Just met an extremely cute girl...advice so I dont **** up

cali4nialove

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So I've been extremely down these past few nights and am completely dissatisfied with my life, but the first good thing to finally happen and hopefully starts a chain of good things and changes me back to happy lol.

I went to a class of about 6 kids at my tutor place and the class was HUGE, but I still went to sit right next to the cute chick in the corner. I drop my books on the way there, she giggles and says, "I would help you, but Its too far and Im lazy :p"
After that we started talking about our classes and I made sure to use great body language and eye contact. It was mostly about school stuff until our tutor gave us a 15 minute break and I told her, "Lets go walk to starbucks" To which she said yes...only crappy part is one of her other guy friends tagged along (didnt see him as a threat, friendzoned)...but that ended up working good for me, cus I got along great with him and we had a great conversation. Ive heard that its a good impression to a girl when you get along with her friends.

So we get back and sit down and start talking. I ask if she went to my school, she said she just transferred at the beginning of the year. She told me she was forced out of her other school. I asked why but she didnt want to tell me, her face turned red. But I looked her in the eyes and calmly said,"Its fine if you dont want to tell me, but just know I dont judge no matter what it was"

She then told me it was cus her ex screwed her over and destroyed her rep at that school and it got so bad that even the school office got involved and her parents took her out. She told me she hates our school now and misses that. I told her why, she started telling me about how she has no friends in this school, only knows a few people and at lunch time almost everyday she goes to the school library and does HW. I teased her a bit and told her "haha now thats no way to spend a perfectly good lunchtime and tomorrow were gonna have lunch..my style (;" She felt a little shy and told me she wouldnt go cus she doesnt want to feel awkward around all my friends. I laughed and said, "Who said my friends were gonna be there, its just gonna be me and you" She said "Really?" and I told her of course and she accepted happily. She looked pretty happy when I said that and giggled. I told her, "Yea, were hanging out tomorrow for sure, what's your number, Ill text you" She laughed and tried to give me a pizza hut phone number but confessed and told me her actual number.

The rest of the time I was just telling her funny stories about a teacher we have in common and how I mess with him so much and she was laughing her ass off.


Any thoughts? Comments? Suggestions? Advice?
 

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she likes you just have fun and do what you want

worrying and thinking about "not ****ing up" will **** you up

My opinion Red flag: doesn't have any friends at her school, tread lightly
 

cali4nialove

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Nite said:
she likes you just have fun and do what you want

worrying and thinking about "not ****ing up" will **** you up

My opinion Red flag: doesn't have any friends at her school, tread lightly
Alright man. Also, any good text openers? Told her I'd text her about tomorrow, but I want to start with a clever opener first!

She seemed really cool and got along with people. Also, seemed like she was maybe a little shy. New to this school, but one semester and still not many friends? wtfman.jpg haha.

Ill tread with caution
 

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Seems a little bit crazy underneath the surface. Whatever happened in her past was not all because of her boyfriend.

Keeping that in mind, she likes you, you like her, and everyone is a little bit crazy. Stay confident and enjoy!

(What you text her doesn't matter at all, just be calm and happy when you write it)
 

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LearningSlowly said:
Seems a little bit crazy underneath the surface. Whatever happened in her past was not all because of her boyfriend.

Keeping that in mind, she likes you, you like her, and everyone is a little bit crazy. Stay confident and enjoy!

(What you text her doesn't matter at all, just be calm and happy when you write it)
Yea I'm keeping my eyes peeled for anything suspicious....
 

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You seem to be doing just fine. Just follow Nite's advice: worrying about fvcking up, will in turn fvck you up. Besides it's obvious you both like each other, so just have fun. And you don't HAVE to text her just because you said you would. Unless you're setting up a date, I wouldn't. But at the same time you might wanna build a little more comfort before asking her on a date.

And yeah, people have a tendency to blame others instead of taking responsibility so just remember and understand something is up with her. Like LearningSlowly said, "whatever happened in her past was not all because of her boyfriend." Just my 2 cents.
 

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Eph said:
You seem to be doing just fine. Just follow Nite's advice: worrying about fvcking up, will in turn fvck you up. Besides it's obvious you both like each other, so just have fun. And you don't HAVE to text her just because you said you would. Unless you're setting up a date, I wouldn't. But at the same time you might wanna build a little more comfort before asking her on a date.

And yeah, people have a tendency to blame others instead of taking responsibility so just remember and understand something is up with her. Like LearningSlowly said, "whatever happened in her past was not all because of her boyfriend." Just my 2 cents.
Yeah Im gonna see what happens. Is it a bad sign if we rarely text? As in between last night and today we've only had like 6 texts. She takes forever to respond, but seems into it at the same time.

Also, will it get me friendzoned if I try to find out what happened to her that made her leave the school. Dont want to be that guy who just listens to girls pour out their hearts about their exes. Dont wanna be her emotional tampon :p
 

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cali4nialove said:
Yeah Im gonna see what happens. Is it a bad sign if we rarely text? As in between last night and today we've only had like 6 texts. She takes forever to respond, but seems into it at the same time.

Also, will it get me friendzoned if I try to find out what happened to her that made her leave the school. Dont want to be that guy who just listens to girls pour out their hearts about their exes. Dont wanna be her emotional tampon :p
I wouldn't say its a bad sign if you don't text often. Its a good thing in all honestly, keeps you more mysterious. It is a bad sign that she is taking longer to keep you. As a rule of thumb, take about as long as she does to text back if you insist on texting without a real purpose.

And the only difference between the friendzone and whatever you wanna call it is the guy in the friendzone isn't sexual. He shies away from any type of sexual conversation with women. I see nothing wrong with getting to know her on a (in this case very) personal level as long as your intentions are clear: you want her, but don't need her. (i.e the "couldn't care less" attitude)
 

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Only AFCs get friendzone. As long as you keep the flirting going and you're an attractive guy, you should never get friendzoned.
 
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