Just as friends??

[ARrocket]

Ok, I got a prom date, right? It's pretty obvious she likes me....or so it seemed to me.

Her parents wanted to meet me. So I go there, and at first her dad was talking as if I was a potential bf, talking about "You'd better not hurt her" blah blah blah. But, her mom seemed to keep hinting that we were just going as friends. There is no reason for this girl to think that....I have been C&F, used TONS of kino (and received it too )...so idk what's up with that.

All during the meeting, I was using lots of kino with her....the three of us (her, me, and the mother) talked and kinda watched a movie for about 3 hrs. Because the mother seemed to like it (and I need to get in good with her....they are really protective of her) I was acting pretty AFC. Sadly. But, from my date's behavior, I'd say she's interested....but now I'm having doubts.

At one point, her mother said "most guys come in here wanting to date her, but you're just taking her to the prom as a friend...there's a big difference." wtf?? I didn't say anything....just kinda looked away....there was silence for about 5 seconds, then my date said "well, that's ok with me" and then started talking about something else.....

So, when I decided to leave, she walked me out....we just flirted a bit, and I have her a hug...and told her not to miss me TOO much the rest of the weekend. And that was it.

Thoughts?

 

[penkitten]

either she told her mother she only wants to be your friend OR her mother is just under that impression for whatever reason OR her mother doesn't want her dating right now and is steering the ship to the friendship voyage..

you will find out from the chick's actions, not her mothers.
no worries!

 

[HandyAndy]

Myabe her mother is hinting to you that she doesnt want her daughter in a relationship, you said she was protective of her daughter right?

 

[ARrocket]

Yes, she seems to be very protective....although the daughter doesn't seem to mind :nervous:

Do you think, that just in this situation, it would be ok to kinda let her know that I like her? Something like "if I hadn't asked you to prom, I would have had to choose between going by myself and going with some girl I don't even really like..."

 

[Adam]

Well I'm not an expert in this kind of field, but from what I've picked up here, telling her more or less outright that you 'like' her is just going to sap away any attraction there might be between her and you. She's just become the prize and you've just become another AFC.

Try turning up the volume between you and another girl in her presence? Subtely study her reaction carefully. Another option I would see would be to kino it up and go in for the kiss - should give you a pretty solid idea of what she thinks of you (and you might well get a little further than just a kiss ).

 

[ARrocket]

Well I'm not an expert in this kind of field, but from what I've picked up here, telling her more or less outright that you 'like' her is just going to sap away any attraction there might be between her and you. She's just become the prize and you've just become another AFC.

Try turning up the volume between you and another girl in her presence? Subtely study her reaction carefully. Another option I would see would be to kino it up and go in for the kiss - should give you a pretty solid idea of what she thinks of you (and you might well get a little further than just a kiss ).

True....I guess letting her know I like her isn't the way to go. It seems like it would make sense in this particular situation, but I won't fall into that trap.

I am always flirting with other girls (rather, they are flirting with me) in front of her....since the beginning

Yeah, I guess I will "kino it up." I mean, her mother kept saying that my date had come home and was sooo excited that I had asked her to prom, etc. And the girl seems to be into me, so yeah maybe the mother just doesn't like the idea of her daughter dating.

 

[schttrj]

well, ARrocket, lemme tell u that i believe in somewhat analysing the situation and then acting according to it. rule #1: no rules.....

see, pretty simple idea i have, why u confusing her mom with her? if her mom doesnt like u or doesnt like her dating, thats another story, isnt it? are we talking about the girl? ok, if she is a HB>8.5, keep the c/f content, keep it exciting and u can flirt with other girls infront of her and playing a bit hard to get would do good. if she is HB<8.5, i think u should rather keep flirtin other girls out of options, if i had been a girl and below 8.5, i would have felt insecure, period! and adam is right in his advice, u should follow him. but in front of her mom, lemme tell u something, act nonchalant when she says something blocking to ur game, but keep her guessing too and as she is a landmine in the path, try defusing her with some good compliments to her and acting sumwaht a nice guy to her, but to her daughter u keep on playin the game and never make any move at this moment in front of her mom. if her mom doesnt want taht, she would feel uncomfortable and ur game would be weakened. damn, u r a master, u know everything, i think i said enuff, keep rocking, dude!

 

[ARrocket]

well, ARrocket, lemme tell u that i believe in somewhat analysing the situation and then acting according to it. rule #1: no rules.....

see, pretty simple idea i have, why u confusing her mom with her? if her mom doesnt like u or doesnt like her dating, thats another story, isnt it? are we talking about the girl? ok, if she is a HB>8.5, keep the c/f content, keep it exciting and u can flirt with other girls infront of her and playing a bit hard to get would do good. if she is HB<8.5, i think u should rather keep flirtin other girls out of options, if i had been a girl and below 8.5, i would have felt insecure, period! and adam is right in his advice, u should follow him. but in front of her mom, lemme tell u something, act nonchalant when she says something blocking to ur game, but keep her guessing too and as she is a landmine in the path, try defusing her with some good compliments to her and acting sumwaht a nice guy to her, but to her daughter u keep on playin the game and never make any move at this moment in front of her mom. if her mom doesnt want taht, she would feel uncomfortable and ur game would be weakened. damn, u r a master, u know everything, i think i said enuff, keep rocking, dude!

Thanks man. Will do.

You're from India? That's cool...I'm Indian, but live in the US. I'll be visiting this summer though.

 

[Triple T]

god i hate over-protective parents. :cuss: