Just had sex

[Lemmings]

Hey guys,

Been lurking for awhile, managed to have sex today. It was my first time.

Anyway, long story short. I don't feel any different, the act only lasted for about an hour and it took me about 40 minutes to climax. Honestly, I think i had to force myself to *** as it felt like the girl was starting to dry up... is that normal?

Also... Is it supposed to feel like i dunno, warm jelly? Felt like i was shoving my penis into warm jelly.

I'm not that big, 6 inches length, 5.5 inch circumference. Still, shouldn't it have felt tighter?

... Does it get better? cause it really wasn't all that fantastic and life changing. Btw, doggy style is hard! how the hell do you guys find the right angle to really pump it?

..Thought I'd be feeling like a champ or something, just want to sleep now, no real urge to have more sex either - i think spanking it felt better.

 

[TheMale]

special for you ;p
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o

 

[Lemmings]

... i knew someone would link that.

no but really, is my problem or the situation i went through a common one?!

it was actually a huge let-down, i mean ... fck.

 

[PDubb75]

I just burst out laughing reading this. If this is 100% serious, I apologize for that, and congratulations. And, I'll just continue on as if this is a serious post...

Anyway, long story short. I don't feel any different, the act only lasted for about an hour and it took me about 40 minutes to climax. Honestly, I think i had to force myself to *** as it felt like the girl was starting to dry up... is that normal?

It's pretty impressive you lasted 40 minutes your first time. I'm guessing nerves had something to do with it. Or, by the tone of your post, maybe it was just a bad experience in general. Yes, a girl will start to dry up after a while. It never hurts to have some lube handy in case.

Also... Is it supposed to feel like i dunno, warm jelly? Felt like i was shoving my penis into warm jelly.

This is where I started laughing my ass off. Sure, I guess you can describe it that way? Or maybe "warm apple pie"? Was this a bad thing, btw?

I'm not that big, 6 inches length, 5.5 inch circumference. Still, shouldn't it have felt tighter?

Maybe she just wasn't very tight. Wait till you get a girl you can't even fit into.

... Does it get better? cause it really wasn't all that fantastic and life changing. Btw, doggy style is hard! how the hell do you guys find the right angle to really pump it?

Short answer: yes. Long answer: Oh, yes! Once you learn how you like things, and learn to understand her body language for what she likes, it will get much better.

Doggy style shouldn't be hard. You just need some practice. Try it with her leaning over the bed, and you standing behind her )or something else at the proper height). It can be a bit more difficult to get the right angle if your heights don't match up correctly on an even surface. But still, once you get more practice, you will be able to make it work.

Don't be discouraged that you don't "feel different". There is a huge school of thought that having sex for the first time is supposed to change you somehow. It might for some people, it might not for others. Just think of this as a step in your life you can now work on improving. Fair warning: It's a fun hobby to practice.

I'm curious about the girl. Who is she? Girlfriend? Random hookup? Did she know you were a virgin? Etc...

 

[Lemmings]

Thanks PDubb75, thread was started as a serious post.

Guess you could say warm apple pie... I've heard warm silk as well. Kind of just felt like warm jelly or something. Always thought it'd have more... fiber to it? like, ribbed or something. Definitely not a bad thing, just... nothing like my left hand. Is this really what the vagina feels like? basically variations of this?

Maybe she just wasn't all that tight as well.

Girl is my gf, I've been seeing her for about a month. Got annoyed at how slow things were moving so I set the mood, said some things and just went for it. Kind of feel like a douche in hindsight cause now she thinks we're some super, ultra, loving couple. I think i honestly just wanted the sex. Fck I'm such a douche.

I figured it'd feel better as I practiced more. Guess i need to work on the angles and stuff. Doggy style felt good but, the angle was such a b1tch. Just ended up pumping away between the missionary with her legs on my shoulders and her on top, partly elevated with me pumping away like a piston from below.

Any tips?

Like, how the fck do you practice that hip thrusting and the timing and all that stuff. Also, even with basically missionary, if feels like her vaginal entrance is slightly lower then my erection, so when I insert and thrust, it's at an angle where I can't pump away really satisfactorily. I think i hurt her in the other position with the legs on my shoulders cause I'm pretty sure i was hitting her cervix pretty constantly.

Btw, I'm using the ultra-thin condoms, do condoms really reduce the sensations? Just don't want to risk a pregnancy.

 

[r0cky]

You sir, have a strong case of buyers remorse. This usually lasts only a day, maybe 2.

 

[AAAgent]

my first time i didn't even finish but the girl was expecting that i would so i just kind faked it and said i did. It was not great or even good even though i didn't do anything wrong, it was mostly mental.

When you get comfortable, it stops feeling weird and then you will start pumping in all types of positions, places, etc.

Girls usually let you do whatever you want and make it their job to help you finish which is awesome. So just move her to a spot that is comfortable for you. For doggy just grab her hips and make her move with you, don't let her do the moving as its hard to time sometimes.

 

[PDubb75]

Haha, relax man. You aren't a douche because you wanted to have sex with your girlfriend after a month. I would watch out, though. If she's getting clingy as hell, and you really aren't feeling it, you might be setting yourself up for some headaches later on.

