Kinda feel like shvt after loosing my virginity....

[btownbuck2012]

Me and a buddy of mine were just hanging out the other night and got to drinking a little bit. He decided to call some girl up he worked with and ask if she wanted to hang out too. Long story short me and my friend lost our virginity that night.


Afterwards I felt good because I had finally lost it and it was like a monkey off the back type of thing. But now I feel kinda dirty about it. Almost like I wish I hadn't of done it. Did anybody else feel this way afterwards? I keep telling myself that it's not a big deal to lose it. I mean wtf right I'm 19 and just trying to get this shvt over with. Also it wasn't as great as it's made out to be. I feel like now that i've lost it i can focus on other shvt instead of trying to get laid all the time. I just hope i don't feel so fvcking guilty about it for much longer.

 

[slaog]

The first time is always a let down because its built up by everybody into something out of this world so people expect amazing things. After a while you'll enjoy it more.

 

[btownbuck2012]

The first time is always a let down because its built up by everybody into something out of this world so people expect amazing things. After a while you'll enjoy it more.

It's not that it wasn't good. the sex itself was good. It's just that i felt like i should of done it with a gf or something instead of some chick i didn't even know.

live and learn i guess.

 

[ChalengeGuyFan]

Oh c'mon, it's nothing to bother about!

Better tell us the story; it seems to be interesting.

 

[btownbuck2012]

we didn't "run a train" or anything like that but we basically took turns. Just makes me feel dirty about it. Should a first time go down like that? sh*t dude.

 

[prairiedog24]

Here's the deal dude. I don't think sex was meant to be impersonal like that. And apparently you don't either since you feel bad about it. Lots of the guys here are just going to tell you "no big deal, if it fits, stick it in," but that thinking has its consequences.

Either way, whether you decide it was a poor choice, or perfectly ok, it doesn't help you to beat yourself up about it. Everyone makes mistakes. Pick yourself up and decide what you want to change about yourself for next time, then do it.

This entire forum is about change, not beating yourself up about the past.

 

[TizZle]

The first time is always a let down because its built up by everybody into something out of this world so people expect amazing things. After a while you'll enjoy it more.

Mine wasn't a let down. It was actually a pretty exciting night. I guess i'm an exception to YOUR rule... tho i was 19 and i use to watch p0rn a lot. That helped a bit i assume.

 

[slaog]

Mine wasn't a let down. It was actually a pretty exciting night. I guess i'm an exception to YOUR rule... tho i was 19 and i use to watch p0rn a lot. That helped a bit i assume.

Its not my rule. Just an observation.

 

[btownbuck2012]

Here's the deal dude. I don't think sex was meant to be impersonal like that. And apparently you don't either since you feel bad about it. Lots of the guys here are just going to tell you "no big deal, if it fits, stick it in," but that thinking has its consequences.

Either way, whether you decide it was a poor choice, or perfectly ok, it doesn't help you to beat yourself up about it. Everyone makes mistakes. Pick yourself up and decide what you want to change about yourself for next time, then do it.

This entire forum is about change, not beating yourself up about the past.

Thanks for the response dude. i appreciate it. That's pretty much how I feel about it. It wasn't 100% bad but I don't think sex was meant to be all "impersonal" like that either. You're right tho. I can't give myself too much sh*t about it cause that won't help either. Just gotta make better decisions next time.

 

[Captain Harlock]

It's not that it wasn't good. the sex itself was good. It's just that i felt like i should of done it with a gf or something instead of some chick i didn't even know.

why?

 

[btownbuck2012]

why?

not sure dude. just the way i feel

 

[londonzen]

we didn't "run a train" or anything like that but we basically took turns. Just makes me feel dirty about it. Should a first time go down like that? sh*t dude.

whats the diffrence between turns and a train.?

and second everybody i know has done the turns(apart from me ) thing in there teens theres nothing wrong if the girl consents.
thats how most teens in my area lose it even my 13 year old cousin at the time(big for his age) and his friend :nono: they even recorded it on there phones. but we made him delete it.

 

[Paintballguy]

The first time is always a let down because its built up by everybody into something out of this world so people expect amazing things. After a while you'll enjoy it more.

