Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
Alright first off, before you read the meat of the post, stop multi-tasking when you are reading stuff concerning decisions on HOW YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE, and how you want to change. This is a terrible habit saying that you want to change but not enough that you give it your full attention. We are a community jam-packed with people making half-assed decisions. You need to fully take in information, so turn off the TV, mute the music, close the other websites (yes, even the porn), stop looking out the window, relax and just FOCUS. Can you remember the last time someone posted about an issue that pertained EXACTLY to your situation? I want you to pay that kind of attention, because this is relevant to you, whether you think so or not. Okay… now that I have your attention…
I've been reading some of the older posts here and @ FS, and I noticed a trend that occurred during the early stages of the seduction community. Back in the day when most of the current posters where just starting to get those feelings of one-itis over their 1st crush, the pioneer posters were creating threads sparingly and posting without trying to explain the subtleties of the birds and the bees and every other possible component of seduction. Instead, they posted on what pertained to what they needed ONLY, and left the rest to your imaginations and experiences. Back then, there was a much higher ratio experiencing situations FIRST HAND. These are the true DJ's and pick up artists. Now we are riddled with racketeers, flamers and KJ's. I think the main reason is nowadays we leave nothing to the imagination. We feel that we have to find every single possibility before we 'get experience' ...Well, NEWSFLASH, you are not getting experience this way; you are just verifying that someone else's ideas work. We need to stop giving the cake away for free because it isn’t helping people in the end. Perhaps this is one of the reasons that So Suave seems a little overloaded with newbie questions, everyone is so used to getting the EXACT answer they want pertaining to their situation they have no experience in slightly modified situations so we constantly have the same question asked in a slightly different context.
I'm all for reading to brush up on your skill, but to make the game of seduction (YES, it is just a game) much more fun and less mechanical, don't read everything you can pertaining to seduction. It is always a more interesting learning experience to learn through YOUR experience than through a book or website. Trust me I know this first hand. It’s kinda like jumping off a bridge (If you haven’t then you definitely should give it a try, but for now think of something exhilarating you’ve done in your life) When you get right before the point of no return, you are scared, I know, but you don’t need to be reassured that everything will be okay every 5 seconds. Stop being a damn punk and JUMP! It is much better to feel firsthand the experience of the 3 second drop where everything seems to go quiet except for your girlish screaming as you plummet exposed to the water below, and that moment where the water engulfs your body and you lose your breath. That moment is right there….PURE…..BLISS. Not knowing what to expect is the joy of life. Stop looking for the answers in everything and let go. Ignorance IS bliss. Can you think back to the days when the sky could be whatever you wanted it to be? When you could imagine it was where angels resided or where Zeus and the Greek Gods had sex orgies…and then in school you found out the ‘truth’ and a creative, unadulterated part of you died? FVCK THEM, revive what they tried to kill. There is only one reality, YOURS. If someone creates a truth that helps them and doesn’t harm anyone then who are you to prove them wrong? Just so you can gloat and prove you’re “smarter”? Nowadays everyone wants to be the bearer of bad news, the person who tells little children that Santa Clause does not exist.
Life truly is an Art. Do you know what I like best about Art? It is up for interpretation and every person can get something out of it, there is no one truth. Say you’re listenin to some R&B or some emo music (don’t act like you be keeping that rocker/thug image all year round) and it feels like they are talking EXACTLY about your situation but when you listened to it a month ago you couldn’t relate? That’s the thing about Art, it is an expressing and relating to something pure and personal (the basic meaning of rapport!!!!) It changes for every person but what they say is never wrong, and you what else is an Art? Seduction!
Then you have the opposite of Art…Science. When I think of Science I think of cold impersonal facts that are never supposed to change and never help me personally, only pertinent for the sake of saying stating useless facts you know. Sure, there can be a little bit of pleasure in stating how stars are in the universe… but what happens when you reach a problem that has not been covered. You don’t have any experience in problem solving and you can’t consult your trusty dictionary. Similar to the belief structure in humans, once you lose a foundational piece of Science the entire building is coming down.
