Just about to have a mental breakdown

[Suspens]

There are many unresolved issues and situations which are sending

• Living in a toxic family inside an inherited house

If I move out I will be completely isolated and lonely. Also it is a big risk, my family has a few thousand bucks in their bank account so they can buy my share so I could GTFO. But I'm basically selling a house and renting one. Though I can open a new bank account and put the rest there and benefit from a 15%-20% annual interest rate, which could help as I'm unemployed.

• Petrified to make a move on the chicks I'm interested in due to logistic issues

So after a million days of sarging and daygaming I got a few numbers, but I acted like a total idiot and didn't ask them out as it was not the right time. No driving license, no place etc. So I said "let's wait till those obstacles are resolved"

• Thinking about settling down and arranged marriage

I know I will regret it but what can you do. Nothing worse and more despicable than being a 30 yo and still beating your d1ck and fapping to online pron. Dating and gaming requires you to have your sh1t together, which is not the case with me. Imma just marry a hot chick and pound the hell out of her, DAY AND NIGHT.

• Buying candies and eating poop food in order to escape depression

And wasting money in the process.

• Trapped in a retarded self-fulfilling prophecy

Getting a new haircut and looking like a hot boy, but I don't approach anyone due to the problems mentioned above. "Awesome she is the one I was looking for, but nah fvck it man I'm not approaching her as it would be pointless." Just getting a few gazes and smiles suffices, just like an attention hoe chick.

• VideoGaming and reading online junk in order to fill my time

Because I have nothing else to do. At first I chose solitude, but now I'm 100% isolated and alone. Back in the day I could not even imagine myself sitting behind a monitor and playing videogames. No one of my fvcking friends call or text, as if I'm dead and completely forgotten:yes:

• Not joining social media just to keep a mysterious and sexy image

Even though there are many old numbers who could miss me by seeing one of my hotter photos.

 

[Tictac]

The boy wants things to stay as they are.

The man wants to get out.

Side with the man.

 

[NSX-R]

I used to be the same like you. 20 hours per day in front of a computer screen with the only sexual connection to be with my hand.
I then though " fck this, I ain't gonna stay like this for the rest of my life " so I changed.
After 3 years I own a million Euros business, I'm twice as big as i used to be and I have fcked quite a lot of females.

You have to believe that you want to change otherwise it's gonna be only an idea

 

[Infern0]

Get a job, get a car, move out.

Come on man what are you doing to help yourself?

 

[Serenity]

You have one thing to your advantage, that is self-awareness. Now you've structured out your bad points, now just stop doing those. You can't just stop you say? Why not? I wonder. You don't have the willpower perhaps? Don't know what else to do? First of all nobody except yourself can give you willpower, if you think they can it's not called willpower, it's called asking permission and putting your fate in the hands of others. Second of all you must realize you're free, you can do whatever you want except what you know you need to stop doing. If you think rationally the list of what you can't/won't/shouldn't do is microscopic compared to the billions of things you can do instead.

Let these facts blow your mind and let the breakdown come, it won't kill you no matter how much it scares the sh!t out of you.

 

[corrector]

I don't think you will have a mental breakdown. Most mental break-downs are caused by divorces, loss of a job, or something of a shock.

I have more things than you going wrong in my life that would lead to a mental breakdown (i.e. high debt, living with parents, just went through a divorce, jugging credit cards, etc.....) however I'm alright. The thing that caused the break-down was visiting that prostitute and having some sort of "evil spirit" harass me after the encounter with crushing guilt.

It usually takes one thing to precipitate it and it has to be a shock. As long as you are morally innocent of where you are in life then there should be no break-down since it is not your fault. Mental break-downs have massive guilt-complexes interwoven in it. You are not responsible for where you are in life, right?

 

[NSX-R]

It usually takes one thing to precipitate it and it has to be a shock. As long as you are morally innocent of where you are in life then there should be no break-down since it is not your fault. Mental break-downs have massive guilt-complexes interwoven in it. You are not responsible for where you are in life, right?

What kind of bs is this? Considering your logic if you don't have to eat it's because the neighbor is responsible and the reason to start doing a job again to not starve.

First of all nobody is responsible for you except than you( or if you are under 18) . Your choices makes you what you are and not the choices of the others, except again if you're a beta male that depends on everybody else except than yourself.

Secondly I understand that by hard situations can somebody gets affected ( sometimes positive or negative)to do something but why would you have to wait for these hard situations to act? It's like saying only if i start drowning in the pool I'll learn to swim. It's stupid.

Op all these are just excuses for the nothingness you are experiencing. go out and do things. If you encounter a hard situation be happy because you become stronger, this is how I feel with every hard situation. When you struggle at something and feeling like you can't do it any more, see it as a challenge to level up into a higher level.

 

[BrainDamage92]

think about the people who are starving

your situation dont seem too bad now eh

 

[switch7]

There are many unresolved issues and situations which are sending

• Living in a toxic family inside an inherited house

If I move out I will be completely isolated and lonely. Also it is a big risk, my family has a few thousand bucks in their bank account so they can buy my share so I could GTFO. But I'm basically selling a house and renting one. Though I can open a new bank account and put the rest there and benefit from a 15%-20% annual interest rate, which could help as I'm unemployed.

