Kissing - When and how do you do it?

[Reyaj]

Reyaj, going off of what Buddha_Mind wrote, try this move that has been my go-to that takes it to the next level every time:

When kissing her neck, halfway between her jaw and ear, give a small, not too aggressive, bite with your mouth open about 1 inch. Then as you apply the pressure, gently lick the small area in between inbetween your teeth. Next, pull back about 2 inches and lightly blow on the area that is wet from your tongue. Trust me, this will send her over the top :rockon:

Also, a great move to do, after a few dates, perhaps when the foreplay is leading to sex, ask her to try "circle breathing" with you. Think of this as shot-gunning a blunt. Have her breath into your mouth, fill your lungs, and then breath out back into hers as she does the same. I'd bet a good amount she's never experienced this and it will send her over the top emotionally; she'll feel like you're "inside" her before the sex even starts. Also, if you really dig her it'll be pretty cool for you too

Let me know how it goes!

Thanx for the tip! That Circle Breathing sounds like a good idea... Does asking her to do it turn her off though? I have just noticed that when you try to explicitly state things it isn't as much as a turn-on as when it happens naturally... Either way I am going to try it cause I can picture it in my mind and it seems very sensual.

Your first tip sounds awseome too... I am just having a hard time picturing the spot you are talking about though... When you say halfway between her jaw and her ear do you mean more towards the front of the jaw and ear which is technically the end of her cheek or do you mean on the neck? If I can just figure out that spot you are talking about, that move sounds golden!

 

[JimmyMack]

I agree, sometimes asking her to do something can kill it a bit, but in this case, it might be really hard for her to pick up on what's going on. Be real casual and confident about it when you ask her and it should be okay; her curiosity will move her forward.

For the first move: definitely on her neck and not the cheek. Really, you can go for it anywhere, but I find that somewhere on her neck between her jaw and ear is the best spot. Experiment though and have fun!

 

[Reyaj]

Got it Jimmy, thanx!

Now do you make it a point to do this on your first kiss? Do you make it a point to kiss a girl on the 1st date?

 

[JimmyMack]

The breathing thing I don't do on the first kiss/date unless it ends up in the bedroom and the foreplay is really escalating; this can come off pretty intense so it's good to be sure that's where things are headed. More specifically, I'll try it if she's a little guarded about getting fully naked.

I've been reading these forums since August (after getting out of a 5yr relationship) and it has given me the perspective and confidence to always go for the kiss on the first date. It has always worked and I've felt great about it. Worst case scenario: she pulls away, yet if you keep your confidence you'll come away as a man who knows what he wants and is not afraid to go after it.

As far as the light biting thing - it really depends on context. If I'm at my/her place, on the couch or whatever, I go for it. If it was more of a casual coffee/happy hour thing and I'm walking her to her car then I wait.

When I'm spinning plates, I try it all; that's the fun of dating and what's the worst that can happen

 

[Reyaj]

The breathing thing I don't do on the first kiss/date unless it ends up in the bedroom and the foreplay is really escalating; this can come off pretty intense so it's good to be sure that's where things are headed. More specifically, I'll try it if she's a little guarded about getting fully naked.

I've been reading these forums since August (after getting out of a 5yr relationship) and it has given me the perspective and confidence to always go for the kiss on the first date. It has always worked and I've felt great about it. Worst case scenario: she pulls away, yet if you keep your confidence you'll come away as a man who knows what he wants and is not afraid to go after it.

As far as the light biting thing - it really depends on context. If I'm at my/her place, on the couch or whatever, I go for it. If it was more of a casual coffee/happy hour thing and I'm walking her to her car then I wait.

When I'm spinning plates, I try it all; that's the fun of dating and what's the worst that can happen

Sounds logical.... so here's my initial question.. Lets say you are out on a coffee date and you walk the girl to her car.. is this where you go for the good night kiss? Do you make sure it's a make out or do you just give a soft fast one? I've noticed I've gotten a lot of flakes after this first kiss on these types of dates... At first I thought I was being too soft.. so now I am thinking maybe I am being too agressive.... I mean do you make sure the kiss is a certain amount of time and then you end it? Or do you try to make out until she ends it? If she does end it do you go back in for seconds?

 

[JimmyMack]

It's tough to say as I feel a lot of it depends on the whole vibe of what's happening. As squirrels mentioned: pay attention to how she responds. Some might like it short and quick on the first date and others might be ready to go longer. Not sure why some of them are flaking out afterwards though.

 

[DonJerky]

I don't think how you kiss is determined by "how she is responding". Like dancing, girls totally follow your lead while kissing as well.
Just to give me some credibility, I've been called "The Makeout King" by girlfriends of girls that I've kissed. When I heard it the first time I couldn't believe it, that the kiss was so powerful she was telling her friends about it. That's how you wanna kiss chicks!

