"just doesnt have a crush"

[madgame]

Can anybody give me some advice on how to deal with a girl who likes you, thinks you're hot and is some type of makeout buddy for you but who said when you asked her if she wanted a relationship,that she "just doesnt have a crush on you"..any tips on how to get her IL up in order to make her feel that crush (lol)?

P.S.: She goes for relationships in general

 

[stevey_2000]

to find out what a girl thinks of you, read the body language, never ask her because she'll probably say the opposite!, it looks like your in mate!

 

[icepick]

Relationships spring from what you two do together, not the other way around.

Don't try to get her to sign a "relationship contract" just yet. First, go as far with her as you can. (You be the judge on just how far and what the time frame is.) She will eventually come around, and if she doesn't, well then you were screwed to begin with.

Usually, the more you "do" with a girl, the more she wants to stick around.

 

[madgame]

@icepick: Does that mean u think its pretty normal that she was acting completely like she wanted a relationship from me and then when i came up with the subject she turned me down and said she didnt want a relationship from me cuz she just didnt have a crush on me...tho she feels comfortable around me blabla and said that she thinks for some reason that she cant imagine that she will want a relationship from me in future...but now that we took a break and continued dating shes acting the way she had acted before that lil incident?


@stevey_2000: How can I tell from a girls body language if she only sees me as someone to mess around with and a friend or if she sees me as someone she got a crush on and wants a relationship (but doesnt want me to ask her for it) ?
How come u think girls say the opposite of what they mean most of the time when u ask them?I mean Ive heared bout that before lol but I used to think it was just a rumour...nothin else..but have u had any experiences with this?

 

[seloifter]

basically what your'e saying is that she finds you to be an attractive guy, but simply is not attracted to you.
Sounds like you need to up the DJ Alpha Male.

 

[b's nuts]

you need to read up a little more, then, first of all you would know not to be the first one to bring that sh*t up l - you let them bring it up. You never profess your feelings for a girl before she does for you, and then rarely. Show her how you feel with your "actions"

 

[Tryin to Grow a Chin]

A lot of the time (at least in my experience), as soon as you engage in a sex act with the girl she'll pull out a line like "What are we?" or "What am I to you?" There's no need to force a relationship.

 

[b's nuts]

Originally posted by Tryin to Grow a Chin
engage in a sex act with the girl she'll pull out a line like "What are we?" or "What am I to you?" There's no need to force a relationship.

Exactly.

 

[icepick]

Originally posted by madgame
@icepick: Does that mean u think its pretty normal that she was acting completely like she wanted a relationship from me and then when i came up with the subject she turned me down and said she didnt want a relationship from me cuz she just didnt have a crush on me...tho she feels comfortable around me blabla and said that she thinks for some reason that she cant imagine that she will want a relationship from me in future...but now that we took a break and continued dating shes acting the way she had acted before that lil incident?

You have to realize kid that there is nothing about the term "relationship" that will magically bring you guys together.

What do you want? Do you want HER, or do you just want an official 'girlfriend' just to write down in your book that you have one?

Having a 'girlfriend' is a means to an end, but not the end in itself.

There really is no "end" it is all just experience.

Who cares if you are her official "boyfriend" or not, do whatever things you were going to do if she were your official "girlfriend".

These labels are just clouds in the sky man, they mean nothing.

Find out what you want, and do what you can to get it. (No, "a relationship" is NOT a good answer; "relationship" is NOT an action it is a LABEL.)

 

[madgame]

thx for your advice..first of all:
I didnt know bout that whole dont-be-the-first-one-to-bring-it-up-part back then...I do know now though. But does that mean that the mistake I made was to bring it up and not wait for her and thats y she acted all strange all of a sudden and said she didnt want a "relationship" with me blabla? and now it should be all good cause everything`s the way it used to be right before that mistake and all I have to do is to be patient with her?(Is this a usual consequence of bringing that **** up?)

I know that the term relationship isnt a magic word or anything but if I do get emotionally involved with a girl I wanna know if she just wants to mess around or be with me as in my "g/f"...besides its annoying when ppl ask you is she your g/f blabla and u dont even know that **** yourself.

So u guys would suggest to me to just keep doing what im doin with her try to get her as far as possible in bed...set a time frame and if she still hastn come up with that line just let it be or well ask her a last time if she still feels about it the way she had told me before or anything?

Sorry I know I got many questions...but is it the same thing with asking to meet up?Is it also a turn off to girls if u ask them if they wanna stay over at your house cause they wanna be the ones asking you that ****?!

 

[Engetsu]

Run up behind her with a boombox playing reggae music and dry-hump her. If she starts dancing with you, you can probably get something out of her.