• Petrified to make a move on the chicks I'm interested in due to logistic issues

So after a million days of sarging and daygaming I got a few numbers, but I acted like a total idiot and didn't ask them out as it was not the right time. No driving license, no place etc. So I said "let's wait till those obstacles are resolved"

• Thinking about settling down and arranged marriage

I know I will regret it but what can you do. Nothing worse and more despicable than being a 30 yo and still beating your d1ck and fapping to online pron. Dating and gaming requires you to have your sh1t together, which is not the case with me. Imma just marry a hot chick and pound the hell out of her, DAY AND NIGHT.

• Buying candies and eating poop food in order to escape depression

And wasting money in the process.

• Trapped in a retarded self-fulfilling prophecy

Getting a new haircut and looking like a hot boy, but I don't approach anyone due to the problems mentioned above. "Awesome she is the one I was looking for, but nah fvck it man I'm not approaching her as it would be pointless." Just getting a few gazes and smiles suffices, just like an attention hoe chick.

• VideoGaming and reading online junk in order to fill my time

Because I have nothing else to do. At first I chose solitude, but now I'm 100% isolated and alone. Back in the day I could not even imagine myself sitting behind a monitor and playing videogames. No one of my fvcking friends call or text, as if I'm dead and completely forgotten:yes:

• Not joining social media just to keep a mysterious and sexy image

Even though there are many old numbers who could miss me by seeing one of my hotter photos.

I don't want to sound harsh or rude but every single one of your bullet points has a simple straight forward common sense solution...

Everyone adult on this earth needs to have a job, so you get a job. That's just life.

You say you are spending hours playing video games etc and feel isolated. This is just pure laziness. If you had a job you would have structure, you would be making new friends and contacts and your social situation would start to change. Also your friends that you don't hear from would gain respect for you when they see you 'doing something'

You are in a toxic environment living with your family.. MOVE OUT. Find a room buddy, it could be a random person, treat it as an adventure. If you have to pay rent then pay rent. Just get out there and stand on your own 2 feet like a man should. Become independent.

You are walking around trying to see if girls are checking you out to gain self validation... Trying to appear mysterious and sexy to women. So you are dependent on what a woman thinks of you for your happiness. And you mention you want to get married... at 30.... (face palm)

This whole website is about trying to reach a level of enlightenment where you have an alpha mindset, where the ego is minimal and where women are a supplement and not a necessity.

Unless you have some deep social anxiety problems or clinical depression issues then you need to wake up, you are not having a meltdown, this is NOTHING. It sounds like you want to press a magic button and have everything made perfect for you rather than go through the process of dealing with life and addressing your problems. You want to be a man but don't want to step out the comfort zone. Men don't live in the comfort zone.

Stand in the mirror, give your self a slap in the face then get addressing your situation. You can handle this, its just small stuff.

Oh and exercise, it will increase your testosterone levels and make it easier to tackle your problems.

 

[yun-j]

Take action and fast.

 

[Reykhel]

wish you well

Great advice

 

[Suspens]

Side with the man.

Yeah gotta grow some bals and jump out of the comfort zone

You say you are spending hours playing video games etc and feel isolated. This is just pure laziness.

That is the case indeed, I even made a topic about it myself:crackup:

Unless you have some deep social anxiety problems or clinical depression issues then you need to wake up, you are not having a meltdown, this is NOTHING.

I used to have SA but got over it. The symptoms come back from time to time though.

It sounds like you want to press a magic button and have everything made perfect for you rather than go through the process of dealing with life and addressing your problems.

Yeah, doing nothing, expecting everything.

I moved back in with my mother and grand mother when the ex left me i stayed there 8 months i can't stand both of them they are negative very judgmental, and critical and even at my age 41 at that time they tried to manipulate and control me.

:crackup: Sometimes I wonder why are our parents, grandparents like that. I guess they have no respect for us due to our visible flaws.

Let these facts blow your mind and let the breakdown come, it won't kill you no matter how much it scares the sh!t out of you.

I'm just frustrated, I have to give up on everything for a while probably. I'm putting myself under so much pressure.

After 3 years I own a million Euros business, I'm twice as big as i used to be and I have fcked quite a lot of females.

You have to believe that you want to change otherwise it's gonna be only an idea

That's great mate, glad to see you are doing great. Once our engine is started nothing can stop us from achieving our dreams:rockon:

 

[guru1000]

Yup. Two words that can change your life:

Balls

Action

Do one thing a day to improve your situation.

 

[Serenity]

I'm just frustrated, I have to give up on everything for a while probably. I'm putting myself under so much pressure.

We're all under pressure, but some people handle it better because they know working to have it better is pointless if it makes things worse. We all need breaks to recharge. Grinding without stop with minimal energy will leave you incapable of making a huge push. Do things to build your energy for a while and don't allow yourself to feel guilty for not working on your problems, but don't forget what you're saving your energy for and don't waste it when you reach a point where you believe you can do it.

