She will never see you as a man she truly desires regardless of whether or not she's giving you some cookie as of recently. Once your in that friend/"you're like a brother" to me category it's over, for life. Period. She may change and want to date you or get into a relationship or whatever but again, you'll never be a MAN to her.
what exactly happened here? you were just both drunk a few times a kissed? Again, man. There's nothing going on here and no hope for salvaging it in a way that will truly be meaningful for her or you for that matter. Keep her as a friend and enjoy the relationship in that sense but you should be focusing on trying to meet other women for a relationship, sex, etc.
You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.
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it benefited me just because shes trustworthy loyal and funny...a good friend. i just think maybe im not attractive until time is spent with me enough for my personality to come thru
Im not sure if it matters if it is only drunken fun or not. Why not get to home plate and see where things end up between you two?
The DJ theory is that once you actually sleep with a female she develops an emotional attachment to you. The DJ theory is correct, if you are dealing with a fairly emotionally stable female. (some females dont emotionally connect because of sex, these are walking red flags, IMO)
This is normally the case, but you have to understand one key difference: "lifelong friend". That could mean thay they became friends before the boy-girl dynamics took place to make them see the other gender with sexual interest. It doesn't necessarily mean he is an orbiter. They may have just not ever really looked at each other in an intimate way before. Plus, you can get out of the friendzone (it's hard af to do and honestly not worth it but it's still possible), but not the brozone. The fact that he was able to kiss her and she is wanting to stay over some nights more frequently shows he wasn't in the brozone, and may not have even been in the friendzone.
Now I'm thinking this is a troll. If she's a lifelong friend, why wouldn't there be time for your personality to come through?
i say life long because we was at school together then for a fair fee years she was somewhere else out of touch with her old friends then a few years ago she moved back and we started hanging out
Pick up the book "Rational Male" right now
I know this thread is a few months old but the OP (as I see it) is behaving like a confused and passionless chump.
Try for more.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
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That is not necessarily true...lifelong friend to me, means they grew up together since they were kids. Which is a very different dynamic than being friendzoned. Completely different. She may secretly harbor sexual thoughts or fantasies about him, especially since this would be somewhat "forbidden" since she has known him so long