In order to do that, you've got to make a conscious effort not to use your tongue. Tongue is the kiss killer, ALWAYS. Tongue-kissing is for during intercourse if you ask me. A kiss is all in the lips, and lip-kissing allows the two of you to play games with your lips. Chances are every guy has tongue-kissed the girl you are after. Be the first guy to kiss like a man, playfully. Don't give her that tongue for a while, make her earn it.

 

[Reyaj]

I don't think how you kiss is determined by "how she is responding". Like dancing, girls totally follow your lead while kissing as well.
Just to give me some credibility, I've been called "The Makeout King" by girlfriends of girls that I've kissed. When I heard it the first time I couldn't believe it, that the kiss was so powerful she was telling her friends about it. That's how you wanna kiss chicks!

In order to do that, you've got to make a conscious effort not to use your tongue. Tongue is the kiss killer, ALWAYS. Tongue-kissing is for during intercourse if you ask me. A kiss is all in the lips, and lip-kissing allows the two of you to play games with your lips. Chances are every guy has tongue-kissed the girl you are after. Be the first guy to kiss like a man, playfully. Don't give her that tongue for a while, make her earn it.

While I don't lead in with my tongue I tried to slip it in there sooner than later

 

[Lexington]

I think purely lip kissing can get awfully boring. It might be good for the first kiss but once you go for the make out, slip the tongue in there. In the past I was always awkward about introducing the tongue. Fortunately, most girls would introduce it themselves. Among a few of them who didn't, they asked me why I didn't like to use tongue.

 

[Reyaj]

I think purely lip kissing can get awfully boring. It might be good for the first kiss but once you go for the make out, slip the tongue in there. In the past I was always awkward about introducing the tongue. Fortunately, most girls would introduce it themselves. Among a few of them who didn't, they asked me why I didn't like to use tongue.

Agree! But regarding the first kiss.... I try to get a makeout session going if possible. I hate these chicks that do the little pitty pat kiss.... if I don't make out with them by the 3rd date I next em.. and most of the time the pitty pat kiss results in that.

The chicks it works with have used tongue right away even if its a short kiss

 

[bugsquish]

There are lots of different kinds of kissing for different situations. For sexual escalation you can be more passionate, but for a first kiss I keep it gentle to begin with. Tongue is good in moderation but there's no rush. Some of the most passionate kisses I've had started slowly and built up. Keep her waiting, it's a real turn on. One technique I use is to lock lips and suck gently, holding in place, like I'm creating a vaccuum. Lots of girls seem to know what I'm doing and hold it in place (It sizzles, I've heard pleasure noises at this point), and when the lips pop apart the kiss escalates naturally.

The kiss has to come at a natural point, after you are comfortable touching each other. You should already be able to hold hands, put your arms around her and press your body against her without any awkwardness (or at least know you are at that stage). Otherwise, you're not really ready for a kiss.

You also realise after a while that all girls kiss differently. So while it's good to be dominant and lead the kiss to an extent, you also need to be aware of how she kisses naturally and where her lips are going, that way your own lips can always be in the right place. It's something that gets better with practise.

Lots of girls are terrible kissers. I've had painful kisses involving teeth, really sloppy kisses that leave my face soaking, over-eager kisses that stick a tongue straight down my throat, or just wierd ones with cold saliva or funny taste.

 

[Reyaj]

So about a month ago I went out with this girl I met a long time ago. We never did anything prior. I had a drink with her and I walked her to car... we hugged, then I came back in and she started tonguing me! She hit my teeth with hers but I forgive her lol... So I stopped it keeping her wanting more. She was texting me a few days later and even asked when she could see me again.

So the next time we went out to dinner. At the end I asked her if she wanted to do something else and she said she already had made plans with her friend (basically why I nexted her) I went in and kissed her soft this time... because there were people in the parking lot around us. She didn't tongue me hard like the first time.

She basically ended up breaking plans we had made after and I nexted her.... Go figure

 

[Reyaj]

Man lost a few more after first date kisses... First girl we had a drink and I was in her car and I started making out with her... she was tonguing me back too. Then just ignored my texts.....

Recent girl from past Friday I gave her a kiss in her car when she dropped me off to mine... then I opened the door and went in again for another kiss and we did it. She hasn't returned my text either... It makes no sense because some girls I end up making out with and getting into bed but more times than not the first date kiss is where it ends....

And trust me both these girls were showing IOIs and they kissed me back... I don't even try when they don't (unless I am drunk I guess I do sometimes lol)

I did chew gum before each... I don't think my breath was that bad...

I asked this hot girl I am friends with if she ever lost interest in a guy after the date went well and he kissed her at the end... she said it definitely happens... and this was her response word for word...

"Depends on the person. Some people need mints, others need less tongue, or are a terrible kisser. Some can be rude or disrespectful after they get what they want"