Kiss close?

[search1ng]

Alright so i had a date with a girl, she seemed interested, kept touching my arms etc. but i never got to kiss close or anything. How do you go about doing that exactly? In parties and stuff it just naturally happens. On the date i got so bloody confused. I wanted to kiss her but i didn't want to start a relationship (just got out of one). If i kissed her i assumed she'd assume that we were in a relationship (how sh1t works around here), i probably would have then had to have explained to her i didn't want a relationship? Fck! Is that even alright?

Urgh, i could probably pull off a kiss close or something on the second date and make it look like i didn't want to take sh1t on the first too quickly but how do you guys deal with the sh1t afterward? I seriously was just thinking too much throughout the first date. Do it or not? how to explain it to her if i don't? blah blah blah.

Man, i wish i could just download that DJ bible into my brain or something. It'd be a lot more helpful.

 

[MisterMcGee]

bump, i wanna hear what people have to say

 

[scribblec]

well what do you exactly want from this girl? if you dont want to kiss her or be in a relationship for what is it that your exactly looking for.

if sex is all you want you could probably get some prostitutes and it would probably end up costing you less without making a normal girl feel like a slut.

also your over analysing, sometimes the best dates happen when you dont think inside your head too much.

 

[Iamnotacrook]

No, it's not alright, you're being an a-hole. Cease and desist.

 

[search1ng]

No, it's not alright, you're being an a-hole. Cease and desist.

i know! i feel like I'm being an a-hole. Problem is i am interested in her. Sex would be nice and it'd be great to keep her around cause she's a great girl but... I don't want to be tied down to one girl! And cheating just sucks cause karma comes around eventually.

escalate but keep things open? as in don't make it exclusive? what do you do when women just assume? bluntly tell them?

 

[Iamnotacrook]

The DJ bible is designed to teach men to harness their seductive power. Misuse of this power can be dangerous, mostly for obvious reasons. I don't think these "techniques" should be used to manipulate others for one's own benefit, and the true DJs become the change they want to see, to the point that they are no longer using techniques.

What you are talking about is sure to make this girl think you want to bond. However, studies indicate that kissing tends to make men want to bond more, and women want to bond less. ****ing ensues. If, at this point, you haven't made it clear that you're not looking for a relationship, there will be problems. If you tell her, "this is just sex" the girl may well go along with it, but may well have feelings of shame in the wake of it.

It's fine to game women, to test the waters, to fool around, but a lot can go wrong if you're not paying close attention to what you're doing to her emotionally. I hate to see women taken advantage of because a guy is horny. If you respect this girl as an individual, don't give her the wrong idea. You can find a chick who's down for whatever.

Here's some words of wisdom from Tha Dogg Father
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4TLIVstm6rE

 

[amoka]

"Come here...." then pull her over, then KISS. Simple.

 

[MisterMcGee]

The DJ bible is designed to teach men to harness their seductive power. Misuse of this power can be dangerous, mostly for obvious reasons. I don't think these "techniques" should be used to manipulate others for one's own benefit, and the true DJs become the change they want to see, to the point that they are no longer using techniques.

What you are talking about is sure to make this girl think you want to bond. However, studies indicate that kissing tends to make men want to bond more, and women want to bond less. ****ing ensues. If, at this point, you haven't made it clear that you're not looking for a relationship, there will be problems. If you tell her, "this is just sex" the girl may well go along with it, but may well have feelings of shame in the wake of it.

It's fine to game women, to test the waters, to fool around, but a lot can go wrong if you're not paying close attention to what you're doing to her emotionally. I hate to see women taken advantage of because a guy is horny. If you respect this girl as an individual, don't give her the wrong idea. You can find a chick who's down for whatever.

Here's some words of wisdom from Tha Dogg Father
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4TLIVstm6rE

An ounce of humanity that I'm glad to know exists in this community.

 

[search1ng]

The DJ bible is designed to teach men to harness their seductive power. Misuse of this power can be dangerous, mostly for obvious reasons. I don't think these "techniques" should be used to manipulate others for one's own benefit, and the true DJs become the change they want to see, to the point that they are no longer using techniques.

What you are talking about is sure to make this girl think you want to bond. However, studies indicate that kissing tends to make men want to bond more, and women want to bond less. ****ing ensues. If, at this point, you haven't made it clear that you're not looking for a relationship, there will be problems. If you tell her, "this is just sex" the girl may well go along with it, but may well have feelings of shame in the wake of it.

It's fine to game women, to test the waters, to fool around, but a lot can go wrong if you're not paying close attention to what you're doing to her emotionally. I hate to see women taken advantage of because a guy is horny. If you respect this girl as an individual, don't give her the wrong idea. You can find a chick who's down for whatever.

Here's some words of wisdom from Tha Dogg Father
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4TLIVstm6rE

whoa, thanks man.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Tell her , be honest that you just got out of relationship and you're not ready for a serious one yet.

In HS , girls tend to be hurt by kissing and them telling that you don't want them. And they will tell to other girls , than other girls to other girls. Negative social proof.