, but in a moment she fukking melted. I was all over that shiet like white on rice that night... heheh..
But one thing though. Don't be aggressive out of the blue. You've got to build up to it. If she's being cold ALL night, then you know she's not interested. Just leave her there. Don't be a moron and try to kiss her then; use some tact.
And finally a word of caution for the non-Asians that are reading this....
This approach will probably blow up in the face of black or white men when they do it, because Asians, like blacks, are usually on their toes around most white people because of discrimination toward them. I mean, sure you can do business with them, have beers with them, etc., but if you're not in a trusted circle of friends, making a move on an asian woman is usually considered highly offensive, especially for the women. It's just the way it is -- Asian culture is just a very guarded one. For a white or black man to take a more forceful approach to Asian women would probably scare them away, as it just reinforces the stereotype of the white/black rapist/molestor/Asian fetishist. It's an unfair stereotype for those of you that are good guys, but it's there. Deal with it the best you can... after all, us Asian men have our own set of dumb stereotypes to deal with.
Oh yeah... good luck, Nova.
-Jake
Originally posted by nova_x:
background:
- i'm chinese born canadian
- meet a korean girl thru friends... she's DEFINATELY interested (high IL for sure)
- in 2 weeks: call her 4 times (4-5 day gap in between each call), meet up with her 2 times
- observe her IL dropping
- latest: "lets meet up for dinner on wednesday" turns into "lets meet up for dinner on wednesday with my roommate"
options:
1) next her: cause i prolly f*cked up and have no more chance w/ her
2) slow down/back off w/ persistance: since she was interested
what to do?
ps. jake since you seem to be the asian specialist ... help would be appreciated
[This message has been edited by nova_x (edited 12-09-2002).]