Was she also a virgin? The best thing you two can do for each other is TALK. Tell each other what you like, what feels good, what isn't working for you, what you are curious to try, etc. Nothing good is going to come out of a sexual relationship when both of you are disliking it but refusing to talk about it and fix the issues.

As far as practicing goes, just keep having sex. It will start being less awkward once you know what works for you two. Some people feel having music on can really help with their rhythm and timing. You can try that, but it may also depends on what kind of music you like. Some stuff just doesn't work. Also, hit the gym and work on your core (as well as everything else, of course). That will help with thrusting stamina and power.

Yes, condoms do reduce the sensation. Ultra-thins can be better, but I have a friend that has had them break on him multiple times, so be careful there. Even with the reduced sensation, I personally think they are a must. In my opinion, unless you want a kid, it is extremely irresponsible to have sex without condoms. My sister used to work at a Planned Parenthood, and they had girls come in literally every single day that got pregnant while only on the pill. I have had unprotected sex a few times, and the nerves I had for next few weeks made it far from worth it for me.

 

[Lemmings]

Haha, buyers remorse.

Alright, practice makes perfect.

And no, i don't think she was a virgin, didn't break any hymen and it didn't seem like she was in any particular pain (which was fcking crazy cause i thought she was a virgin seeing as how slowly she wanted to take things - just goes to show you how fake everything is doesn't it).

Hope she doesn't get too clingy, really don't need any drama in my life.

Also, ultra-thins break easily?! that's fcking scary man, how do you know when a condom breaks on you? If you see *** collected @ the bottom of the condom = you're safe. No *** = run to the pharm for a morning after pill?!

Anyway, going to go to the gym then, shes coming over again... we'll see how it goes. Really want to nail the doggy position!

 

[PDubb75]

They don't break easily, but they break easier. Chances are you will be fine, but it's something you need to pay attention to with any condom. It's never happened to me, but apparently sometimes you can feel it immediately. Other times you might not know until afterwards. I wouldn't call it common, though. Kinda weird how my one friend has had it happen about 4 times.

And when I said "go to the gym", that isn't a quick fix. In fact, if you go to the gym right beforhand, it will tire you out more. I just meant that if you work your core, over time you will be able to thrust harder for longer without tiring out.

 

[Drdeee]

I'm about 2 inches shorter than you, and getting it inside ***** is a challenge, the girl have to be skinny. The first time didn't fell good, the 2nd time I couldn't even cam, and 3rd time I couldn't get it up. It gets better, and outcome highly depends on how hot you are for the chick. That means deep emotional connection first and foremost - well at least for me.

Let me ask you something, do you jerk off, or you haven't touched yourself for like a year prior to faking her?

 

[Lemmings]

I was spanking the monkey pretty often before my first fck. Once a day or so.

Planning on stopping that... I think i got too used to the way my hand felt, and I think you get lazy jerking off... all those hip thrusts and the timing and all that really threw me off the first time.

Anyway, had sex for the second time last night, went at it for about an hour and i still couldn't ***, she said it was starting to hurt so i pulled out and that was that - we went to sleep.

half-way through the night i get a nice erection and i tell her i want to fck her, so we go at it and this time i managed to make myself *** in 30 minutes or so. I don't know why but cumming seems to be a conscious effort for me.

All in all sex feels pretty good - definitely different from spanking the monkey but, good nonetheless. Still trying to get the rhythm and all that down. Music helped a lot last night, thrusting in time @ a constant speed felt pretty good.

Btw, i go to the gym pretty often 4-5x a week, been going for a good 3 years. Still, i guess my core was lacking cause it feels sore.

Just a side note, maybe it's the condom? or she's just... kinda big or something (thought she'd be tight as hell seeing as how she's so athletic, very slim, no breasts *sadface*). I've heard that some vaginas feel really nice and snug, with her, penetration is pretty easy (she gets wet pretty nicely) and once I'm thrusting I usually almost pull the head out so i can rely on that extra friction from entering her again (Maybe that's why she says it hurts? I have a mushroom-head penis).

Regarding the girl I think I was bored more then anything when I made her my gf. Still feel like a douche saying all those sweet and nice things just for the sex. It not entirely like i don't feel anything for her though, I just can't help but notice the other girls.

Anyway, always appreciate tips and misc info i could do with. I've been checking the condom pretty often after hearing that ultra-thins break a little more easily. Just been assuming *** in condom = safe.

So... yay me?

 

[Drdeee]

You getting to know her more and getting comfortable with her that's why it's getting better. The feeling you say you don't feel much is because of condom. If you stop jerking off altogether you'd be much better off with this, vagina will feel better, and faking will be more enjoyable.

If she says it hurt its cuz she got bored. She got bored cuz it wasn't dirty and passionate enough. It wasn't passionate enough cuz you jerk off every day. When you jerk off your brain chemistry is different, every one of your senses is different, you're satisfied with sex and have no need for it; and that's why it's a chore.

Masturbation takes away your soul, and those who masturbate get blind to women's needs.

Now that you faking her don't jerk off at all, and better stop jerking off completely. You make yourself an impotent when you jerk off.

If you really want a blast try sex and weed or sex and cocaine.:rockon: