kissed a young girl on 1st date but might have scared her off

[big weezy]

I met this young girl in starbucks last week and we met up last night for our 1st date, nothing special just playing pool and got some ice cream, we got back to my car and started making out. I got her into the back of my car and had her lying down, but as i attempted to remove clothing she said 'we should go, i need to get back' i didnt' want her to have to say 'no' too many times as she was a young girl. i also suggested we go somewhere more 'private' and this frightened her as she suggested she needed to get home.

The thing is, she's leaving to go back home abroad for the summer and i'm leaving the country next month and wont be back for about 6 months. So i had a game plan last night tryna see if i could at least get head from her given i have a lack of time before she leaves on saturday..

I said to her 'i want to see u again before you leave' (this was after i had her in the back of my car) she said 'i dont know if i have time, i have a lot of stuff to do before i leave like buy presents, see my friends to say goodbye'

I took this as a bad sign, all in the while we're still making out. When i dropped her back home, i tried to get her into the back of my car again for more make out, but she said no.. then i said to her 'promise we'll meet up again before you leave' she said 'i make no promises' looking a bit annoyed. This was a bad move cos i come across as quite needy, I couldn't understand why she wasn't so into seeing me again while we're making out intensely?

Should I contact her again this week to see her or is it better i leave it to see if she does?

She probably thought I was only after 1 thing..

 

[brekke]

You only want sex, and she knows that now. Good job.

But what is young? 14, 15?

 

[Kailex]

I got her into the back of my car and had her lying down, but as i attempted to remove clothing she said 'we should go, i need to get back' i didnt' want her to have to say 'no' too many times as she was a young girl. i also suggested we go somewhere more 'private' and this frightened her as she suggested she needed to get home.

So i had a game plan last night tryna see if i could at least get head from her given i have a lack of time before she leaves on saturday..

When i dropped her back home, i tried to get her into the back of my car again for more make out, but she said no.. then i said to her 'promise we'll meet up again before you leave' she said 'i make no promises' looking a bit annoyed.

She probably thought I was only after 1 thing..

Stop kidding yourself, you were after just 1 thing. You even explicitly stated so. Bottom line, you probably creeped her out, coming across as some kind of needy AFC and desperate rapist hybrid.

She's probably not going to contact you.

She made out with you because she had some attraction to you initially and then you went and killed it by trying to plow through LMR way too hard. She kept giving you reasons to stop, and you wouldn't... at some point, she probably started worrying for her life.

Just leave this one alone.

And next time if you see that a girl is "frightened" by you, just do yourself a favor and stop while you're ahead.

 

[big weezy]

Stop kidding yourself, you were after just 1 thing. You even explicitly stated so. Bottom line, you probably creeped her out, coming across as some kind of needy AFC and desperate rapist hybrid.

She's probably not going to contact you.

She made out with you because she had some attraction to you initially and then you went and killed it by trying to plow through LMR way too hard. She kept giving you reasons to stop, and you wouldn't... at some point, she probably started worrying for her life.

Just leave this one alone.

And next time if you see that a girl is "frightened" by you, just do yourself a favor and stop while you're ahead.

but even on the drive back home she was still into me, we kept kissing, even when i dropped her off she thanked me for giving her a lift back. She did ask me on the journey back how old i was as i knew she probably was curious, i'm about 4-5 years older than her but still considering she's still in high school it's a big difference.

Is there no point trying to contact her to meet up tomorrow?

I feel kinda bad now, cos she was attracted me and I was so forthright in only getting laid I didn't care about her only my selfish needs.

 

[vatoloco]

but even on the drive back home she was still into me, we kept kissing

You wanna know why she kept kissing you? Cause it wasn't sex. Girls will make out with you. It's "safe" and enjoyable. Just cause they're kissing you doesn't necessarily mean that they're gonna have sex with you.

even when i dropped her off she thanked me for giving her a lift back.

It's called being polite.

She did ask me on the journey back how old i was as i knew she probably was curious, i'm about 4-5 years older than her but still considering she's still in high school it's a big difference.

You're still not addressing the question that brekke asked: exactly how old is this chick? Is she under 18?

