KINO on first date?
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stevey_2000
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of course!!, a first date without kino is like cereal without milk, be weary though and don't apply too much otherwise you will freak her out.
squirrels
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WARY! NOT WEARY!
Sorry, pet peeve.
Touch her, but don't get too intimate, unless you get a really good response. A touch on the upper arm or lower back, or even an arm around the waist is good...and of course, the playful slaps and shoves that come with a good time.
Sorry, pet peeve.
Touch her, but don't get too intimate, unless you get a really good response. A touch on the upper arm or lower back, or even an arm around the waist is good...and of course, the playful slaps and shoves that come with a good time.
I won't argue the proven benefits of Kino however I'll go out on a limb and argue the benefits of no Kino.
Initially kino should be non sexual touching. A brush on the arm, touch of her hair, etc. And this is all 1st date kind of stuff. No a$$ grabbing just yet. The idea is that touching someone causes feelings in that person. They feel closer, more comfortable, aroused, accepted, etc.
Notice I said *Accepted*. By touching someone you are conveying the message that you like and accept them. This isn't always the best thing on a 1st date. You barely know this person and you're already laying your cards on the table saying "I like you".
Your 1st couple dates should be 'qualification' time for you. She passed the attraction test thats why you asked her out. Now who is this person? You don't instantly accept someone just cuz they agreed to go out with you. She should be working to impress the hell out of you.
Using kino can put you in *Chase* mode. You're on the chase. But she should be chasing you. Wondering why this great guy hasn't touched her or tried anything yet.
This could be argued forever and I'm sure it already has. The truth is this. Try both techniques. I have, and guess what? They both work! The difference being that when you don't use kino the sexual tension increases. By the third date or so she's so confused as to whether you're going to kiss her goodbye or not its funny. She's all worked up and there's all this sexual tension building and you are in total control of it all.
Not using kino can display all the traits of mystery and challenge.
At times it will set the "hook" deeper if you get what I mean.
Initially kino should be non sexual touching. A brush on the arm, touch of her hair, etc. And this is all 1st date kind of stuff. No a$$ grabbing just yet. The idea is that touching someone causes feelings in that person. They feel closer, more comfortable, aroused, accepted, etc.
Notice I said *Accepted*. By touching someone you are conveying the message that you like and accept them. This isn't always the best thing on a 1st date. You barely know this person and you're already laying your cards on the table saying "I like you".
Your 1st couple dates should be 'qualification' time for you. She passed the attraction test thats why you asked her out. Now who is this person? You don't instantly accept someone just cuz they agreed to go out with you. She should be working to impress the hell out of you.
Using kino can put you in *Chase* mode. You're on the chase. But she should be chasing you. Wondering why this great guy hasn't touched her or tried anything yet.
This could be argued forever and I'm sure it already has. The truth is this. Try both techniques. I have, and guess what? They both work! The difference being that when you don't use kino the sexual tension increases. By the third date or so she's so confused as to whether you're going to kiss her goodbye or not its funny. She's all worked up and there's all this sexual tension building and you are in total control of it all.
Not using kino can display all the traits of mystery and challenge.
At times it will set the "hook" deeper if you get what I mean.
b's nuts
Master Don Juan
at least use it a little on the first date, if you don't use it at all, and then all of the sudden start touching her, she could get freaked out. Kino is much better than no kino.
Don Rageta
Don Juan
About applying too much kino and freaking her sh*t out, do you beleive you can recover from that, possibly by applying slicksters ideas or what?
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
An art, like anything else
It all depends.
Usually very little kino is best at first, but sometimes things just develop. It's hard to explain. Just a little touch can set the whole thing off.
Working the vibe right is definitely an art. When in doubt, don't touch much at all, but do get close at times. If the rapport is there, anything can happen later.
It all depends.
Usually very little kino is best at first, but sometimes things just develop. It's hard to explain. Just a little touch can set the whole thing off.
Working the vibe right is definitely an art. When in doubt, don't touch much at all, but do get close at times. If the rapport is there, anything can happen later.