So, it is just me a female coworker in a room at work. For perspective, she has cute smile, very feminine qualities and an athletic lean body, but not necessarily looks I would make much note of unless she was in some revealing outfit - I'd walk right passed her without much of a thought. I am 6'3" and most girls say I am hot/"beautiful", etc. I don't have any problem getting girls. So, if anything I can get way more attractive girls, but...
Anyway, We got along really well from the get-go; comfortable talking to each other about just about anything, laughing, etc. - me mostly genuine convo, a bit of my laid-back ****y/funny; with her doing most talking. At first it seemed she was trying to get my attention; she would be walking behind me in the hall and start giggling, bend over to reveal breast/bra, wave and smile from down the hall, come up and talk to me in the hall smiling, always running into me, etc. She always walked out with me after work. Kept mysteriously/vaguely mentioning other guys at work ("he", "him", that guy, name1/2/3) etc. I cracked on her every time or ignored - "How you gonna start telling me about "him" - how am I supposed to know who "him" is?" (she eventually stopped that). Asking me every detail about myself constantly.
Then we got another guy in the room and she started showing him "physical" attention with skirt turned in his direction, leaning over infront of him and stopped doing this to me. I backed-off a bit but still maintained regular chill/friendly vibe, but wasn't walking out with her or in the room much; she started ramping up the smiling and soft voice talking, and she started to get a bit visually disturbed that I wasn't showing her as much attention. I got along with dude, but I noticed some awkwardness when all of us were there together and she brought this up - I just said not really. There was a time I thought they were hooking up because they just so happened to be out the same day plus all the physical signs she was giving him. Actually happened to see what he got to look at when I was checking something out as his desk (he sat like 4 ft away so he had much better view), and when she saw I noticed she turned her skirt away. One of the reasons I started showing less attention (I didn't care that she gave him attention, but not accepting getting less). Then he switched rooms after about two weeks, and its just us again.
She then started hinting at watching movies, and random "I'm making this tonite", "have you ever eaten ____, Im making some", etc. But I would open the door to those by saying stuff like "is that an invite?, etc." - all to be met with a slight laugh or "hea". But she kept doing this and we were leaving together one night, she started yawning over and over again (either nervous or formulating an excuse); then said, "Actually, I already have dinner prepaired." - It was what I told here my favorite food was. I was like OK, this again. Then I said I'm doing X (cause that is what I was doing), you're welcome to come along. Then she totally rejected me by saying, "No, sleep sounds better, yeah, sleep definitely sounds better." (She never gave any indication she was tired the whole day). Like she knew I was going to suggest doing something and started formulating an excuse). Admittedly, that was like a kick in the balls, basically saying staring at my ceiling sounds like a better option than you. I'm thinking, this girl is constantly peaking at me, asking me all kinds of personal questions, telling about stuff (not boyfriends or anything like that), remembers every detail I tell her and everything about me, speaking softly to me like she is in love, trying to get my attention, very comfortable in each others personal space, etc. but somehow I'm less interesting than sleep. Or, did she want me to follow-up on coming over to her place and thought I rejected her "hint"? Not sure.
Anyway, so I pull back a bit and just leave conversation short, plus I hadn't been in the room cause projects. That went on for a week - didn't leave with her. The following week she is trying to get my attention: she keeps clearing her throat repeatedly and I look over and she is watching me between the crack in her monitor - then pulls her head back when I noticed. Then she waits for me at the end of the day laying her head down on the desk and looking at me. I get up to leave and she leaves with me. OK, whatever. I kept back a bit and the next day and she is jumping and waiving her arms like a goofball to get my attention - couldn't help but laugh. She starts when I come in the room peaking her head up and in genuine cute soft feminie in-love voice: "Heeyy". I suggest a certain kind of food - she starts eating it, a certain jacket - she goes and buys one, I said something about me loosing weight - she stops eating lunch. I light-heartedly said knuckle-cracking is gross - she stops and apologizes if she accidentally does it. (Oh, since i caught her looking, she has closed the monitor gap).