My first time was awesome. The chick was a complete freak, and she took it every way possible. She didn't even know that I was a virgin. I guess watching porn paid off... But, funny story... Now she is stripping and doing porn.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Maybe, it wasnt the way you wanted it to happen. So, you feel disapointed cause, you pictured it another way.

Then, again... loosing your virginity is just a big hype most the time.

 

[Leporello]

Wait was your first time a MMF threesome?

 

[sodbuster]

Most of the time, it really isn't as great as it's made out to be. In your case, it wasn't much different than jerking off-no emotional connection involved.so you are wondering what all the fuss is about. If YOU think it would be better with a GF, go get one you like and try it. It may or may not be better. It's just another physical act that gives you a little pleasure. The number of women, how hot they are etc. are used by some men to try to build up their own self esteem. They think it's the end all and be all of life. Since I have 2 sons, I have no need to reprduce and less desire to spend all my time thinking about sex. Sounds like you may have realized the same.

 

[PSYCHO]

You feel bad? Wait until you find out that you have Aids from the Ho! Then you find out that the hor is pregnant - and the baby comes out of the womb with two heads - one head looking like you, and the other head looking like your friend - each head will be sucking on each breast for nourishment and you will have to make their own shirts with two neck holes or just one big one! Now if one of you are white and the other black - that would be a sight to see - a baby with a black head and the other with a white head - and then as they get older they can say racial slurs to each other when they fight - that'll be a sight to see!!

 

[btownbuck2012]

So I’ll probably get laughed at for saying this but here it goes. I guess the reason I feel so bad about it is because I grew up with Christian morals and the last 3-4 years I haven't been living the way I think I should be. So I guess finally having sex was like the last straw. It wasn't the big deal that I thought it was gonna be (on a physical level). However it was sort of like an emotional kick in the gut. Almost like I'm "stained" now or some sh*t. I know some of you are probably gonna give me sh*t for saying that but that's the reason I feel bad about it.

To me getting laid was something I wanted to do out of curiosity. I wanted to see what it felt like. I'm only human. Like I said earlier it's not a big deal and now I can focus on things like doing well in college and getting back into church. So maybe in the long run it was worth it if it's gonna help me live a better life.

 

[Captain Harlock]

Drop the christian morals. They will ruin your life.

 

[prairiedog24]

So I’ll probably get laughed at for saying this but here it goes. I guess the reason I feel so bad about it is because I grew up with Christian morals and the last 3-4 years I haven't been living the way I think I should be. So I guess finally having sex was like the last straw. It wasn't the big deal that I thought it was gonna be (on a physical level). However it was sort of like an emotional kick in the gut. Almost like I'm "stained" now or some sh*t. I know some of you are probably gonna give me sh*t for saying that but that's the reason I feel bad about it.

To me getting laid was something I wanted to do out of curiosity. I wanted to see what it felt like. I'm only human. Like I said earlier it's not a big deal and now I can focus on things like doing well in college and getting back into church. So maybe in the long run it was worth it if it's gonna help me live a better life.

I understand dude. I'm a Christian too. Fact is, Christianity really doesn't play into it all that much. Even complete secularists have to pick a value system and adjust it as they learn from life. Random historical tidbit. Augustine was quite the PUA in his younger days. =)

There's nothing inherently different about wanting to better yourself because you believe you were created for something better, or wanting to better yourself as an end in itself (which ironically, assumes an external measure of value anyway). Your attitude is dead on though, be willing to decide what is smart and what will get you burned, and then do it. Carrying around any guilt is exactly the opposite of Christian principles, and it's the opposite of DJ principles. No point on either side.

As for you Captain, there is no reason to start any religious discussions here. But the social science side I will point that my father is a Ph.D. Marriage and Family psychologist. All current research shows differentiation at some level in happiness indicators and sexual satisfaction indicators between those who place some value beyond the physical and those who don't. This is true for even "live in" relationships compared to marriage, which is far more monogamous than the "hook up" culture.

You're free to live your life as you choose. You don't see me in your threads knocking it. But when you make a statement such as "they will ruin your life", I have to point out that my experience in life is the exact opposite, and the current research disagrees with you.

There's a reason that Republican women report more orgasms than Democrat women... The bible belt is really the "better sex through better relationships" belt.