Just getting back on my feet.

[caaarn]

It's almost been a year since ive been on the dating game, so im not too sure if what ive done was a good idea or not. Heres the background;

I went to a university ball with two friends of mine, a guy and a girl. Both the guy and I dont attend the university's society which held the ball, but the girl did. So thus, the table we sat on consisted purely of her girlfriends. Which was great!

I hooked up with one of the girls on the table, who on my initial impressions was very quiet, but quite cute. After a few drinks that wore off. We exchanged numbers and kissed a little bit (she said she didnt know if she should because she didnt know me, but did anyway) before I took her outside for some air. To cut it short, she kinda went to bed on me and I had to take care of her for the next hour or two trying to find a way home for her.

Now, normally I would not call the day after getting a girl's number. But I thought this case would be an exception, since I had a decent premise for calling, eg. asking if she got home alright etc. So i called and she was very apologetic, mainly abt throwing up on me (a little) and being the way she was. I told her it wasnt so bad and arranged lunch. I offered tues, she said tuesdays were her day off from uni (we go to the same one) so she offerered monday. Normally I have monday's off (or at least, I take them off), but this week I have something to hand in. Although I am still slightly out of my way to meet this appointment, she isnt aware of that so its okay I think. So that was that, I kept the phone conversation short and to the point.

Now, was what I did a good idea? Ball was on a fri nite, I called sat nite and we arranged to meet monday. Just thinking if it seems too eager... Also, any ideas for how I should handle lunch, its a very casual arrangement but I have a feeling itll be somewhat odd because we hooked up whilst drunk, and there wont be any alcohol this time around! So I have no idea if we'll even have much rapport, because she was very quiet when I was introduced to her initially.

All your thoughts are much appreciated!

Cheers

caaarn, learner dj.

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Originally posted by caaarn
It's almost been a year since ive been on the dating game, so im not too sure if what ive done was a good idea or not. Heres the background;

I went to a university ball with two friends of mine, a guy and a girl. Both the guy and I dont attend the university's society which held the ball, but the girl did. So thus, the table we sat on consisted purely of her girlfriends. Which was great!

I hooked up with one of the girls on the table, who on my initial impressions was very quiet, but quite cute. After a few drinks that wore off. We exchanged numbers and kissed a little bit (she said she didnt know if she should because she didnt know me, but did anyway) before I took her outside for some air. To cut it short, she kinda went to bed on me and I had to take care of her for the next hour or two trying to find a way home for her.

Now, normally I would not call the day after getting a girl's number. But I thought this case would be an exception, since I had a decent premise for calling, eg. asking if she got home alright etc. So i called and she was very apologetic, mainly abt throwing up on me (a little) and being the way she was. I told her it wasnt so bad and arranged lunch. I offered tues, she said tuesdays were her day off from uni (we go to the same one) so she offerered monday. Normally I have monday's off (or at least, I take them off), but this week I have something to hand in. Although I am still slightly out of my way to meet this appointment, she isnt aware of that so its okay I think. So that was that, I kept the phone conversation short and to the point.

Now, was what I did a good idea? Ball was on a fri nite, I called sat nite and we arranged to meet monday. Just thinking if it seems too eager... Also, any ideas for how I should handle lunch, its a very casual arrangement but I have a feeling itll be somewhat odd because we hooked up whilst drunk, and there wont be any alcohol this time around! So I have no idea if we'll even have much rapport, because she was very quiet when I was introduced to her initially.

All your thoughts are much appreciated!

Cheers

caaarn, learner dj.

Hey C, I think you did good. There were some potential for trouble, but looks avoided now. As long as you didn't try to call her at the break of morning. I figure she probably didn't call you, after feeling a bit salty after last night. So calling her was ok...

Now to the lunch... just be yourself dude. Compliment her with 'I haven't seen anyone throw up that much.... ever..... ...... it was very impressive (Chic's name). Try to relax, after all, you are just meeting a 'friend'. Try as hard as you can to look at her as one of your drinking, er football buds. Of course don't talk about chic's and sh*t like that wither her. Eat oustide if you can swing it. They love that crap. Use the background for some conversation ( and I don't mean, how's the weather.), have some innocent fun.

I got to get some coffee before I can go on, I am so out of it this morning.......

coffee goooood.

 

[Digital Mastermind1]

CAAARN go see her, talk to her as a friend first then depending on what she says feel free to use some KINO then retract it see how she responds ( teas her ) then set up a more a more fun date . this is so you can test her and see if she is interested in you ( F ****** YOU).

and,

depends on what you want with her ( booty call) or what ever .you have to protect your heart ( remember these words ok) no matters the costs ( women do this themselves too, tricky bit****).


LATEZ!!! F LOVE , LOVE TO F...

 

[OleRyder]

M'kay, fessin' up: made the same mistake earlier. Well, she ASKED me to call next day, and IL seemed high, so I figured that wouldn't be a huge infraction. Got answering machine, left a message (mistake #2). No reply, called again in a week, made the same mistake of leaving a message. Same story. A week later I called and (again) left a message saying that either she returns my calls, or I'm not interested. Haven't heard back from her, NEXT!

 

[caaarn]

OleRyder: definately next! Good choice bud, she's not worth the time if she doesnt even pick up the phone.

Thanks for the advice everyone else, lunch was today and it went okay. Conversation wasnt bad and she was actually kinda interesting, didnt get to initiate much kino (its hard sitting across a table from each other, that and im not too well versed ) but there was lots of eye contact while we chatted. All was alrite and I was planning to end it on a bit of kino just to see, that was until she told me her sister was stopping by too!...

This totally threw me off and even put me off my intial plan. That is; if things go bad, i had an exit... claim I had to finish up my assignment before the (make it up)pm deadline and scoot. Somehow the arlarms failed to go off and I sat there with her and her sister for an extra hour. Which I think was a mistake, eventually left because I actually did have to hand in my work, and simply gave her a bye and a smile, said ill cya around and give me a call. That was it! The sister put me off trying any kino before I left... Oh well, if she doesnt call I'll chalk it up as practise.

At the very least lunch was on her, I suppose I didnt totally lose out eh?