I feel kinda bad now, cos she was attracted me and I was so forthright in only getting laid I didn't care about her only my selfish needs.

Haha! You keep telling yourself that.

 

[Powerlifter]

Young girls legal age like 18 and above are not all stupid.

They like to be respected as adults romanced just like adults if they are into a guy.

You going in for only to screw her and her backing away showed her maturity and the respect she has for herself.

By all means beat yourself up over this girl it's the least you can do for being a creep as in being an obnoxious person with this young mature lady.


Powerlifter

 

[big weezy]

You wanna know why she kept kissing you? Cause it wasn't sex. Girls will make out with you. It's "safe" and enjoyable. Just cause they're kissing you doesn't necessarily mean that they're gonna have sex with you.



It's called being polite.



You're still not addressing the question that brekke asked: exactly how old is this chick? Is she under 18?



Haha! You keep telling yourself that.

she's 17 or 18, not sure I didn't ask but I figured it out from what year she said she was in.

I do feel bad now, cos I was so focused on getting laid cos she's leaving on saturday for the summer and been messed about by so many of the last few girls i've dated i became immune to an actual girl who was attracted to me i neglected she actually might have been a decent girl.

Yeah girls will kiss you on and on, there's nothing in it for me if i'm just tryna get my end off.

 

[big weezy]

I contacted her again to meet up with 'hey I had a great time with u on monday and I want to see u again before u leave. I know u got stuff to do but I couldn't let u leave town without seeing me one more time haha' she was quite harsh and sent me back 'I'm sorry to tell u that I do not feel the same way or have ever done. So I won't have time to see u before sorry. Take care.' My 1st reaction was like wtf? U were making out with me relentlessly on monday and I had u in the back of my car with your legs around my waist and you're telling me u never were interested? Explain.

 

[Kailex]

Bottom line, you probably creeped her out, coming across as some kind of needy AFC and desperate rapist hybrid.

She's probably not going to contact you.

She made out with you because she had some attraction to you initially and then you went and killed it by trying to plow through LMR way too hard. She kept giving you reasons to stop, and you wouldn't... at some point, she probably started worrying for her life.

Just leave this one alone.

And next time if you see that a girl is "frightened" by you, just do yourself a favor and stop while you're ahead.

I'm pretty sure I made myself clear the first time.
I don't know why you are so surprised about the way she responded. You CREEPED HER OUT. Yes, there was some initial attraction and then you KILLED IT.

I told you to leave this one alone... and then you went and tried to contact her again. Well, now you are seeing for yourself what I had already previously stated. Not only that, but Amante Silvestre said pretty much the same thing at the same time as I did.

Seriously, I don't get why you thought "WTF"... we already had told you the WHY.







EDIT:

I am not feeding this troll anymore. Anyone else can have at it.

 

[big weezy]

Well maybe she wasn't creeped out just had no interest after I became needy. I mean I had her in the back of my car legs wrapped around me even after I started suggesting to go elsewhere, she wanted it too. Anyway I thought not to ask why she said she had no interest ever but I did feel bad so I sent 'ok cool. I just didn't want u to think I only wanted 1 thing, I think you're a great girl, very pretty and I enjoyed talking with u. I admit I came on too strong and rushed things cos I knew u were leaving soon. Enjoy picking up trash this summer haha. Take care.' (She has a summer job picking up trash). She texts me back 'I know u didn't only want 1 thing and I always knew that otherwise I would not have met up with u again take care' is she just sending this back cos she felt bad for saying she never felt the same way?

 

[big weezy]

Ok for future reference what should I do to not come across creepy when I'm making out with a chick in my car and we get into the back seat and carry on relentlessly? Should I not suggest sex or going somewhere more private? In retrospect I should have just let her kiss my chest then got her to give me head, she seemed very open to the idea of her kissing me all over but not me taking off her clothes. I was in sucha rush to get her naked I must have frightened her by suggesting to drive to a more private park where noone could see us.

I'm pretty sure I made myself clear the first time.
I don't know why you are so surprised about the way she responded. You CREEPED HER OUT. Yes, there was some initial attraction and then you KILLED IT.

