Kino is awesome + did I play her right this evening...or did I screw up at the end?

[lonewolf17]

Woo, go kino!
Went out to a movie with a girl today and I think I've got her interested...I did a lot of kino, touching her arm or shoulder at first and what not, but as we got more comfortable I sort of leaned into her shoulder at the theatre and I at one point when she was talking I covered her mouth with my hand. She didn't draw back and let me keep it there, which I think is a good sign, as most woman seem to consider their faces as being a very personal place for touch.

Actually, what's interesting is I played a lot of the 'I'm taking something away from you - I dare you to get it from me' games, and she went wild. She was play fighting me, grabbing my arm trying to get what I had, hugging her body up against me and pretending to cry... and interestingly grabbing my ears. In an effort to get what I took she play tugged at my ear lobes, but it felt a bit like a message lol. Happened TWICE too.

And just throwing it out there: walking with a girl on ice (literally) is GREAT for kino. She slips even a bit, go for her hand or guide her with an arm across her shoulder or hand on her back. It's perfect because you have a practical and innocent pretext for that sort of touching. Anywho:

First question
Think she is showing interest? Keep in mind, in the past this girl HASN'T been interested, and when I was the biggest AFC you've ever seen (been working on that...) she strieght up said she wasn't interested. But have things changed since I've worked on over coming my AFCness, or am I reading too much into how the night went?? We are friends afterall, so maybe she was just being, well, friendly?

Second question
This is what has me worried.. On the way back she was still on a high from our time out when I decided to drop it on her that I wouldn't be able to help her with an essay she asked me to work on with her this weekend because I had a poker game and was hanging out with another girl. Right away she clammed up, and no matter what I said the rest of the car ride home she was pretty non responsive..I actually thought I saw tears in her eyes, but it could have just been the lights or something...

But was this the right idea? I mean, is she not even going to remember the good time we had, only what happened on the way back? I was trying to play it to show her there is competition, but I feel kinda bad, like I went too far...

Any thoughts?

 

[john paul]

You let her know your busy and have a life and that you won't always be able to fit her in it. Thats a good thing. If she got upset and didn't like it thats ok, shes not going to stop liking you over it if she does like you.

 

[lonewolf17]

lol well let's just say she got upset and won't talk to me now...but I don't know if it's because I said there was another girl or if it was simply that she wanted help on an essay that I said I didn't have too much time to do with her...
Not sure what to do? Do I hang back and just wait it out, or is there some sort of initiation I should make sooner or later?

 

[DismantleRepair]

I don't know anyone who would cry because their friend couldn't help them with an essay. She likes you.

 

[trojanman88]

reminds me of my young days doin the whole in the popcorn bucket trick. lol

just kidding but I used to do some wild stuff man I use to titty **** girls in theatres get head and everything. Theatres are the best place to game (bring a girl on a first date) contrary to popular beliefs. Cuz you don't have to talk you just do and if she's freaky she will go pretty far.

 

[john paul]

sooner or later if she doesnt come to you it would be ok to see what shes up to.
and if she really was upset about you not helping her with the essay she might of been trying to use you and it blew up in her face when you said you couldnt after the date.

 

[GaryUranga]

lol wolf is that you (Im J4)

 

[john paul]

? who are you directing that to

 

[lonewolf17]

just to like update..i played the "i didnt do anything wrong, YOU'RE the problem" game and she crawled back to me.

not sure what to make of her attraction, now though. she's been getting more and more overt, to a point it's OBVIOUS she is at least in someway attracted to me.

but last night she had a couple of her male friends over and they spent the night just sort of like watching movies and from what i gather one of them ended up sleeping in the same bed as her (nothing happened, just sleeping) but i have a feeling she has something for one of them..

so where does that leave me? should i just start giving her a cold shoulder and starve her of me and see what happens or just give up and go back to normal?

 

[Crazy Asian]

i wouldn't have done it that way.
i mean sure saying you have a poker game and hanging out with another girl is great, but YOU already told her that you would help her on an essay.

that is going against your word, and I think she lost some respect for you.
For me, if i say i'm going to do something, i'm going to do it.

it the future, when she asks you to do stuff, just say maybe, and don't give a definite answer, so when you do have other stuff to do, you won't be going against ur word.

 

[lonewolf17]

i wouldn't have done it that way.
i mean sure saying you have a poker game and hanging out with another girl is great, but YOU already told her that you would help her on an essay.

that is going against your word, and I think she lost some respect for you.
For me, if i say i'm going to do something, i'm going to do it.

it the future, when she asks you to do stuff, just say maybe, and don't give a definite answer, so when you do have other stuff to do, you won't be going against ur word.

hmm that is true, but i guess in this particular case it still worked because she came to me apologising. but yeah, actually you are right in the future i should say 'maybe' and not commit myself

 

[playa99]

u are readin to much into it in my opinion, dont worry about other guys or even if u do dont show it in front of her girls hate neediness and put you in the friend zone automatically, she likes you, go for it, you cant do much now she likes you, it is hard at first i overanalysed but it gets easier and easier