Keeping in contact with an ex

[edger]

Women are "in love" with the IDEA of love, not love itself, and certainly NOT unconditional love of a particular person.

I can believe it. I also think too that they purposely lead men on to think they're "in love" with them. I think they get some kind of pleasure out of it. It's a game to them. F*ckin' sick.

People call me a cynical bastard and such, but fukk them, I know the score. They want to pretend and live a fantasy, let them.

F*ck 'em, exactly. If they're calling you cynical, I can imagine right now what they're calling me, lol, based on what I've said so far in this post, as well as what I'm about to say further. Like you said, let them live a fantasy. Me, you, and a lot of other guys here know the real deal, because we've been through it..you more than most, as you said it's happened more than once to you. Amazing. But I would think after the first experience, you would've basically become immune. I know if I ever get into another long-term relationship and am left "hanging" again, that it wouldn't really affect me.

After experiencing the same thing you have experienced more than once, I will never again for a second take for granted that a woman "loves" me.

Yup, me too.

but even the most loving, compassionate woman has a switch inside of her that she can flip the SECOND you become dispensable to her.

I can believe that too. But if the switch can flip the second you become dispensable to her, that means she was never truly "compassionate" to begin with. Women are MASTERS of disguise..they make you think they're such great catches, such humane individuals, but the truth eventually comes out.

Men are much more loyal. Men are more compassionate. Men feel GUILT when they have wronged someone.

Oh absolutely..absolutely. No matter how prickish some guys can be, I still agree.

I dunno....my theory is that it's hardwired into the female psyche to be able to quickly sever emotional ties with a man when he no longer serves her purposes. A necessary function that allows her to quickly secure another source of intimacy/provisioning/etc.. Basically a survival mechanism, if you will.

I believe they're "hardwired" to be wicked. I believe it's in their nature.

 

[STR8UP]

I believe they're "hardwired" to be wicked. I believe it's in their nature.

It's "natural", which means that although it FEELS like a wicked act, it's nothing more than looking out for #1 in the mating game. No different than someone cheating. It isn't personal most of the time.....it's simply people doing what people do to assure their survival and the passing of their genes into the next generation.

 

[DrNoAWs]

I´m totally with you Edger and St8up.

But even though knowing all that; if the X is crossing your way and seems as if it doesn´t affect her it hurts. I saw mine in the gym today. I had not talked to her for about a month and had decided to stay no contact after she had tried to hoover me back in. I didn´t talk to her at all today, just a simple hey and bye - cus I didnt want to give the attention she always wants. She is a HPD NPD women and normally craving for attention.
But althoug knowing (not really knowing, but after all her behavior beeing quiet sure about these issues) all that she fcuked up my mind with one of her glances.
She on the other hand looked totally cool and unaffected by me ignoring her. For me it was hard not to fall for her and start some talking. Now she is back on my mind:cuss: