2 weeks ago, a friend of mine and me made out. 2 nights later, we made out for a really long time, I spend the ngiht in her bed and if I had known what I was doing we could have had sex really easly (Im a bit inexpeiranced). The week that procedeed, our friendship seemed to be put in a freeze. I saw her a few times and she was friendly (gave me hugs and @#%$), but we didnt end up hanging out much, except for a bigger get together. Before all this, she desplayed obvious signs of interest. Suggesting we give eachother backrubs, play spin the bottle, and just having a lot of energy around me and giving me a lot of attention.
This thursday night we had a talk. She said she liked it better when we were friends, and that the last week and a half felt really ****ty. She also said she wasnt sure if she wanted a relationship. We both agreed that we didnt regret what happened that one night. She said she really cared about me and didnt want things to be weird between us like they had been.
I told her, atleast at first it would be pretty hard for me just to think of her as a friend. I told her that I didnt think things needed to be that weird, between us, we just need to communicate more. I told her we should keep things casual -she agreed. She said we didnt need to decide right then.
yesterday, I asked her roomate if she was ok. She (roomate) said she was, but was upset about our frienship, and that she really cares about me, but doesnt want a relationship right now. I told her (roomate) that I didnt say we couldnt be friends, but I said it would be hard at first, because of my feelings to her.
questions:
Does it sound like I have any chance of redemption?
Does it sound like if I go back to being friends with this chick, and play my cards right, I might still have a chance with her? (pretty much the whole time we have been friends before, she was flirty and stuff)
Does it sound like it is "that time of the month" and I should wait it out and then flirt with her and stuff, but give her some space until then?
Anything else you would suggest?
she didnt say "just friends" she said "I liked things better the way they were before when we were friends". -as far as i can tell
I realize my (our) mistake was when we let things become awkward after the makeout session. - so is there any climbing my way out of that one?
For about 2 or so months before when we were friends, she had been flirting, and for the past month, clearly showing interest. it was almost as if she wanted me as her boyfriend when school started. So what Im trying to find out is I let it slip back to that; could I make a move again sucessfully??? She was still flirty, even when we saw eachother briefly a few times during that week. Apparently the 2 nights after the one night when we almost had sex, she came by to see if I was there. So basically, we both wanted to hang out but for some reason we were scared, or something.
This thursday night we had a talk. She said she liked it better when we were friends, and that the last week and a half felt really ****ty. She also said she wasnt sure if she wanted a relationship. We both agreed that we didnt regret what happened that one night. She said she really cared about me and didnt want things to be weird between us like they had been.
I told her, atleast at first it would be pretty hard for me just to think of her as a friend. I told her that I didnt think things needed to be that weird, between us, we just need to communicate more. I told her we should keep things casual -she agreed. She said we didnt need to decide right then.
yesterday, I asked her roomate if she was ok. She (roomate) said she was, but was upset about our frienship, and that she really cares about me, but doesnt want a relationship right now. I told her (roomate) that I didnt say we couldnt be friends, but I said it would be hard at first, because of my feelings to her.
questions:
Does it sound like I have any chance of redemption?
Does it sound like if I go back to being friends with this chick, and play my cards right, I might still have a chance with her? (pretty much the whole time we have been friends before, she was flirty and stuff)
Does it sound like it is "that time of the month" and I should wait it out and then flirt with her and stuff, but give her some space until then?
Anything else you would suggest?
she didnt say "just friends" she said "I liked things better the way they were before when we were friends". -as far as i can tell
I realize my (our) mistake was when we let things become awkward after the makeout session. - so is there any climbing my way out of that one?
For about 2 or so months before when we were friends, she had been flirting, and for the past month, clearly showing interest. it was almost as if she wanted me as her boyfriend when school started. So what Im trying to find out is I let it slip back to that; could I make a move again sucessfully??? She was still flirty, even when we saw eachother briefly a few times during that week. Apparently the 2 nights after the one night when we almost had sex, she came by to see if I was there. So basically, we both wanted to hang out but for some reason we were scared, or something.
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