This is a tip for anyone who has recently broken up with a girlfriend or suffered a painful rejection that keeps playing on their mind.
Firstly you need to focus on getting over her, NOT getting back with her!
Now forget about hooking up with someone else for now. If you're hurting over your ex, then hooking up with some other chick is not going to be fun for you and you'll probably end up comparing and thinking MORE about your ex. You can do this when you are ready but not for now.
The key is to take on a project, keep busy and take your mind away from this painful subject and stop all negative thoughts from flooding your head.
When I broke up with one of my girlfriends who I'd been living with for 3 months I had to move back to my parents home. I sat there surrounded by boxes of my belongings, moping, listening to music and crying a lot that day. Then for some reason before I went to sleep I decided I was going to redecorate my room.
I woke up the following day feeling down and miserable but I remembered my plan and began stripping off the wallpaper. Within a couple of hours I became so immersed in what I was doing I barely gave my break up a thought. I even caught myself humming and whistling. My mind suddenly turned to what wallpaper I was going to buy, how I would change the lighting, areas that needed painting, new curtains, bedding and carpet and so on.
I woke up the next day completely focused on my project. My ex-girlfriend called me that afternoon to try and start an argument but I told her I was busy and got on with the job at hand. I honestly felt that it could wait and that my current project was more important to me right now.
I ended up redecorating the whole room, which took me around a week to finish completely, including shopping for little items, plants, decorations and so on. That whole week I barely gave my break up any weight. Sure I thought about it and I was down at times but the important thing is I never had time to let myself focus on it and get depressed. By this time I was thinking more clearly and had no problem moving on.
When I broke up with my last ex I upgraded my computer. I was clueless about the inside of computers and didn't know what the f*ck I was doing so I spent a lot of time reading the net and computer manuals and learning. I spent the next week surrounded by motherboards and components and the same thing happened. My ex took a backseat in my mind! And when my computer was up and running again, I had the fun of running all new software (read: games
) and seeing what my new PC could do.
So when you suffer heartbreak, take on a project. Don't just play games or watch movies. Do something that yields a result. Something you can throw your mind into and can't wait to finish! It really does work!
Firstly you need to focus on getting over her, NOT getting back with her!
Now forget about hooking up with someone else for now. If you're hurting over your ex, then hooking up with some other chick is not going to be fun for you and you'll probably end up comparing and thinking MORE about your ex. You can do this when you are ready but not for now.
The key is to take on a project, keep busy and take your mind away from this painful subject and stop all negative thoughts from flooding your head.
When I broke up with one of my girlfriends who I'd been living with for 3 months I had to move back to my parents home. I sat there surrounded by boxes of my belongings, moping, listening to music and crying a lot that day. Then for some reason before I went to sleep I decided I was going to redecorate my room.
I woke up the following day feeling down and miserable but I remembered my plan and began stripping off the wallpaper. Within a couple of hours I became so immersed in what I was doing I barely gave my break up a thought. I even caught myself humming and whistling. My mind suddenly turned to what wallpaper I was going to buy, how I would change the lighting, areas that needed painting, new curtains, bedding and carpet and so on.
I woke up the next day completely focused on my project. My ex-girlfriend called me that afternoon to try and start an argument but I told her I was busy and got on with the job at hand. I honestly felt that it could wait and that my current project was more important to me right now.
I ended up redecorating the whole room, which took me around a week to finish completely, including shopping for little items, plants, decorations and so on. That whole week I barely gave my break up any weight. Sure I thought about it and I was down at times but the important thing is I never had time to let myself focus on it and get depressed. By this time I was thinking more clearly and had no problem moving on.
When I broke up with my last ex I upgraded my computer. I was clueless about the inside of computers and didn't know what the f*ck I was doing so I spent a lot of time reading the net and computer manuals and learning. I spent the next week surrounded by motherboards and components and the same thing happened. My ex took a backseat in my mind! And when my computer was up and running again, I had the fun of running all new software (read: games
) and seeing what my new PC could do.So when you suffer heartbreak, take on a project. Don't just play games or watch movies. Do something that yields a result. Something you can throw your mind into and can't wait to finish! It really does work!
