Don't always try to do something different and exciting, because girls take it for granted; make sure she is reciprocating.
Alright I got dumped about a week ago. I had been dating this HB 8.5-9 for 3 1/2 months, and basically I got oneitis. So I started getting sappy with her and it turned her off. This I realized right after she dumped me, and we can all agree that this anti-challenge. I'd tell her that I care about her and **** like that far more than she would say it to me. It's no surprise in hindsight that it was lowering her interest level. There was something else I didn't realize though.
Now she was talking about the breakup to one of our mutual friends, and it turns out that I was trying way too hard to show her a good time in the activities we would go and do. I didn't spend that much money on her but I always planning something out of the ordinary. Why? I was fixated on not letting the relationship get stale, and I of course was afraid of losing her.
So what else was I doing? Subtle things that were anti-challenge. There was a club we used to go to, a classy joint that plays swing music. Worried that we were getting into a routine, one time I told "I'm going to dress up for you." So I dressed up really nice and wore a tie and stuff, when normally I'd just wear a polo shirt. She felt obligated to dress up too, and she looked damn fine. Yet I think she could sense that I was somehow trying to impress her, even though I didn't realize it.
I would take her to the zoo--an hour and a half away. She was gone on vacation for a week so when she got back I had a romantic dinner planned. I only bought her one gift in this relationship, a $5 gag gift, but I prefaced it with "so I was thinking about you today and I got you something..." of course she thought it was funny, and I thought I was doing fine because it was sort of a smartass gift. It showed though that I was trying too damn hard even though my natural humor was more than enough to keep her laughing.
I was always looking to put on a show for her, because I know women like it when you're funny and you're thoughtful. But she didn't reciprocate and there was no balance.
LTR guys, heed my words.
Alright I got dumped about a week ago. I had been dating this HB 8.5-9 for 3 1/2 months, and basically I got oneitis. So I started getting sappy with her and it turned her off. This I realized right after she dumped me, and we can all agree that this anti-challenge. I'd tell her that I care about her and **** like that far more than she would say it to me. It's no surprise in hindsight that it was lowering her interest level. There was something else I didn't realize though.
Now she was talking about the breakup to one of our mutual friends, and it turns out that I was trying way too hard to show her a good time in the activities we would go and do. I didn't spend that much money on her but I always planning something out of the ordinary. Why? I was fixated on not letting the relationship get stale, and I of course was afraid of losing her.
So what else was I doing? Subtle things that were anti-challenge. There was a club we used to go to, a classy joint that plays swing music. Worried that we were getting into a routine, one time I told "I'm going to dress up for you." So I dressed up really nice and wore a tie and stuff, when normally I'd just wear a polo shirt. She felt obligated to dress up too, and she looked damn fine. Yet I think she could sense that I was somehow trying to impress her, even though I didn't realize it.
I would take her to the zoo--an hour and a half away. She was gone on vacation for a week so when she got back I had a romantic dinner planned. I only bought her one gift in this relationship, a $5 gag gift, but I prefaced it with "so I was thinking about you today and I got you something..." of course she thought it was funny, and I thought I was doing fine because it was sort of a smartass gift. It showed though that I was trying too damn hard even though my natural humor was more than enough to keep her laughing.
I was always looking to put on a show for her, because I know women like it when you're funny and you're thoughtful. But she didn't reciprocate and there was no balance.
LTR guys, heed my words.