In my most pressured moments I resorted to complete isolation, I shut down completely and ceased all thinking. I stayed at home for 4 days straight (had enough food to not require leaving the house) and mindlessly played video games doing whatever the fvck I felt like doing. I had a huge amount of energy after that and I actually felt positively motivated to do the dirty work.

 

[Desdinova]

[*]Living in a toxic family inside an inherited house
If I move out I will be completely isolated and lonely. Also it is a big risk, my family has a few thousand bucks in their bank account so they can buy my share so I could GTFO. But I'm basically selling a house and renting one. Though I can open a new bank account and put the rest there and benefit from a 15%-20% annual interest rate, which could help as I'm unemployed.

Why the hell are you unemployed? Go get a job, then move out. Take your family's buy-out and take the money to an investor. Being "isolated and lonely" is a state of mind. According to your description, I'm also "isolated and lonely". However, I have a job, a gf, a vehicle, and a house. I live with my cat and sometimes my kid.

[*]Petrified to make a move on the chicks I'm interested in due to logistic issuesSo after a million days of sarging and daygaming I got a few numbers, but I acted like a total idiot and didn't ask them out as it was not the right time. No driving license, no place etc. So I said "let's wait till those obstacles are resolved"

Get your life together first before you get women. They are the least important thing on your list right now. Women won't take interest in a man who's got nothing going on for him. Your entire life starts with you.

[*]Thinking about settling down and arranged marriage
I know I will regret it but what can you do. Nothing worse and more despicable than being a 30 yo and still beating your d1ck and fapping to online pron. Dating and gaming requires you to have your sh1t together, which is not the case with me. Imma just marry a hot chick and pound the hell out of her, DAY AND NIGHT.

You are NOT guaranteed a hot chick, nor a compatible one through an arranged marriage. Furthermore, if you don't have your 5hit together by the time you're married, she's going to do nothing but nag you for being a lazy bum. Again, it all starts with you

Beating your d1ck has no consequences. You cannot get your hand pregnant. You cannot get an STD from your hand. Your hand won't dangle sex in front of you to get it's own way. Tell me where the bad is....

[*]Buying candies and eating poop food in order to escape depression
And wasting money in the process.

When you have no job, you have to eat poop food. Get a job and buy some real food.

[*]Trapped in a retarded self-fulfilling prophecy
[/LIST][/B]Getting a new haircut and looking like a hot boy, but I don't approach anyone due to the problems mentioned above. "Awesome she is the one I was looking for, but nah fvck it man I'm not approaching her as it would be pointless." Just getting a few gazes and smiles suffices, just like an attention hoe chick.

Again, women are the least of your problem right now. Quit looking good for them and get your own 5hit together first.

[*]VideoGaming and reading online junk in order to fill my time
Because I have nothing else to do. At first I chose solitude, but now I'm 100% isolated and alone. Back in the day I could not even imagine myself sitting behind a monitor and playing videogames. No one of my fvcking friends call or text, as if I'm dead and completely forgotten:yes:

Throw away your video games. They're addictive and prevent you from progressing. You could fill that time with finding a job so you can move out.

People are drawn to others who are positive and enrich their lives. You are not positive, nor are you enriching your friends' lives. That's why you never hear from them.

[*]Not joining social media just to keep a mysterious and sexy image
Even though there are many old numbers who could miss me by seeing one of my hotter photos.

You aren't mysterious and sexy if nobody misses you. You have to put yourself out there and get noticed for women to find you mysterious and sexy. If anything, I use social media to make myself more interesting and intriguing. I've had people get upset and hurt when I remove them from my friends list.

So I've told you what you need to do.... Get a job and move out. If your living situation is toxic, you need to get out of it because it's only going to continue sucking the life out of you. You cannot create an enjoyable environment for a woman if you cannot create an enjoyable environment for yourself. Fix that first, and everything will follow.

 

[zekko]

Where do you get 15-20% interest on a bank account?

 

[Suspens]

Women won't take interest in a man who's got nothing going on for him. Your entire life starts with you.

I always lied about my job.

People are drawn to others who are positive and enrich their lives. You are not positive, nor are you enriching your friends' lives. That's why you never hear from them.

I'm usually a fun person to be around.

You aren't mysterious and sexy if nobody misses you.

Yeah good point.

So I've told you what you need to do.... Get a job and move out. If your living situation is toxic, you need to get out of it because it's only going to continue sucking the life out of you.

My plan is to move out and leech off the intersest bucks and then gain expertise in whatever field I enjoy.

I had a huge amount of energy after that and I actually felt positively motivated to do the dirty work.

I khow what you mean. I wouldn't recommend playing video games as it depletes your energy and adds up to your frustration even more.


@Zekko: It's actually a financial/investment institute.

 

[Serenity]

I khow what you mean. I wouldn't recommend playing video games as it depletes your energy and adds up to your frustration even more.

There are exceptions, I wouldn't be playing online games or anything being high pressure. Point was that you do whatever regenerates your energy, I'm not saying "go play video games".

 

[Suspens]

There are exceptions, I wouldn't be playing online games or anything being high pressure. Point was that you do whatever regenerates your energy, I'm not saying "go play video games".

Yeah I was just talking from personal experience. Especially if it's a competitive online RTS.