But then, last week I came in in the morning and I got two calls at midnight on my office phone from a number from TextNow. Then I look at area code and its from Florida. I said, "hey, this call is from FL, your people must be looking for you." She said, "What area code XXX/XXX (Double area code in one FL area)?" I was like, yeah - she was a bit nervous, and then ****y/funny joked about her being wanted. She said, "they don't have my number yet." Me (slight sexual undertone): "their getting close." Her: "we'll see." Turns out its is the exact same area code this girl used to live only 3 months ago, and there are like 15-20 area codes in FL, so lucky ass guess to nail the only double area code; or, it was her. So, WTF is going on?
Then, she started dressing better, and (coincidentally?) wearing colors to match my yellow/blue jacket (her - all blue one day, all yellow the next), then she exact double-matched my maroon shoes (often wear them on Fri) and blue shirt on Friday (shirt - like she knows my weekly wardrobe and what shirt I had left). So we are wearing the same exact colors three days in a row. Today, she randomly brings up "I was thinking... we are going to be in the same room until one of us gets a new job - what if one of us hated the other?" I made some joke about us being 90 in here, she laughed. I said I could handle it, whats the worst that could happen? She jokingly said something about one of our cars getting keyed - to which I said somewhat seriously, "if my car gets keyed I'll be pissed..." She giggle-laughed.
Anyway, way more details here, but I am not sure at all what is going on or what to do in this situation - never been in such close proximity 8 hrs/day with girl at work. I just try to have fun with it and pull back if she starts doing stuff that is verging on disrespect/non-communicative. I don't want to be this chicks work BFF. Its like having a girlfriend at work or something where she acts absolutely in love with me with lovers whispering and ****, then distant for a bit; where tensions build and she seems unwilling to allow a scenario for release. I mean, I can handle it without getting too caught up, but not going to lie - she has established a pretty strong connection in me (wouldn't be posting otherwise); and I can't walk away - only cut convo short and go to the lab, but she will find a way back. At the same time not sure if I should be worried. Office crush, attention *****, teasing (she thinks I like her and is toying), etc. what? Suggestions on dealing with this? Thanks.
Anyway, We got along really well from the get-go; comfortable talking to each other about just about anything, laughing, etc. - me mostly genuine convo, a bit of my laid-back ****y/funny; with her doing most talking. At first it seemed she was trying to get my attention; she would be walking behind me in the hall and start giggling, bend over to reveal breast/bra, wave and smile from down the hall, come up and talk to me in the hall smiling, always running into me, etc. She always walked out with me after work. Kept mysteriously/vaguely mentioning other guys at work ("he", "him", that guy, name1/2/3) etc. I cracked on her every time or ignored - "How you gonna start telling me about "him" - how am I supposed to know who "him" is?" (she eventually stopped that). Asking me every detail about myself constantly.
Then we got another guy in the room and she started showing him "physical" attention with skirt turned in his direction, leaning over infront of him and stopped doing this to me. I backed-off a bit but still maintained regular chill/friendly vibe, but wasn't walking out with her or in the room much; she started ramping up the smiling and soft voice talking, and she started to get a bit visually disturbed that I wasn't showing her as much attention. I got along with dude, but I noticed some awkwardness when all of us were there together and she brought this up - I just said not really. There was a time I thought they were hooking up because they just so happened to be out the same day plus all the physical signs she was giving him. Actually happened to see what he got to look at when I was checking something out as his desk (he sat like 4 ft away so he had much better view), and when she saw I noticed she turned her skirt away. One of the reasons I started showing less attention (I didn't care that she gave him attention, but not accepting getting less). Then he switched rooms after about two weeks, and its just us again.