All I’m trying to get across is a lot of people are reading too much material and read into the material too much, and end up trying to live vicariously through this site (myself included at times) You need to balance out your reading time to NEVER come close to the amount of time you spend learning first hand! Stop putting it off, finding out what Pook said 2 years ago won’t help, reading another post on “Confidence” is only digging your hole deeper, and reading up on LTR material when you wanna be a player or don't want a commitment. New Years is coming up and come the beginning of 2006 I want us to look back at 2005 as being the best year of our lives, when we stopped expanding our mind through excerpts and started to exceed through experience.
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I've been reading some of the older posts here and @ FS, and I noticed a trend that occurred during the early stages of the seduction community. Back in the day when most of the current posters where just starting to get those feelings of one-itis over their 1st crush, the pioneer posters were creating threads sparingly and posting without trying to explain the subtleties of the birds and the bees and every other possible component of seduction. Instead, they posted on what pertained to what they needed ONLY, and left the rest to your imaginations and experiences. Back then, there was a much higher ratio experiencing situations FIRST HAND. These are the true DJ's and pick up artists. Now we are riddled with racketeers, flamers and KJ's. I think the main reason is nowadays we leave nothing to the imagination. We feel that we have to find every single possibility before we 'get experience' ...Well, NEWSFLASH, you are not getting experience this way; you are just verifying that someone else's ideas work. We need to stop giving the cake away for free because it isn’t helping people in the end. Perhaps this is one of the reasons that So Suave seems a little overloaded with newbie questions, everyone is so used to getting the EXACT answer they want pertaining to their situation they have no experience in slightly modified situations so we constantly have the same question asked in a slightly different context.
I'm all for reading to brush up on your skill, but to make the game of seduction (YES, it is just a game) much more fun and less mechanical, don't read everything you can pertaining to seduction. It is always a more interesting learning experience to learn through YOUR experience than through a book or website. Trust me I know this first hand. It’s kinda like jumping off a bridge (If you haven’t then you definitely should give it a try, but for now think of something exhilarating you’ve done in your life) When you get right before the point of no return, you are scared, I know, but you don’t need to be reassured that everything will be okay every 5 seconds. Stop being a damn punk and JUMP! It is much better to feel firsthand the experience of the 3 second drop where everything seems to go quiet except for your girlish screaming as you plummet exposed to the water below, and that moment where the water engulfs your body and you lose your breath. That moment is right there….PURE…..BLISS. Not knowing what to expect is the joy of life. Stop looking for the answers in everything and let go. Ignorance IS bliss. Can you think back to the days when the sky could be whatever you wanted it to be? When you could imagine it was where angels resided or where Zeus and the Greek Gods had sex orgies…and then in school you found out the ‘truth’ and a creative, unadulterated part of you died? FVCK THEM, revive what they tried to kill. There is only one reality, YOURS. If someone creates a truth that helps them and doesn’t harm anyone then who are you to prove them wrong? Just so you can gloat and prove you’re “smarter”? Nowadays everyone wants to be the bearer of bad news, the person who tells little children that Santa Clause does not exist.
Life truly is an Art. Do you know what I like best about Art? It is up for interpretation and every person can get something out of it, there is no one truth. Say you’re listenin to some R&B or some emo music (don’t act like you be keeping that rocker/thug image all year round) and it feels like they are talking EXACTLY about your situation but when you listened to it a month ago you couldn’t relate? That’s the thing about Art, it is an expressing and relating to something pure and personal (the basic meaning of rapport!!!!) It changes for every person but what they say is never wrong, and you what else is an Art? Seduction!
Then you have the opposite of Art…Science. When I think of Science I think of cold impersonal facts that are never supposed to change and never help me personally, only pertinent for the sake of saying stating useless facts you know. Sure, there can be a little bit of pleasure in stating how stars are in the universe… but what happens when you reach a problem that has not been covered. You don’t have any experience in problem solving and you can’t consult your trusty dictionary. Similar to the belief structure in humans, once you lose a foundational piece of Science the entire building is coming down.
All I’m trying to get across is a lot of people are reading too much material and read into the material too much, and end up trying to live vicariously through this site (myself included at times) You need to balance out your reading time to NEVER come close to the amount of time you spend learning first hand! Stop putting it off, finding out what Pook said 2 years ago won’t help, reading another post on “Confidence” is only digging your hole deeper, and reading up on LTR material when you wanna be a player or don't want a commitment. New Years is coming up and come the beginning of 2006 I want us to look back at 2005 as being the best year of our lives, when we stopped expanding our mind through excerpts and started to exceed through experience.
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