I told you to leave this one alone... and then you went and tried to contact her again. Well, now you are seeing for yourself what I had already previously stated. Not only that, but Amante Silvestre said pretty much the same thing at the same time as I did.

Seriously, I don't get why you thought "WTF"... we already had told you the WHY.

 

[big weezy]

Also this is 1 thing I don't get, how can a girl say she doesn't feel the same way or ever has done after she spent all that time making out with u? And I had her legs wrapped round me. It doesn't make sense why she'd say that, is it cos that's how she feels 'now' and whatever she felt before never existed in her mind? Its kinda hard not to take such blunt rejection to heart. I mean fine say 'I don't feel the same way' but the 'and I never have done' seems just unnecessarily harsh. Why do girls say these things?'

 

[pipe007]

welcome to the female world!
who cares why she was kissing you the first time.. she doesn't want to anymore and there is nothing you can do.

well there is only one thing you can do, keep scaring her away till you get a restriction order or something.

or just next her, learn your mistake and move on.

the truth is yea, you scared her away, things should happen naturally, next time let things happen naturally, don't push, as soon as you hear, stop, you STOP... lay back, and then keep trying.

if she tells you to stop again, you make a decision right there of what is it that you want... maybe she is just a good girl with values, and won't put up the first night (yes, there are tons of girls like that)... and you have to respect that, and you can keep seeing her till one day she does give you sex.

or you can decide that its not worth it and just next her.

nothing you can do about this young man!!!

 

[big weezy]

She never actually said stop she said 'I think I should be getting back now it's late' then I go 'ok' then we carry on kissing. I just don't understand why she was so blunt with her 'I don't feel the same way and I never did' it seems way harsh, the 1st bit fine but the fact she never did it's like she's purposely tryna crush your ego. They say rejection shouldn't hurt but its hard not taking some of this BS to heart sometimes. Did she just say it to just spite me? This is the 2nd time it has happened to me ina year, the 1st time I was in love with that girl and it crushed me.

 

[pipe007]

you either very young or very inexperienced
to be in love with some ***** who you met last week, and is mentally unstable...(wants you one day, hates you the other) probably unstable!!

and you are in love??? and she crushed you????

damn...

its ok I was naive like you around 10 years ago....

 

[big weezy]

you either very young or very inexperienced
to be in love with some ***** who you met last week, and is mentally unstable...(wants you one day, hates you the other) probably unstable!!

and you are in love??? and she crushed you????

damn...

its ok I was naive like you around 10 years ago....

no no, i was in love with a different girl last year i was involved with that crushed me.. haha falling in love with some chick i met last week is just silly.

the worst bit is i was contemplating sending back a text of saying 'so if you weren't ever interested in me, why did you kiss me?'

is that just stupid and counterproductive? it kind of contradicts what she says about 'i dont feel the same way or ever have done'.. would that make her feel stupid for saying such a thing?

 

[BigJimbo]

You only want sex, and she knows that now. Good job.

But what is young? 14, 15?

A young girl in America is anything two years young than you are. There is some American formula to let you know what America accepts. They post it as you enter the country at customs. Seriously. There are guys on here who have these complicated formulas for what is an okay age for you. This coming from a country with fat tramps and a divorce rate of over 50%!

 

[prairiedog24]

17 or 18? I hate to break it to you chief, but that "or" is the difference between consensual sex and rape.

What the heck is with so many people being absolute idiots. I'm really starting to understand why they make statutory rape a "strict liability" offense.

 

[big_weezy]

17 or 18? I hate to break it to you chief, but that "or" is the difference between consensual sex and rape.

What the heck is with so many people being absolute idiots. I'm really starting to understand why they make statutory rape a "strict liability" offense.

it's ok 16 is the legal age of consensual sex in the country I am in.

 

[brekke]

17 or 18? I hate to break it to you chief, but that "or" is the difference between consensual sex and rape.

What the heck is with so many people being absolute idiots. I'm really starting to understand why they make statutory rape a "strict liability" offense.

Maybe before you call people idiots, you should know that 16 is the legal age in a lot of American States.