She then started hinting at watching movies, and random "I'm making this tonite", "have you ever eaten ____, Im making some", etc. But I would open the door to those by saying stuff like "is that an invite?, etc." - all to be met with a slight laugh or "hea". But she kept doing this and we were leaving together one night, she started yawning over and over again (either nervous or formulating an excuse); then said, "Actually, I already have dinner prepaired." - It was what I told here my favorite food was. I was like OK, this again. Then I said I'm doing X (cause that is what I was doing), you're welcome to come along. Then she totally rejected me by saying, "No, sleep sounds better, yeah, sleep definitely sounds better." (She never gave any indication she was tired the whole day). Like she knew I was going to suggest doing something and started formulating an excuse). Admittedly, that was like a kick in the balls, basically saying staring at my ceiling sounds like a better option than you. I'm thinking, this girl is constantly peaking at me, asking me all kinds of personal questions, telling about stuff (not boyfriends or anything like that), remembers every detail I tell her and everything about me, speaking softly to me like she is in love, trying to get my attention, very comfortable in each others personal space, etc. but somehow I'm less interesting than sleep. Or, did she want me to follow-up on coming over to her place and thought I rejected her "hint"? Not sure.
Anyway, so I pull back a bit and just leave conversation short, plus I hadn't been in the room cause projects. That went on for a week - didn't leave with her. The following week she is trying to get my attention: she keeps clearing her throat repeatedly and I look over and she is watching me between the crack in her monitor - then pulls her head back when I noticed. Then she waits for me at the end of the day laying her head down on the desk and looking at me. I get up to leave and she leaves with me. OK, whatever. I kept back a bit and the next day and she is jumping and waiving her arms like a goofball to get my attention - couldn't help but laugh. She starts when I come in the room peaking her head up and in genuine cute soft feminie in-love voice: "Heeyy". I suggest a certain kind of food - she starts eating it, a certain jacket - she goes and buys one, I said something about me loosing weight - she stops eating lunch. I light-heartedly said knuckle-cracking is gross - she stops and apologizes if she accidentally does it. (Oh, since i caught her looking, she has closed the monitor gap).
But then, last week I came in in the morning and I got two calls at midnight on my office phone from a number from TextNow. Then I look at area code and its from Florida. I said, "hey, this call is from FL, your people must be looking for you." She said, "What area code XXX/XXX (Double area code in one FL area)?" I was like, yeah - she was a bit nervous, and then ****y/funny joked about her being wanted. She said, "they don't have my number yet." Me (slight sexual undertone): "their getting close." Her: "we'll see." Turns out its is the exact same area code this girl used to live only 3 months ago, and there are like 15-20 area codes in FL, so lucky ass guess to nail the only double area code; or, it was her. So, WTF is going on?
Then, she started dressing better, and (coincidentally?) wearing colors to match my yellow/blue jacket (her - all blue one day, all yellow the next), then she exact double-matched my maroon shoes (often wear them on Fri) and blue shirt on Friday (shirt - like she knows my weekly wardrobe and what shirt I had left). So we are wearing the same exact colors three days in a row. Today, she randomly brings up "I was thinking... we are going to be in the same room until one of us gets a new job - what if one of us hated the other?" I made some joke about us being 90 in here, she laughed. I said I could handle it, whats the worst that could happen? She jokingly said something about one of our cars getting keyed - to which I said somewhat seriously, "if my car gets keyed I'll be pissed..." She giggle-laughed.
Anyway, way more details here, but I am not sure at all what is going on or what to do in this situation - never been in such close proximity 8 hrs/day with girl at work. I just try to have fun with it and pull back if she starts doing stuff that is verging on disrespect/non-communicative. I don't want to be this chicks work BFF. Its like having a girlfriend at work or something where she acts absolutely in love with me with lovers whispering and ****, then distant for a bit; where tensions build and she seems unwilling to allow a scenario for release. I mean, I can handle it without getting too caught up, but not going to lie - she has established a pretty strong connection in me (wouldn't be posting otherwise); and I can't walk away - only cut convo short and go to the lab, but she will find a way back. At the same time not sure if I should be worried. Office crush, attention *****, teasing (she thinks I like her and is toying), etc. what? Suggestions on dealing with this? Thanks.
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