Kissing in an casual, open relationship...

[Timster]

So, I've been dating this girl and we both decided that we want to have an open, non-serious relationship. Not merely friends, but not an exclusive couple either. Somewhere in between. We want to be able to date other people. (We're both 19).

It wasn't until now that we were both on the same page regarding this decision. She wanted it first and it confused me, but I'm good now. So, it's been about a month since we've kissed and we both really have fun doing it.

I had my friend text her on her cell phone asking if she would let me kiss her...she said yes, but that it wouldn't mean anything. What I think she meant by that was it wouldn't mean that we're "together".

The way I figure, we can have a casual relationship and still kiss -- it's a way to show affection and to just have fun -- kind of a way of flirting...

We both still like each other and the chemistry and attraction is there. We just don't want to be "serious" right now.

Anyway, if the opportunity arises, should I just kiss her? Imagining it, it seems like it would be kind of hard, but I think it would break the ice and help us to both feel more comfortable around each other...

Any advice/ideas/suggestions/tips, etc...?

 

[flyinshark]

I personally dont see nothing wrong in kissing a girl. The only thing is that if u kiss (and maybe go further), i think it's pretty possible that one of you will want to start an exclusive relationship, because of this new intimacy u've developed together.

But i dont know, i think this relationship u guys wanna be in is a bit weird. From my experience, u can either be gf/bf or fvck-friends, but not something in between...

 

[Timster]

Well, we both want to be good friends, but act like a couple. Neither of us are ready for a "serious" relationship together. "Labeling" our relationship as "friends" rules out commitment - wherein we would restrict ourselves from dating and getting to know other people.

This way, we're basically boyfriend/girlfriend (emphasis on friend).

 

[A&F Brand Cologne]

wait a second...

is this thread really asking if you should kiss a girl you're dating?

jesus ****ing christ.

 

[Timster]

Woah there. Leave Jesus out of this...

I know it's fine for me to kiss her...It's just been a long time since we've kissed...and I'm just not sure how to re-inititate/re-establish it. I suppose it's easy...just do it.

 

[Maverick_DJ]

I had my friend text her on her cell phone asking if she would let me kiss her

Are you sure youre 19? Sounds like something a 12 year old would do!!

You should just do what feels right, if you wanna kiss her then do it (dont ask her!), sounds to me like youre overanalysing the situation, lighten up dude and dont take it all to seriously!!

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by Timster
.....and we both decided that we want to have an open, non-serious relationship. Not merely friends, but not an exclusive couple either. Somewhere in between. We want to be able to date other people.

Excuse me if im wrong but: doesn't that mean that you can kiss her and maybe even F____ her, and still pursue relationships with other gurls.

 

[Timster]

You guys are right...I'm over-analytical about everything. A friend of mine told me not to worry...to have fun and get all the kissing I can in.

 

[Climax]

Goooood moooorning!

Originally posted by Timster
You guys are right...I'm over-analytical about everything. A friend of mine told me not to worry...to have fun and get all the kissing I can in.

Dude... I'm happy that u woke up... but I'm gonna throw in my 2c anyways

Its called being friends with benefits , which means that u are NOT togeather anymore, u are just 2 friends that do sexual things togeather. That kind of "relationship" between a guy and a girl is common in the days of today... So Eventhough u seem like a 12 year old by asking your friend to ask her if she would let u kiss her, but alas, she said "yes", So just go for it, and do whatever u want with her (sexualy), and whatevver u did with her when u were properly together, the only difference now is that the 2 of you are not commited to one another/bf and gf/in a serious relationship. So stop holding back, and get in there!


Laterz...

 

[yunghova35]

Originally posted by Timster
So, I've been dating this girl and we both decided that we want to have an open, non-serious relationship. Not merely friends, but not an exclusive couple either. Somewhere in between. We want to be able to date other people. (We're both 19).

It wasn't until now that we were both on the same page regarding this decision. She wanted it first and it confused me, but I'm good now. So, it's been about a month since we've kissed and we both really have fun doing it.

I had my friend text her on her cell phone asking if she would let me kiss her...she said yes, but that it wouldn't mean anything. What I think she meant by that was it wouldn't mean that we're "together".

The way I figure, we can have a casual relationship and still kiss -- it's a way to show affection and to just have fun -- kind of a way of flirting...

We both still like each other and the chemistry and attraction is there. We just don't want to be "serious" right now.

Anyway, if the opportunity arises, should I just kiss her? Imagining it, it seems like it would be kind of hard, but I think it would break the ice and help us to both feel more comfortable around each other...

Any advice/ideas/suggestions/tips, etc...?

Whats the POINT of this relationship if 1. ITS OPEN and 2, ALL you guys are doing is KISSING???

 

[Timster]

We haven't kissed for a month...we hang out, watch movies, go to dinner, etc...it's just that kissing is fun and I want to get back in gear. It's just that when we kiss, I feel a lot more comfortable around her.

 

[DrSoSuave]

This is how STDs are spread.

 

[Climax]

How so?

Originally posted by DrSoSuave
This is how STDs are spread.

errrrr?

 

[A&F Brand Cologne]

Originally posted by DrSoSuave
This is how STDs are spread.

yeah if this guy was doing things right, it would be how STDs are spread.

unless you're talking about oral herpes.

oh, wait, not even that.

kiss her. you're going out on dates with her and you haven't done anything in a month! this is why people get dumped.

 

[yunghova35]

Originally posted by Timster
We haven't kissed for a month...we hang out, watch movies, go to dinner, etc...it's just that kissing is fun and I want to get back in gear. It's just that when we kiss, I feel a lot more comfortable around her.

I'm going out on a limb here and i'm going to say you havent pull down her pants and shagged her have you??

 

[spukee]

Originally posted by Timster
We haven't kissed for a month...we hang out, watch movies, go to dinner, etc...

See... most people call that a friend...

Are you sure this girl didn't just break up with you? If she really wants an open dating relationship, then it's pretty safe to assume she wants the physical aspects that go with it... otherwise she's just playing you, and I'd reccomend getting out now.

Kiss her, damn it...

 

[sybertiger]

Originally posted by A&F Brand Cologne
wait a second...

is this thread really asking if you should kiss a girl you're dating?

jesus ****ing christ.

My thoughts EXACTLY.
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