Originally posted by The_Shezzler
DONT COPY OTHER PEOPLES THINGS!!! USE YOUR OWN SKILLSET - BE YOUR OWN MAN!!!!!!!
IF YOU ARE USING SOMEONE ELSES LINES...WHO REALLY IS THE SELLOUT?
YOUR SELLING OUT EVERYONE, AND EVERYTHING THAT YOUR PARENTS AND PEOPLE AROUND YOU SINCE BIRTH HAVE INSTILLED INTO YOU.
Do you see how you're contradicting yourself in that last line?
Fvck what anyone has tried to "instill" in me. I am not them, and they are not me. Call me crazy, but I prefer to be the ultimate judge of what I accept as MY beliefs and MY reality.
Self-government (making one's own decisions and thinking independently) is NOT a privelege, regardless of what governments, church, parents, or ANYONE ELSE will try to tell you. Said individuals will even try to
shame those "under" them for even WANTING mental and emotional independence.
It's what the forefathers of our country died for. The King George's of today, however, do not reside in England, but in our nation's white house, in Rome, in our churches, and in our own homes.
My parents, teachers, and church all tried to tell me that women are special beings that are to be revered and respected. My mom always urged me to bring flowers to any girl I dated and to be respectful and pay for their dinners. It's a load of sh!t. It built up weak, ineffective frames in my mind that constantly put me into the role of the subservient pleaser, which is exactly where parents, teachers, and the church want you to be.
"Be yourself" is horse-sh!t advice, bro, because "yourself" is constantly evolving. So in essence, it says nothing.
When girls say they like guys who can "be themselves", they are referring to a particular type of "self." Star Trek virgins who stutter and get fight-or-flight when they see girls are being themselves. Is it working? NO.
The "self" that girls refer to is fvcking vague, which is the advice on its own doesn't help anyone. To clarify, when girls say be "yourself", they mean "be the kind of person you are when you are completely comfortable in your own skin."
For many guys, being themselves is IMPOSSIBLE! Why? They have ever-present insecurities that rear their heads in the presence of women.
So what does souave tell us? "Be confident! Women like confidence."
Just like "be yourself", this advice is very vague, but at least it's a start.
In my experience, the easiest way to 'build' confidence is by tearing down the insecurities that obscure our true "selves"-- the elusive "yourself" that girls everywhere refer to when they give you their good-intentioned dime-store advice.
So what entails eliminating insecurity? First, identify what you are insecure about. Then fix it. Simple.
Michelangelo said it best:
"In every block of marble I see a statue as plain as though it stood before me, shaped and perfect in attitude and action. I have only to hew away the rough walls that imprison the lovely apparition to reveal it to the other eyes as mine see it."
